Hey there. Could I pick your brain? I currently lean ESFP, but I've been struggling with my judging axis for years at this point. I'm confident that I'm Se-Ni. Current hobbies include surfing, photography, guitar, soccer, painting, etc. I have a sort of boundless physical energy and connection to the environment. My one big goal is to become a wildlife veterinarian. In the meanwhile I'm a field biologist, hopping from job to job every six months. But judging is harder for me to see. (1/?)
I enjoy problem solving, and I’m described as analytical, curious and resourceful; but I’m also very passionate. I’ve been using Ji for so long I can’t figure out if I derived my morals from logical assessments of the world or from.. just morals. I’m in science because I care about it – I wouldn’t be doing it just for fun. I’ve been a vegetarian for ten years. I have trouble controlling my emotions. I’m very passionate about what I do. That said, I do look outward at society. (2/?)
Gender roles, specifically, made me irate from a young age onward from the point that I literally decided to hate cooking because it was something I was expected to like. I’m currently 28, and dodge questions about ‘starting a family’ as much as possible. I’m good at public speaking, I make people laugh. But I also want society to see me as a competent scientist, and a good vet one day. Somebody once told me that you can still have strong beliefs as a Ti-dom or aux - that you just build (4/?)
hem through impersonal analysis and deciding whether that seems right or wrong at a broader level. But I can’t tell if I do that, or if my convictions are just important to me intrinsically. I do think physical evidence and backing up logic is important but.. I don't know. Do you have any insights? Thanks! (5/5, fin)
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Hi, not sure if there was a missing part 3 or just a miscount.
I do think you’re right about Se-dom, but I could go either way on this. You describe fairly normal healthy adult/Se-dom behaviors for the most part, so there’s nothing that jumps out. My guess is maybe Fi is more likely in that thinkers are often a little better at emotional control, and the desire to be seen as competent could come from a tert Te place, but I can’t rule out like, ESTP 3.
To cover a few things here: I know there’s a common idea that Fi morals come from within and Fe morals come from elsewhere, but we are all influenced by our environment. Fi users are more concerned about their morals being consistent, whereas Fe users are more concerned about their morals being shared/accepted.
What you said about gender roles could come from both a place of Fi or Ti; both are capable of that kind of stubbornness. And it is true that all people can have strongly held feelings and beliefs, and that it’s hard to tell how one’s own beliefs came to be.
I usually recommend taking a hard look at individualized vs. group perspectives when dealing with people to determine Fi vs. Fe if they’re not obvious, and also in your specific case it’s not bad to just look at dichotomy style thinker/feeler things - you can be analytical and emotional either way, but what is your preferred method? When you make big choices, what is your main impetus? And so on.
