One step back, five forward
So. Me and my guy had another huge argument about a week ago. Of course, it started out over something so simple a and got to the point of him yelling and Me drowning in my own tears but Luckily, after lots of my tears and some CALM talking we resolved the problem. But let me tell you why and how guys can make things worse or easier for a girl to communicate. 1) guys need to understand that they aren't the only ones who care and they aren't the only ones with stress. Communication is the key here. The less yelling and more patience equals a better resolution. Don't ever hold emotions in, but rather talk about how you are bothered and work together on it. Feeling alone, never helps anyone. Plus, you may find you both think the same way. 2) if there are any other girls like me out there, which I'm sure there are, guys need to actually listen to what she has to say, with no judgements. She may be guarded for a reason and you can't just push her till she cracks. Women don't work that way. Trust works with communication, honesty and spending time together. The more understanding you have of these, the stronger the feelings become. 3) guys need to be there. If she is psychotic, over dramatic, and crazy sometimes, don't constantly tell her. Just be there to calm her nerves or calm her mind. (Kissing and holding her hand can often distract her) this can be very useful if you plan on getting her pregnant one day. If you keep her calm, she probably won't rip off your head or balls. And dont forget to show your appreciation. She probably works hard to support you. No matter if it's emotional, financial or physical support. She is there. Just do the same. 4) make important decisions with her not for her or without her. This can be either how you strengthen or weaken the relationship. She wants to make decisions too, she was probably independent before you so don't try to tell her how to live her life, give her freedom but also be there if she needs you. Trust her and she will trust you. 5 ) give her romance. Show you care. Tease her, call her pretty, take her on a date, make her smile like she's never smiled before. And don't forget to prove you love her as often as you can. Keep reminding her and she will keep reminding you in return. 6) last but not least, both people in the relationship need to understand life isn't perfect, but in order to survive, we need to have hope and communication in the tough times. Coming from the girl in a long distance relationship, if it is meant to be it will be and just giving up over something small or simple usually won't help. So yeah, that is just some of my quick ideas on how to stay happy with someone you love. I can't say my man and i follow all of these all the time but learning is part of life and working together also strengthens us as a couple and a team. God knows how hard it is for two bipolar gemini's to be in a long distance relationship. But, happiness comes in all kinds of shapes, places, and ideas.