#unlocking us

[little-tiffany]

Whatever pain you can't get rid of, make it your creative offering.

Susan Cain, Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole

[mellomilopeng]

I am here to get things right, I am not here to be right.

Brene Brown

[maaarine]

Unlocking Us with Brené Brown: Brené on Anxiety, Calm + Over/Under-Functioning

“The idea that there are authentic people and not-authentic people does not bear out in the research.

There are people who choose authenticity and practice it every day and every hour, and there are people who don’t choose it.

[Similarly,] calm is a practice that you do or don’t practice.

Maybe some personalities lend themselves to it in a more supportive way, but we all have the ability to practice calm:

1) Try to be slow to respond and quick to think: do I have all the information I need to make a decision or form a response?

A lot of times, a panic- or anxiety-driven response is due to a lack of data. 

2) Stay mindful of the effect that calm has on anxious situations. A panicked response produces more panic and fear.

Harriet Lerner says that anxiety is extremely contagious, but so is calm.

Do we want to infect people with more anxiety? Or heal ourselves and the people around us with calm? 

If we choose to heal with calm, we have to commit to practicing it. (…)

I guess it comes down to mirror neurons. We mirror what we see, we match levels of intensity, of tone, of cadence of speech.

So if we have someone who reports to us with: ‘Oh my god, did you hear?!” And our response is: ‘No way, oh my god!’

We’re matching the cadence and tone of anxiety.

Really calm practitioners have a tendency to ratchet down the tone, the cadence, and the volume.”

MBTI: Brené Brown: ENFJ

[little-tiffany]

I don't think people understand the physical toll that emotional labor takes.

Brené Brown, Unlocking Us on Spotify

[maaarine]

MBTI & Podcast episodes

NT Content (Tim Ferriss: ENTJ, Kara Swisher: ENTJ)

Recode Decode: Tim Ferriss: You’re not Isaac Newton! Give yourself a break for being unproductive right now.

“Bestselling author, investor, and podcaster Tim Ferriss talks with Recode's Kara Swisher about his advice for people coping with the coronavirus quarantine, which includes giving yourself slack for being unproductive, afraid, and fatigued;

the crucial difference between fast decisions and rushed ones;

and why the pandemic crisis is a "natural culling of the herd" for businesses in a "bloated capitalist system" that have no resilience.”

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NF Content (Brené Brown: ENFJ)

Unlocking Us with Brené Brown: Dr. Vivek Murthy and Brené on loneliness and connection

“Have you ever struggled with feeling lonely - even when you’re surrounded by people you love? I have. It’s painful and confusing.

In this episode, I talk to Dr. Vivek Murthy, a physician and the 19th Surgeon General of the United States, about loneliness and the physical and emotional toll that social disconnection takes on us.”

[jerfusipse]

19 de mayo de 2025

"Our armouring up process [...] the greatest barrier to courage is not fear, [it] is our armour, it is how we self protect when we're afraid. Let's say I get defensive, let's say I went into this armouring up. [...] [The first stage] "I'm not enough" [...] [and the last stage] "Now that I think about it, I'm actually better than them".

That wallk [between these stages] is no walk. [...] "I'm better than people" and "I'm not good enough" is the exact same standing still position of pain and shame.

Shame resilience: Fully moving through shame while maintaining "your authenticity, [...] coming out [...] with more courage, more compassion, feeling more deeply connected".

--Brené Brown, en Unlocking us, ep. Brené on shame and accountability.

[dancingaroundtheworld]

VP Kamala Harris on Courageous Leadership and Winning in 2024

Podcast Episode · Unlocking Us with Brené Brown · 10/28/2024 · 1h 4m

Yesterday what we witnessed in New York City was so dark and ugly. Here is an antidote to it. Please listen. This is the leader we need right now.