How are we doing with our hayaa [modesty]?
Are we conscious enough about it? We have to admit to ourselves that most of the time we don't give so much consideration about it. Astagfirullah.
Why? because we blame it to the society we live in, the environment we are dwelling in, well I am telling you that it is not the society, but it is again your own desire and you justify your actions by blaming the society. Which is very lame.
I wanted to point out that hayaa doesn't only cover the aspect of clothing but also the words we speak the way we walk, our actions all of these are coinciding with the virtue of hayaa, hence there should be a great amount of responsibility of it within us.
That is why I wanted to share this beautiful story of 'Uthman Ibn Affan Radiyallahu Anhu which tells you how best he was on adorning himself with modesty.
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It is really a fact that being modest is not an easy thing to continuously do, unless you are a person with great perseverance and strong faith.
'Uthman Ibn Affan was one of the most modest men during the Khair ul Qurun [era of the Sahabah], and indeed he became famous because of this character.
Actually, it is said that he was in such intense modesty that Al Hassan Al Basri said:
"He ['Uthman] would be in a house with the door closed, and he would not take off his garment in order to pour water on himself, and modesty would prevent him from standing up straight."
Some narration also said that he would be shy enough to even change his garments within the corners of his own room.
Also, another example of his modesty was narrated by Bananah [a slave woman of 'Uthman's wife]. She said:
"When 'Uthman bathed, I would bring him his garment and he would say: Do not look at me, for that is not permissible for you."
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Ma sha Allah! Look at the modesty of this great caliph, and he is a man at this point.
O my brothers and sisters in Islam, there is so much wisdom behind the modesty of 'Uthman and such a great amount of reminder and reflection that brings about for us.
Some points to ponder about:
1) We should be modest enough even for ourselves.
Look at 'Uthman even in his own house, he is shy enough to change garments, while most of us when we are in our own rooms we do not care anymore. We should also should be careful because there will always be the waswas of Shaitan.
2) In the presence of nonmahram or other people, our modesty should be intensified and we should know well the boundary of what is it to be shown or said.
The story of the modesty of 'Uthman with the female slave Bananah should remind us that there are parts of our bodies that are not permissible for other people to look at, especially nonmahrams.
Or even when we are with friends, we should not talk about things that are about our families or that are of topics that should not be talked about, there should always be the presence of hayaa within us.
3) Limitation
As we speak, as we act and mingle with our friends or fellow brothers and sisters in deen, we should always be reminded of the limitations that we have.
What we show, what we say we all have to keep it in limitation.
Being silent isn't saying you're all modest, because the actions may show different from how we speak, and that is why we all should try to reflect and ponder about our actions and ask ourselves, are they in harmony with my language or is what I say in harmony to what I do or act... and this kind of harmony is what the Sahabah had perfected.
So always remember that we should all adorn ourselves with the fragrance of modesty and that if we were to guard ourselves with modesty then let it be like how 'Uthman did. in sha Allah
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And we pray that with the story of 'Uthman we become more conscious about how we deal with our modesty and that Allah Azza Wa Jall helps us on working on harmonizing our actions with our speech. Amin
Zohayma
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Stories taken from:
• 'Uthman Ibn Affan, Sadiq 'Arjun, p. 48,49
• Saheeh At Tawtheeq fi Seerah wa Hayat Dhi'n Noorayn, p. 43
• Tabaqat Ibn Sa'd, 3/59