#validating suggestions

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Communication with emotionally immature people usually feels one-sided. They aren’t interested in reciprocal, mutual conversations. Like young children, they crave exclusive attention and want everyone to be interested in what they find engaging.

If other people are getting more attention, they find ways to draw attention back to themselves, such as interrupting, firing off zingers that get everybody’s attention, or changing the subject.

If all else fails, they may pointedly withdraw, look bored, or otherwise communicate that they’re disengaged—behaviors that ensure the focus stays on them.

- Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, Lindsay C Gibson

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some lovely breathing exercises from this website

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small domestic self care things:

unloading and/or reloading dishwasher

doing some stretches

folding, washing and/or unloading laundry

a nice long bath or shower

cleaning/organizing one part of your room

journaling

having something nice to eat and focusing on how it tastes

drinking water throughout the day

doing some breathing exercises or a body scan

reading something you enjoy

making some nice smelling tea/hot chocolate and letting the mug warm your hands

naming some nice things you’ve done for yourself or others

making a scarf or a flower crown or moodboard or anything, just for the sake of creation

light that candle you’ve been saving for later!!

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self care is going outside even if it’s to sit in the sun and nap, or read, or listen to music if taking a walk is too much 🌄

but it’s also being kind to yourself and not forcing yourself to do things- trying to find ways to encourage yourself without judgement 🌌

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nobody can tell you what you should feel. how you should react. that word carries so much judgement, how about we try to stop using it

why do you think you should be different or react differently? nobody has the authority to tell you how you should be because they don’t live your life. they aren’t you

they’re judging you by someone else’s standards and not seeing you for the unique and wonderful person you really are 💎

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you are enough 🦋

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no emotions arent intrinsically good or bad. they may be painful, but they are there to tell you something is going on. an “overreaction” is usually just a judgement of your emotions by someone else's standards. your emotions are always valid, no matter how ridiculous they may seem

you can and will learn to live with them and learn from them if you can find the balance between bottling them up and clinging to them. try to hold them at arms length and observe them. don't push them away, don't get too absorbed, and know they will eventually pass 💜

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can’t get enough of these adorable mindfulness animations