Mama Bree: As a vet tech I can give you a whole bunch of reasons why an older cat and kitten wont get along well. One thing that helped my kitties ( I have a 3 yr old boy and at the time a 7 week kitten) I used a calming spray (all safe) for help them get along its called FELIAWAY took them 3 days and they were just fine, make sure older kitty knows she/he is still loved by possibes giving them their own space and cuddle time while kitten is else where. This helped us out a lot
Yup yup. I’ve been through this with previous cats at my family’s home. Havoc is about 1 1/2 years, Penny is about 8 months. So there’s not a HUGE age gap, but it’s enough to make a difference, especially when Havoc has been an only child for a full year.
We did get a calming spray (not Feliway, it was too expensive) and we’re introducing them slowly, and making sure Havoc has TONS of love and attention and a safe room where Penny does not go yet. (She’s staying in the bathroom with her own supplies currently.)
So yeah...time will tell. I’ve seen cats that literally fought to the point of drawing blood learn to be friends, and ours are nowhere near that bad.