the beauty with venus square ascendant natives? I feel like a lot of us don't realize how beautiful we truly are physically.
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[Below Cut: How to Help Venus-Square-ASC]
I’m going to touch on how to help them if that’s ok?? I think it will encompass the ‘beauty with venus-square-asc’ part, but this will also provide a way to identity the problem and ways to help themselves as well 💕
First thing first is other people’s perspective and identifying the main thing about this aspect
Y know, cause the main thing about Venus-Square-ASC is that they tend to be in their head alot, so gaining different perspective might help with restructuring/reclaiming themselves too
It’s just that Venus-Square-Asc may tend to see things from their own perspectives, be in their mind, can be quite stubborn or ‘feel’ like other people’s perspective/ideas/philosophy doesn’t apply to themselves for some reason
It be like ‘yeah I see with what you’re saying, but I can’t bring myself to be that way’ because they’re?? stubborn and subconsciously torture themselves without realizing that they don’t have to
Ya’ll being too ‘practical’ (or emotional depending on where you are on the spectrum) for your own good.
Anything not validated/supported by the material world isn’t something you could do? or pursue?
Sometimes they be having the hardest problems with accepting other people’s opinions and perspective on beauty, understanding how to accept compliments from others without judging or learning new things through others (socially)
They may sometimes be trying really hard (maybe consciously or subconsciously) to separate the ‘self’ (ASC) away from what they’ve learnt through others (Venus)— like ‘thats not me’ without seeing the values/lessons they could gain from actually putting the ‘self’ into the ‘others’ instead
(Taking the first step to just– try out/really try to integrate what others are saying without judging it first or declining it immediately in regards to self-love/care/help)
Anyways, all this leads to stagnancy/stubbornness. Friction between the two causes the person to perhaps undervalue themselves, or feel like they have to go about achieving/over-coming it in a different way than the conventional.
Catch themselves how ‘physical’ beauty becomes a thing they fear to acknowledge, or thinking about how they come across to others in a certain way (one-way) leaves them to feel discomfort– always striving to be ‘more’ than just that, more than just what people see on first impression
Their energy is focused on just being ‘more’ than a pretty face, more than who others say they are. This may lead them to be critical of other’s opinions/philosophies as well, acts like a barrier now. Making a name/being confident in themselves/building up their ego— comes with a territory of defensiveness and unwillingness to accept any other perspective besides their own (*if they’re really on that path, depends on the person)
The problem here is that they’re not confronting the core of the problem. Which is their dissatisfaction with the ASC/Venus. Everything becomes retaliation instead of accepting help/support/constructive criticism. Why are they dissatisfied? Do they not think they’re conventionally beautiful? Do they think it’ll not last? Do they undervalue themselves and try to compensate for it in other areas?
Confronting the issue is key to dealing with it in a better way, because if left untouched they could lean too much on one side and see the other as a ‘weakness’— a vulnerability they’re trying to make up for, over-compensate for without actually trying to resolve the problem until it eats them up inside and become a falling tower.
So yeah, please make sure to think about how this Venus-ASC is happening for you— sometimes it can just be an inability to accept other people’s advice and integrate it fully in relation to the self.
Sometimes it’s to do with the inner-core: not realizing their beauty and thus focusing so much on other aspects of their personality/traits that they try to ‘bury’ the problem under something else (to make up for it).
In both cases, Venus-ASC people would learn a lot by really trying to understand/integrate other people’s responses/philosophy to themselves. Really just actively try. Mars kind of trying (action, not thinking so much about it/trying to figure it all out, but instead just putting it there and then rolling with it. Test it out.)
Imagine Venus-ASC as like a Capricorn or Aquarius– not that they have to be in those placements, but they sure as hell be acting like one underneath it all.
Stubborn, ambitious, hard-working and doesn’t like to lose ‘stability’. Well that ‘stability’ of the ‘self’ is going to topple if they don’t realize how to really listen to other people y know.
There’s always this thing where they’re there for others, but don’t let others be there for them. They’re ready to provide, loyal to the core, proves their strength when others vulnerable right now (to protect them).
But Venus-ASC people– just like Capricorn/Aquarius placements– have to learn how to even out the load. How to actually let others help them, or grow into learning ‘other’ ways of self-love/self-care for themselves as well.
Their ‘one-way’ isn’t always the only ‘right’ way. It’s only going to leave them ‘stranded’ if they don’t learn how to integrate and become ‘more’ than just themselves (through nurture/growth)
So for those who has Venus-ASC aspect, here’s a list of things that will help them with their pursuit of happiness/beauty/love:
Don’t suppress, confront the core of the problem. What’s the thing you feel is the weakness? Is it to do with your behaviour? Is it to do with physicality? What do you really think is the core of it all?
Not everything is ‘my way or no way’ – let others guide you, be there for you. Let them prove themselves to be worthy of supporting you. If you can’t see beyond the dark tunnel, let someone else be the light that guides you.
Sometimes, taking a break and just learning from other areas of life tends to help. Take a breather, learn how to get in touch with your emotionality, learn how to emphasize/really be emotional– instead of letting others be emotional and you having to stay strong (or vice versa). You don’t have to be anything – those are just guidelines you’ve set for yourself, and it’s not always good for you.
If you identify too much with one thing, make sure to get to know the other as well. A person can emphasize a lot with their ASC and not so much with their Venus or vice versa (within this aspect). What the core of the problem is, is that they may ‘miss’ important details about the thing they identify with most because they’re blinded by their pride/dependency on it instead.
Your social identity/self-confidence isn’t the be all in all for you. Other people can appreciate so much more than that. Being known for being ‘that one friend/person’ who is a certain ‘something’ for others isn’t going to be fair to you.
You’re trying to control how people see you by setting the ‘dimension’ to something else you prefer to be seen as/have control over. That’s not fair to you, who is worthy of getting praised for so many different areas of life if you just let them surprise/appreciate you for other things you may not realize yourself as well.
Being vulnerable, as honest and truthful as you are to yourself, is going to help you love/appreciate yourself more as well. There’s no shame in showing others that you’re a whole person who deserves more than what you’ve constructed.
If you let yourself see this, others will come to help you.
For those who don’t have the same problem, or have worked to overcome them. Trying to find balance between not pushing too much weight on your Venus or ASC might be the key. Try to balance them, pull back and see how they’re working together– instead of separately as well.
Venus-ASC people have alot of purpose to them, alot of charm that they don’t tend to realize they exert strongly. It’s a magnetism that square aspect brings, that other people are attracted by. However, they only primarily notice their ambition, their goals, their method and motive.
Allow yourself to see other people’s perspective, learn how to ask people to explain their compliment/praises if you want. Really try to get a better idea of how people see you, and that will help you see less of a ‘my way no way’ perspective as well. 💕
I hope this helps 💕💕 Sorry this isn’t like, a list of good things about them. Mostly I was more concerned with how to get to that for the Venus-ASC person who might be having a hard time, without soft-balling them/distracting from the problem they need to address anyways. 💕 I hope this helps! 💕