Has Your Significant Other Passed The Test?
Fact: Behavior is learned. Not ALL behavior, but some is... We learn to test the limits as we grow older. As a baby, out the womb, by nature, we know that when we cry we get what we NEED, of course, because there is nothing else you CAN do. Once we grow as a baby, we learn that Mom or Dad will hold or give us what we WANT if we shed a few tears.
As a child, we already know what we can get away with. If we throw a temper tantrum, cry, pout or whine, eventually we'll get what we want. Not only do we test our parents, we also test our teachers. Within the first few weeks of school, we try to see how far we can go and try to push it as far as we can.
Once we get older and get in relationships, we even try to see what our significant others will let us get away with. We have to see what works, we don't even realize we do it sometimes.
The gold digger may try to see what all she can get out of a man financially. The spoiled brat may try to see what she can do to get her way. The controller will try and control different situations until they are in full control. The cheater will try and see how low and weak their significant other is to see how far they can go with their cheating ways... and if they will stay. We test the relationship and if our other half does not let us get away with it all, we change OR find someone that will.
When you start complaining about the person that you are with, remember, you passed their test, so don't be upset. A person will only do what you ALLOW them to do.