#waltzingtostars

[jackharkness]

Red's 1.3K FOLLOWERS CELEBRATION @waltzingtostars requested: Henry Goodsir from The Terror (2018)

[thekenobee]

Iris for the flower asks!

Oooh, I did a double take because I really really didn't want to get this question as I couldn't possibly narrow it down😂

But, let's try!

*tries*

It's all coming back to me now- Celine Dion

Livin la Vida Loca- Ricky Martin

All Star- Smash Mouth

I will always love you- Whitney Houston

My heart will Go on- Celine Dion

[forthegothicheroine]

Bookish asks: 3, 6, 13?

3. Are there any genres you will not read?

Not “never”, but I’ve almost always been disappointed by spaceship military scifi.  I just can’t keep up to understand the jargon, and the plots very rarely grab me.

6. Are you the type of person who will read a book to the end whether you like it or not, or will you put it down straight away if you’re not feeling into it?

I used to be the first kind, but I’m working on transitioning to the second kind.  I just keep reminding myself that I’m not doing a book report for school, there are more enjoyable books I could be reading.  I may still force myself if something’s supposed to be a classic or important.

13. How do you chose which book to read next?

Normally it’s just what I’m in the mood for, but I’m in a small town now where the library is closed and there is no brick and morter bookstore, so I’m trying to read books I already have or books that I can get as library ebooks.  I do sometimes buy something new from bookshop.org, even though I shouldn’t...

[goatsandgangsters]

7, 32 and 36 for the trans ask meme! (also for future reference: if you ever want to chat about gender stuff, my inbox and messages are open, jsyk)

7. What is your favorite part of being transgender?

It really opened up such a world of choice for me. Everyone is given a particular script about who they’re supposed to be, how they’re supposed to do relationships, what we’re supposed to look like and be interested in and how we express ourselves and what we do with our lives and who we do our lives with and what we prioritize. My opinion has always been that the business of queerness is rooted in identifying what these scripts are and actually asking, Is this what I want and does this work for me? Questioning my gender is what opened up this whole world of questions in the first place. And if I had gone my life without asking those questions, trying to be “good” by following the script perfectly, I would have been so much less happy, so much less whole. Part of myself would have always been shoved aside and buried. 

I love that I had the opportunity to metaphorically dump everything related to gender and bodies on the floor—both big things and small—and finally start to ask, But what do I actually want? 

32. How do you see yourself identifying and presenting in 5 years?

On the one hand, 5 years is a ways away and we’re always changing and evolving in ways we couldn’t have predicted. So I expect some things will be different in 5 years—probably in ways that I don’t expect now, but with hindsight will make so much sense. 

For comparison, 5 years ago, I kept telling myself it was pointless to be out as nonbinary, because that would just “invite scrutiny and harassment.” 9 years ago, I was sitting in my dorm room panicking because I realized I wasn’t a woman but didn’t know what the fuck else to do about it. 

But in the grand scheme of things, I don’t honestly foresee my gender identity changing much or drastically in the coming years. Honestly, my understand of my gender has been pretty consistent since I first began questioning it. The difference is just that I have more information, I can articulate it better, I’ve answered a lot of those questions for myself. But when I look back on that point in 2012–2013 when I was first drowning in my own questioning process, I can see a very clear line between then and now. My first question was over whether I was a trans man or genderqueer, and I’ve settled in a place of nonbinary transmasculinity that feels like the natural middle point between those two options. I expect that my understanding of myself and my gender will continue to grow and evolve, but I really don’t think it will drastically change. My process has been a long and drawn out one, for sure, but it has never been one of drastic change—it’s more been about gradually allowing myself to accept and be what I already knew I was. 

THOUGH, IN TERMS OF PRESENTATION, THERE IS ONE CHANGE I EXPECT: I am going to have a totally new relationship with shirts. I’ve told myself to put shirt-buying on hold until I have top surgery expressly for this reason, because the way that I choose shirts is going to change—not in terms of style, per se, but in terms of fit. I cannot WAIT until “how well does this minimize my chest” isn’t a major factor in my choices for shirts and jackets. I’ll still prefer a masculine-cut shirt, but I might even end up going a size down, because if it fits tighter across my chest, that will no longer be a bad thing!!!! I’m overjoyed at the prospect, tbh. I’M GOING TO HAVE A NEW RELATIONSHIP TO WEARING SHIRTS AND IT’S GOING TO BE SO GOOD!!!!!!

To memeify it a little bit, once I can wear a tight men’s shirt, it’s over for you hoes. 

36. What, if any, is the difference between your gender identity and your gender expression?

For the most part, I would say that my gender identity and gender expression are pretty congruent. It’s been a gradual process, but I do feel like my wardrobe and grooming choices by and large reflect my identity to me. 

Although, because I’m working with a canvas that people incorrectly perceive to be ~~feminine, I do need to overcorrect my gender expression to be more masculine to counterbalance it. (Not that it even works most of the time. Cis people will ignore blatant cues like short hair and 100% masculine clothing from the men’s section but still be like “hm but I’m going to confidently call you ma’am without any hesitation”)

In unfortunate reality, most of the people I encounter in life probably view me as a masculine woman. But in truth, I’m less of a masculine woman and more of a soft man. (Not that I’m either binary, but you get my point.) I still prefer masculine dress and masculine style overall, but if I didn’t have to overcorrect for how people interpret my body, I might have more freedom to play with a little more flamboyance in my gender expression sometimes—to be “man androgynous” instead of “woman androgynous.” 

[Trans ask game! What has been your gender journey?]

[thekenobee]

Peach and lavender!

AHH, Thank You! Since I couldn't decide which GIF should I use I used them ALL

[jackharkness]

For the bookish asks: 1, 13, 23?

1. Which book would you consider the best book you’ve ever read and why?

Ughhhhhh this is actually a hard question... There's this one that I read over and over when I was a teenager and that probably had a heavy impact on me, but it's not necessarily the best book ever. It's called Cronache Del Mondo Emerso (by Licia Troisi). It's a trilogy, and I think the best one is the first. But The Lord Of The Rings gets a special mention because I love it so much.

13. How do you chose which book to read next?

Ehmmmm... Recently I've bought three or four books because they have been made into TV shows - and I wanted to know more about the story. But they're the exception. Especially with biographies and history books I look them up on the Internet and I try to find out if they're well researched, who the author is, how are they structured... And then I buy them.

23.Nicest edition or cheapest edition?

NICEST EDITION F YEAH no but really. It depends. I have a thing for pretty covers but I also have to save money lol. So I'd say that the nicest edition is for my faves, cheapest is for super specific books that I'll only read once or twice.

Thanks for asking! (bookish meme)

[jackharkness]

4, 17, and 28 for the music asks!

Louise sorry if it took me so long to answer you 😭

4. name 1-3 LEAST favorite songs off one of your favorite albums

"Everybody Gets High" and "I Don't Even Care About You" from LONER (Missio).

17. if you could go back in time and attend any artist/band’s concert that you were unable to attend, who would it be and when?

I'd love to go back in time and see Frank Sinatra performing live.

18. name a song (or a few songs) that would need to be included in a movie about your life

... Shit by Bo Burnham 😂

in all seriousness, I think that "Where I'm Coming From" by Bronze Radio Return and N.I.B. by Black Sabbath HAVE to be included at some point 😊

ASK ME MUSIC ASKS!

[sircarolyn]

2, 5, and 34 for the music asks!

2. an album you wish you could hear again for the first time:

bastille wild world

3. name an album you feel is perfect:

bastille wild world hayley williams flowers for vases/descansos

34. pick one of your favorite bands/artists and choose a song by them that you associate with each season:

i have chosen radical face!

spring: secrets (cellar door)

summer: baptisms

autumn: the crooked kind

winter: nightclothes

music asks!