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ADHD & Resources

ayantiel

I can absolutely recommend watching "the neuroanatomy of ADHD" by Russel Barkley, you can find the entire thing on youtube and I found it very informative in both explaining common issues and where they come from, and also giving direction in how to address those or where to start looking for coping mechanisms

Oh, thanks for the recc! Readers, part one is here. I’ll check it out! (Probably while doing something else with my hands. :D)

froofie

I do not have ADHD, but you mentioning needing something MENTAL to do when focusing on like meetings, etc...reminded me that I have ALWAYS, AUTOMATICALLY done the person speaking's hair in my head. I have zero interest in becoming a hairdresser. But my brain will brush hair or straighten hair or shave someone's face. It's very soothing actually.  This isn't to suggest that you do this, but I am reminded that it's something I just....do.

It’s a fun idea though. A lot of times if I don’t have to be on video I’ll do cross-stitch or assemble very simple "microblock” toys (my parents gave me this set as a gift a while ago). If I have to be on video usually I’m either leading the meeting or taking notes, and taking notes does a pretty good job of keeping me paying attention. I’m never sure if I’m supposed to allow as much digression as I do when I’m leading a meeting, but usually the meeting is like me and three people at work I really like, so. A five minute digression into childrearing (they all have kids at different ages so it’s helpful for them to compare notes) isn’t gonna kill anyone. 

wandererriha

Mood. I have employed about all the life hacks I can manage. I refer to it as “stacking dominos” in that I am setting things up for Future!Riha to knock down later. This includes things like a laundry triage system that takes place at the hamper, packing lunch and prepping breakfast the night before, to making my own diy blister pack of supplements for the week.

Oh, I do the laundry triage and the make-your-own-pill pack too! I use a pillbox -- it’s hard to find a bit because it’s Japanese, but the Container Store makes a similar one that I’m loving for travel.

I never thought about meal prep as an ADHD thing but I suppose the massive stack of identically-sized tupperwares that used to populate my fridge when I worked outside the house should have been a clue. 

shamelesslymkp

hey! my dad also got diagnosed with ADHD later in life, and I'm not sure if he'd already started doing this or started later, but what he does in meetings etc. is origami, which is kind of a mix between a body and brain fidget. the reason I bring it up - I know you do origami! - is because of the reactions he's gotten - if you doodle in meetings, people get annoyed. because he does origami and gives them to people, everyone thinks it's just a super cool quirk!

Oh that’s a good one! I used to do origami in part because I was a receptionist and it was something to do when nobody needed me (which was often). I’ve only got two or three “figures” memorized but if I memorized a few more I bet that would work pretty well.  

froggybangbang

Dunno if she's been recced to you but catieosaurus has good stuff about papers on adhd on youtube.

Oh good to know! I’ll check her out. Though I do find it a bit funny that ADHD makes watching youtube rather difficult and yet that seems to be where all the resources are. At least they’re not instructional.... 

I do absolutely understand why so much is on YouTube, because talking to a camera is significantly easier than writing up a document with diagrams and such, but good lord I hate video instructionals. 

killerzebras

Could you link to the resources people suggested, or maybe point to the posts where the suggestions were made? I don't have my shit together anywhere near as well as you do and I'm always looking for things that might help.

I’ve added links to a couple of new reccs above, and also I was recommended “How To ADHD” (specifically I was watching this one about Target). I was recommended a number of books but most of them I can’t find in a quick jaunt through my history, so The Smart But Scattered Guide To Success is the only one I can link. I haven’t read it because it looked like it answered a question I already answered for myself a while ago but it comes highly recommended. 

If you have the time/ability, I’d look through comments and reblogs-with-notes on my posts in the “Sam Has ADHD” tag. There are definitely other resources recommended there in various places but also just the comments in general may be helpful. GOOD LUCK! 

[ladykf-writes]

To Save the Future, CH11: Triggered

by LadyKF & WandererRiha

Ao3 Link

Summary: Sometimes you didn't know you'd overstepped until you were already in deep.

Excerpt:

"Who's your uncle, if I may ask? Is he part of the military?" He couldn't remember any other gingers on staff. There were blondes and brunettes aplenty, but red was a color almost unheard of on Eos.

"You may ask, but you may not like it," Genesis warned, glancing at him a touch warily. He'd heard enough from Ardyn to assume he wouldn't, anyway. "But no, not part of the military. He's very active in politics, though... which is fair, I nearly was myself before life took me down a different road. I'm... a little surprised you haven't heard, admittedly. Not that I pay any attention to gossip myself, but some things I'd think would be unavoidable for a man of station."

Or at least, it certainly had been when he was a commander.

Ravus' brows twisted in confusion. Wouldn't like it? Ravus wasn't sure what to make of that. Unless the man were somehow related to Glauca - Ravus shuddered mentally - and Genesis seemed too old for that. Ravus could not immediately think of anyone else who would have reason to be in the Keep to whom Genesis could be related.

Wait. Man of station. The wording wasn't quite right, but it niggled something in the back of his memory.

"He's more of a father to me than the man that sired me, really. But..." Here, Genesis flashed a tight, almost apologetic smile. "I've been told you're not quite so fond of my Uncle Ardyn?"

[aftepes]

@wandererriha I had an idea for your ultimate rair-pair Sephiroth and Elfe OTP.

First dates.

Considering the number of rumors that had gone around during his period of bizarre fame during the Wutai war, there were two schools of thought on the dating life of the great general, Sephiroth. Either he had never once in his life even considered the idea of a date, never wanted to, never had the idea to, or half of SOLDIER had been romantically connected to him, and a fair few Turks. There was no in between.

The first was right. He had made it to his early thirties without even once considering the idea of a date. Now, he had to plan and execute one to impress the most impressive woman he had ever met.

But Elfe was a warrior, a fighter, the same as him. He had no idea if she had ever dated, but she was too brilliant, too beautiful to have gone without interest from a variety of suitors. So she must know already what a proper date would look like.

He wracked his mind for things she would like. Dinner was too easy, and besides, neither of them was particularly fond of decadent meals. Food was more a necessity, sometimes enjoyable to make, but otherwise unimportant. She hated the theater, called it pretentious and boring. He considered a hike, even went as far as to research trails and interesting sights, but he realized soon after that taking Elfe out into the wilderness was likely to set her on edge, make her feel like he might attack.

It was a training exercise the Turks held that gave him the idea. They found ways to go into battle, real weapons, no holograms, that didn't end in blood or missing limbs.

"Paintball?" Elfe asked. "What even is that?"

"According to the suits, you get a rifle, but it shoots paint instead of ammunition. Kind of like a training exercise. We, we don't have to if you don't-"

"Give me the gun, Seph. You're going down."

Her smile was everything. Even as he found himself coated in balls of bright orange paint, barely managing to skim her scuffed army jacket with his own neon green bullets. He'd never been good with a gun. She seemed to find all the makeshift plywood hiding spots, laughing with delight every time the paint splattered across him. Playful though it was, it was battle nonetheless, and he began to treat it as such, watching her for patterns, a wicked smile beginning to spread across his face.

He got her from above, climbing down the rafters of the massive outdoor structure, and aiming, sending array after array of green paint onto her. But she grabbed his ankle, yanked him down. They found themselves in a tussle on the sandy ground, smearing paint all over each other, until she did something that shocked him.

Folding her hands into the messy, paint wet bun of his hair, she kissed him.

[inevitablesurrender]

Funny you should mention that, because not even a full 24 hours after the first picture...

Sproing sound effect, etc.  ...I think they both gained another fucking inch, too.  ...What have I done.

I can only tell you what I did and apparently it’s been... working out.

Buy a random healthy-looking ginger root at the grocery store

Let it dry out on a counter for about 2 weeks

Place it in a shallow bowl and fill with water until a little over halfway up the ginger root; change out water daily, occasionally flip over for about a week before planting

Absolutely fucking guess as to which way the stalks are going to grow, though apparently it’ll self-correct without too much problem

Place in a pot, just cover with well-draining soil so no part of the root is exposed (I used a succulent/citrus soil)

Keep it in a warm place with bright indirect light, keeping the soil moist but not wet; I used a terra cotta pot and currently water it once a day to make sure it’s not too wet or too dry because apparently they can rot easily but need the water and humidity

Wonder what you did right but refuse to live in fear of the tall weird grass growing right outside your door

Ta-da I guess..?

[kingofthenorth]

@wandererriha a réagi à votre billet : Seriously had to look up popular starbucks drinks...

I did three years hard labor at the busiest Starbucks in PA. No lie, vanilla latter, caramel macchiato, and mocha Frappuccino were the top three drinks in that order. I’d also have at least one guy my dad’s age who had been dragged there by his kids ask “don’t you have any coffee flavored coffee?”

god I don’t even know what a caramel macchiato or mocha frappuccino is

aside from the presumable presence of caramel in that first one

[themossstomper]

favorite fic tag of the day:

like madly chipping flint and steel and screaming "BURN BLAST YOU!!!"

[itspileofgoodthings]

wandererriha replied to your post:

the technical term is "Kindred Spirit"  ;}

she is 100% of the race that knows Joseph it’s TRUE.

[bonesbuckleup]

Replies and boring food/diet talk under the cut peace.emoji

@wandererriha (it won’t let me tag you???) Good to hear from someone who got some good out of it!  If I end up giving it a go I’m planning on the first week being before my semester starts just in case I am real cranky for exactly that reason.  I’m also kind of scared I’ll for sure learn that my family’s wheat issues have caught up to me at last...but as much as I love apple fritters I think I’d love not having constant drainage (tmi sorryyyyy) in the back of my throat every day.

@kittyorleans Oh for sure, I can see where it would be a Bad Idea for someone with a history of EDs.  Luckily my food issues mostly stem from learned generational habits (that I’ve been working to unlearn the past 3-4 years) and never really having been taught portion control as a kid (which I’ve been working to learn in the same time frame!).  But good to hear someone else saw the kind of allergy related results that I’d like to see.  I’m in it more for curiosity/info gathering than weight loss.

@majorgenerally Dang, that’s good to know! I never really had acne or pimples until I was 24, and now I get breakouts a couple of times a year. Don’t get me wrong, I’m definitely not complaining as I’ve been super lucky in the skin department, but I’m just kind of curious! Yogurt and cheese aside, I don’t eat a lot of dairy though.  Honestly, like I said above, I’m considering it mostly from a curiosity stand point