when feeling like giving up. being mad at yourself and hating your life and being emotionally exhausted please remember:
don't compromise your values. if you do, it will fuck up your sense of their importance. your values are yours and should be important to you lots, and you have the right to express that. live by your values openly with those who accept them. don't show/discuss all them with ppl who don't even tolerate them, and try to not interact with these ppl in general.
don't save ppl who never stated if they want to be saved. chances are the more often your worrying and trying to save them, the more they will get used to it and will take you for granted. plus mostly they will take more than give cuz it's easier for them than help you with your stuff too. lastly they gonna stop trying fix their issues if you're always here for it, they will get used it's your job not theirs.
take care not "only" about your body. observe your emotional needs and care for them. don't ignore how things and ppl with toxic energy affect you, limit your time with them to the lowest possible. go for a walk not "just" for physical health, but also for reseting and cleaning your mind, for grounding yourself, for simply connecting with the nature, for searching inspiration and purpose about your goals.
don't always go for comfort the moment things fall apart. you can face them i promise. you gonna find a way out by going through them. deep breath, don't panic, don't dissociate, don't distract yourself, don't runaway. imagine these things as smaller tasks to do. uncover them one by one and pick one(!) that's the easiest to solve atm. see, you can do it. simply observe the pattern, and pick the smallest element that makes it repeat, remove that element. you're amazing. you did take care of your problem by yourself and it wasn't the hardest most complicated one but rn you proved slowly you gonna do better and solve the bigger ones someday.
allow yourself to scream when frustrated. if it works for kids to help them express things, chances are it will work for you, too. not necessarily at someone, not if they're scared of yelling. maybe in the shower, maybe somewhere in isolated open spaces outside, maybe into your pillow, maybe in karaoke club as part of singing. whatever works, it works, it's good. just try to not yell in insulting way at yourself, neither at your loved ones.
pray. doesn't matter if you're in a specific religion or not. pray to your younger version of yourself to keep them with you, to stay connected. pray to your future self to stay hopeful about the future. start praying to your ancestors even if you don't care atm, soon they will matter as humans to you more, and asking yourself what would they do in situation, can help you. pray to any deities or spiritual beings you feel even slightly, like they're somewhere out there, if you're angry at them, express it, let out the feels. pray to your loved ones if you can't talk to them atm. simple "thanku for existing and keeping up with me" matters too. pray to the loved ones who passed away too, so you won't forget their impact on you, so you remember them, so they won't appear "only" as memories.
stay alive. please stay alive. reasons to stay alive? here i got you: there's things to do for yourself and others, and there's good days that will come, there's so many beautiful songs to hear, there's beings that count on you to care for them, there's things to prove wrong to stupid ppl, there's foods you need to try at least once, there's so many animals to see, there's dreams to dream, there's love to give and receive, there's therapy, there's cool events you don't wanna miss, there's your favourite characters from shows and books and your idols as well, there's pretty sun rises and sun sets to watch, there's many hugs to still get, there's ppl who need you in person, there's ppl who need you from distance. there's your life that's yours and no matter the problems you're allowed to live. just please stay alive.
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(my apologies if someone doesn't find it helpful but i do. hope, and solutions, and comfort, and validation, and expressing self even if not heard, are just needed for me. anyway not everything that works for me will work for you but i still encourage ppl to try these, but no forcing. it's simple reminders to keep going. to not give up. maybe someone will need them as much as i do. maybe it will be helpful. maybe)
