Red flags So this book is a definite need for young people who desire healthy relationships with partners, friends, family, etc. However, this book is not just for young people, but for anyone who desires healthy partnerships. In my personal lived experience, this book would have been a great addition in my early 20s when I wanted to have more serious relationships with people of the opposite sex, and how to discern a friend from a frenemy. As you mature in life through experiences, you learn that not every person you date is the same, or have the same maturity, background, life experience, etc. People are complex humans, and not everyone has the same interest or motive when embarking in a relationship. This book helps to educate you on what red flags to look for in others as well as what to work on with yourself. Everyone has red flags, and no one is immune from being tricked or handled in a way that makes you second guess yourself. As an adult, one has to learn from previous relationships, self-inflicted mistakes, self-internalized junk, bad decision making, and just all around naiveté. Martika Shanel explains what red flags are, how to be more discerning in discovering red flags in others, and how to do some internal work to combat your own red flags. This book is extremely helpful to those who haven't been in a relationship yet because you can get a jump start on identifying red flags in people that you meet or want a relationship with. However, this book is also helpful for those of us who've been in relationships previously and do not want to make the same mistakes twice. The book is engaging and interactive with sections of the book that allow for personal self-reflection, making lists, doing a deep dive into the red flags and how they have developed, and what to do to correct, let go, and even be at peace with some relational issues. Shanel also encourages her readers to simply invest in oneself. You have to be an advocate for you because no one else will. You have to demand the respect that you so rightly deserve, but also be willing to let go of harmful, hateful, disrespectful relationships that don't serve you. #whattodowiththeseredflags https://www.instagram.com/p/CVOaWkiPcSK/?utm_medium=tumblr
