#youcantfixeverything

[bigramp504]

#Youmustlearnthis #youcantfixeverything #imgoodandsoshouldyoube #letitgoisnotjustonfrozen #thisiswhyrighthere #committedtomisunderstanding

[lsjs9656-blog]

Just let that sink in.. Then take a deep breath... And start building 💪🏻

[thisisdiijai]

"You can't fix EVERYTHING!" Famous words by my therapist from yesterdays session. Though I gave this look as if to say "What do you mean I can't fix everything!", deep down I knew there was truth to it. I'm a caregiver at heart & I find joy in helping others & seeing others succeed, even if that means putting my dreams, aspirations, etc. on hold. I always try to have the backs of everyone, including those who wouldn't even do the same for me. I always try to be Captain Save-A-Life, but the harsh reality that I am coming to accept is that that is not my cross to bear, nor is it healthy. I'm discovering that despite my beliefs, I am NOT Super Man & not made of steel. I'm learning that I can still be that hand to hold when situations get tight without trying to fix the issue. I can still be that support system & still give love freely. Often times we feel that the only way to show love is to be a fixer, but sometimes less is more. A listening ear can do more than you realize.

[e-xspes]

hi love, i don't know what to do. i haven't cut since october 2nd and i just started again tonight. please help me.

Ugh, Honey, Do me a favour and throw your razors away, okay. NOW. Here do I have some tips from lover-of-sadness, to make yourself stopping again.

If you cut to express pain and intense emotions

Paint, draw, or scribble on a big piece of paper with red ink or paint

Express your feelings in a journal

Compose a poem or song to say what you feel

Write down any negative feelings and then rip the paper up

Listen to music that expresses what you’re feeling

If you cut to calm and soothe yourself

Take a bath or hot shower

Pet or cuddle with a dog or cat

Wrap yourself in a warm blanket

Massage your neck, hands, and feet

Listen to calming music

If you cut because you feel disconnected and numb

Call a friend (you don’t have to talk about self-harm)

Take a cold shower

Hold an ice cube in the crook of your arm or leg

Chew something with a very strong taste, like chili peppers, peppermint, or a grapefruit peel.

Go online to a self-help website, chat room, or message board

If you cut to release tension or vent anger

Exercise vigorously—run, dance, jump rope, or hit a punching bag

Punch a cushion or mattress or scream into your pillow

Squeeze a stress ball or squish Play-Doh or clay

Rip something up (sheets of paper, a magazine)

Make some noise (play an instrument, bang on pots and pans)

[e-xspes]

when you're sad, what do you do to try to make you feel better? x

listening to extremely loud music.

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