⚡️Do you miss your son?
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"No. He belongs to the House and is not mine to claim."
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⚡️Do you miss your son?
Send “⚡️” and a question and my muse will be forced to answer honestly
"No. He belongs to the House and is not mine to claim."
Have a baby Zektyrr doodle :) Dal's first-born.. as far as he is aware.
He gets Nedvyllanna's stark white hair and Dalamus' black sclera in his eyes. A soft-spoken and shy boy, he still has difficulty restraining the emotive movements of his ears.
Do they ever return home?
No.
Well, not for good. A couple years after the events of BG3, Dalamus returns to Menzoberranzan (accompanied and assisted by others) to steal away his son, Zektyrr, from House Strighym.
It is an extremely frightening and emotional mission. Still fresh from the clutches of Lolth, Dalamus will be going back into the spider's den, back to the very place responsible for two hundred years of trauma. To save a son who barely knows him, in order to prevent him from suffering the same trauma.
He does this by being disguised as the caretaker Spiraste, required to don the affect of a Lolthite once again. (Scenario subject to change)
He knows that, to Zektyrr, it will feel like he is being kidnapped from his home by a stranger. It will be scary, and confusing.
Thankfully, by then Dalamus will have a large group of friends and family willing to help this child adjust to the Surface and to being among people who care about his well-being. Zektyrr will be fine. And he will be loved.
And he will join Dalamus, and Dalamus' wife, Gloria, and their children, in making their home complete on the Surface.
House Strighym: Matron Mother Nedvyllanna Strighym
The Matron of House Strighym is notoriously materialistic and vain, which is saying a lot considering Lolthites are generally considered materialistic and vain. Her long silver hair is tied up in an elaborate braid pattern which resembles, to no one's surprise, a spider. Four braids from each side come to the center in the back to form an eight strand braid, which is then loosely rolled up as a bun to create a long abdomen of the spider, and held together at the top by a decorative comb to be the thorax.
She favors dark and elegant flowing gowns with dramatically flared sleeves, some portions made purposely sheer like spider webs to show off some skin. Fine jewelry adorns her hair and lines her ears. It drapes around her neck and wrists and sparkles on her fingers. A few fingers are clad in delicate-looking filigree claws, but many members of House Strighym, especially consorts, will assure they draw blood just as easily as any blade.
She has hobbies of her own, although unlike her crafters who turn their hobbies into job skills to support the House, Nedvyllanna's hobbies are purely for her own benefit. She cultivates poisonous fungi and flora, as well as fungi and flora which can be used to create pigment powders for makeup. She also breeds rats to feed her large dragazhar, Nacta, and occasionally he is allowed to pick off a deep bat from the livestock. Slaves who have offended Nedvyllanna and are particularly unlucky may also find themselves becoming a meal for her dragazhar, and the other deep bats if Nacta allows it--a gruesome sight that quickly reminds every witness of their place in the House.
Nacta is fiercely loyal to Nedvyllanna, not unlike a guard dog, except he has a seven-and-a-half foot wingspan and a sharp tail which can be used as a weapon in addition to its wing claws and teeth. Even when he is not immediately visible or attempting to sit on Nedvyllanna's shoulders, Nacta is almost always close by, watching for danger. His piercing shriek of a bird-like call is not only chilling but genuinely terrifying to anyone not used to hearing it.
She is a powerful Trickery Domain Cleric of Lolth, specializing in enchantments. Although all of her subjects are expected to be loyal, this does not stop Nedvyllanna from using Enchantment magic to make them a little extra pliable. Consorts are especially likely to be magicked in this manner. While many Matrons choose consorts from people they believe they can trust, Nedvyllanna is far more shallow.
Repeated exposure to these enchantment and charming spells over a long period of time can have altering affects on the mind, leading to confusion, and making it difficult to identify which emotions are genuine and which are enhanced--or supplied--by the magic itself. Dalamus' skewed perception of Nedvyllanna's affection and care for him is likely due to a combination of her manipulation and magic.
Appearances are everything to her and she does not tolerate being given any less respect than she believes she deserves. However, this also means that placating her is sometimes possible through adoration, flattery, or even straight-up begging, as it reminds her that she is powerful and in control.
Lolthite rules demand that she have enough guardsmen, soldiers, and instructors to supply some to patrols, the army, and the Academies. Nedvyllanna fills at least a portion of these ranks with those she can hire, rather than training them at the House.
She values beauty and expensive materials, gathering the best artists in Menzoberranzan to work for her and increase not only her House's wealth, but her own personal collection of art, fashion, and jewelry. Many Houses are strict with hair and dress code, but House Strighym allows some uniqueness among her artists and crafters so as not to stifle the creativity for which they were hired.
That said, her expectations for those in her House are still high. This leeway given to the crafters is only to help spur them to perform their best. If they do not, she has no use for them. It is not uncommon to see crafters who have begun to repeatedly under-perform with their work be hauled away by guardsmen at her behest, never to be seen again. Death is a very real possibility should anyone talk back to her or otherwise embarrass her.
She has no maternal instincts; she hates being pregnant, and has no patience for children. Children constantly want and need, without the capacity to give anything useful back. It is probably merciful, then, that her first was a daughter, Pellandra. Still, she wastes no time in sending her children to a private caretaker within the House, rather than deal with them herself. Zektyrr is planned to be the House's Master of Assassins if he shows aptitude for the skills necessary. Until then, Nedvyllanna has little use for him.
Nedvyllanna is frequently flirtatious and seemingly affectionate to her Patron, although it is largely a ruse to maintain loyalty, taking advantage of Dalamus' (and indeed most male drow's) touch-starved state. Only she may initiate touch or physical "affection"--it is given if he has done something she approves of, thereby conditioning him to succumb to her will and fulfill her desires if he wished to be treated softly. Even then, it was not guaranteed, as she cannot let them believe she is soft.
She prefers never to risk being overpowered, even by her consorts, and will use enchantment to assure their placidity. It was not uncommon for Dalamus to leave the bedchambers with small wounds from her nails. She does not indulge in aftercare or pillowtalk. Whether she even likes her consorts at all is a question made difficult to answer by Lolthites' skewed views on attachment and affection. Every Patron feels as though they are truly favored and trusted by her, and by virtue of their position, it is assumed they are. And appearances are very important to her.
House Strighym: Headmaster Spiraste
A thin, shrewd old man of a drow, Spiraste is the private caretaker hired to care for Matron Mother Nedvyllanna's children until they are old enough to be sent to an Academy to hone their skills further. Before Zektyrr, Spiraste cared for Nedvyllanna's daughter, Pellandra, who is now a student at Arach-Tinilith.
Although, "care" is being excessively generous.
Spiraste does not like children. He is aware of their value to the House, but will not coddle or praise or reward. His job, in his eyes, is to keep them alive and educate them, no more, no less. He makes sure children eat and sleep at their designated times, and that they pass their mobility milestones.
"Play" takes the form of age appropriate fitness tests, punishment doled out accordingly if the test is failed. Basic math and history is taught, as well as, of course, the teachings of Lolth.
Attachment is discouraged, affection forbidden. The Matron Mother may go where she pleases, but Nedvyllanna never visits her children. Dalamus visits a few times to check progress, but is not allowed to linger, and is not allowed to consider Zektyrr his own. He belongs to Nedvyllanna and House Strighym.
At the time of Dalamus' exile, Zektyrr is only two years old. His education is, at this time, very basic. He practices walking, running, climbing and eating on his own. He also practices multitasking with a tool or toy in each hand. He can say very short sentences with a couple words, is learning basic Drowic and will soon begin to learn Drowic Sign Language, and practices memory and recognition.
Most notably at this age, children typically start to show compassion and recognizing emotions in others, something Lolthite drow children must learn to suppress.
The hope is that Zektyrr will show aptitude in skills which will allow him to become a Master of Assassins.
Zektyrr
Dalamus has had a single child with Nedvyllanna in the ten years he has been with her, a son named Zektyrr born two years before the events of Baldur's Gate 3.
As a child of a noble family, Zektyrr's rearing and education is handled almost entirely by the House's caretakers, and not by Nedvyllanna or Dalamus themselves. Nedvyllanna in particular has not a single maternal bone in her body, but children have some importance for the continuation of the House.
Dalamus was granted very limited time to be around Zektyrr, mostly to make sure the child is in good health and developing adequately. Attachment is not encouraged, as it might cloud judgement and prevent one from putting Lolth and the House first. The child being a boy discouraged attachment even more so.
Unlike Nedvyllanna, Dalamus does have parental instincts. They are just buried under decades and decades of Lolthite conditioning. Right now, he does not think of his son much. It is not his place. Not his job. Not his problem. But as the entangling webs of Lolth are swept away, he will begin to realize what he might be missing.
You wouldn't mind if your son was sacrificed?
He regards the question silently for a moment. "...If that is what the House decides, it is not my place to question it."
When you were exiled, did you think to bring Zektyrr with you?
"No. He belongs to the House, and traversing the Underdark is difficult enough without wounds and a child."