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[RANT BLOG] Gay Male 33- Get triggered-This is not a safe space for: "Asexuals", Alt-Rights, Tumberlina's, Femi-Nazi's, Right-Wing Retards or people who get offended at the word retard. --Libertarian Millenial who is just sick of your shit. 

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Don't be a wuss

If you have a phobia of anything, or a trauma, a bad experience, a 'trigger' or any kind of fear, talk to someone, nut up and get that shit fixed.

If you have to go around warning people of your triggers you're not only a drag on the whole group but also a failure in that part of your life. Face it and get over it.

Don't be a coward for the rest of your life.

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I don’t know you but---

I probably don’t like you. And not everyone will. Be at peace with that. Not everyone is required to like you or understand you. That is okay. The world is not yours it is ours. And while civility to each other should not be forgotten---no one is entitled to anyone.  Just think. Just Breath. Let go.

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I support Mens Rights

Because bitches be trippin’

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Everyone Sins

I like to drink, and if you don’t fine whatever; but don’t demonize me or my choice of relaxation because your addictive-personality alcoholic father had no self control and beat your mother in front of you after he sold your sibling for beer money.  

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If you read this...

You’re retarded

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Suggestion Box

I don’t have one. You can shove your suggestion and long list of bitch-fit complaints in the same place you probably belong: The trash. I won’t respond. And you won’t drag me into an argument. So go on, reply until your fingers break. Waste your own damn time. #canceltakebackthefalls02

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Broken? I’d say yes.

Not a lot of science has been dedicated to Asexuality. Because what a boring ass thing to research. But that aside--we don’t have a lot on it. However, humans which are animals, can and do thrive on sexual intimacy. It is a natural act, reguardless of intention. Whether it’s for mating, bonding, or just straight up pleasure; it’s valid, and no scientist of human biology will tell you otherrwise. Even Dolphins have sex for pleasure. 

While humans have reached a plane of understanding and self than other animals; humans again are still animals. And any naturalist will tell you that an animal that has a sudden loss or immediate aversion to finding a mate (homosexual or not), it is instantly reguarded as an issue. That animal will suffer both socially and mentally. As it is not it’s natural modus operandi to do so. (And no, you are not special for “ “overcoming” your natural monkey brain.”) You find me an animal that naturally doesn’t, I’ll re-think this but funnily enough about the only thing you could show me is animals that reproduce asexually. See, that’s where that term originally comes from. An animal that does not need a mate of the opposite sex to procrerate. But they STILL have a need for a bond. Even animals that are natural loners such as tigers for instance, still meet up, bond and mate. The research and science on Asexuality is still on-going with no answers. Not even close to concrete. We don’t even know if it’s biological, or a picked up trait. While there are arguments for Pros of this “orientation” here is also a list of Cons you should consider and mentally file through and eliminate before you make your choice: Bogaert (2004, 2006) identified some of the characteristics of asexuals as follows: 1. More women than men 2. Slightly older than sexuals 3. Low self-esteem 4. Low socioeconomic status 5. Weighed less 6. Poorer health 7. More religious and attended religious services more often 8. Asocial 9. Social anxiety 10. Anxiety 11. Depression

Note: While “less well-educated” was also cited, this finding was contradicted by Prause and Graham (2007).  1. Asexuality is a lack of sexual orientation or sexuality, not an orientation.

2. Asexuality is a denial of one’s natural sexuality.

3. Asexuality is generalized low libido (which is a medical condition)

4. Asexuality is the result of sexual anxiety or shame.

5. Asexuality is Sexual Aversion

6. Unlike the other major orientations, it is not known when asexuality is determined.

7. It is not known definitively whether asexuality is life-long or acquired. Here is the entire article so no one accuses me of merely cherry picking: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/magnetic-partners/201406/asexuality We all know the research of homosexuality in nature and it’s quite common and natural as well.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k6p1nmOnILA Here is a link to a video talking about not only the biology behind homosexuality but it’s usefulness in society. And please, don’t even get me started on Aromantics. Look, I get that not everyone likes the whole roses and heart-shaped boxes shit, but refusing that type of connection with someone just seems to zap the life out of relationships in general. Why wouldn’t you want to be romanced? Why wouldn’t you want someone to show you they care in a tender and loving, personal way? Romance doesn’t always imply sex and whoever told you that is an idiot and you’re a bigger idiot for believing it if you do. Asexuals bring nothing to the table. I mean, unless you want a best friend or a pet. Or population control. I guess that’s a plus for Aces?They even come pre-friendzoned! So no awkward conversation needed! What IS the scientific use for an animal that does not reproduce nor seeks out that kind of bond?  Some will say Ace’s can have bonds, but of what? Friendship or cuddles? Now sure Ace people argue that it’s a spectrum and there are some Asexuals that are okay with sex and still perform the act. They just say that it’s “not high on their needs list”.

It is usually defined as someone who just doesn’t experience sexual attraction. How can you have sex with someone you have no sexual attraction to? You’ve got to find something about them alluring, something about them physically that you find beautiful and arousing. Not caring for sex is not a sexuality. It is a personality trait. And a very boring and disappointing one at that. Demi and Grey as well. You arent an entire new sexuality just because you prefer to only have a physical relationship with someone you emotionally connect with. And Grey vacilitates between ace and aro? Why split hairs? It’s just your fucking personality. If you have legitimate sexual trauma, that’s understandable, but you aren’t Ace, you just have trauma. Get help. Talk to someone, grow past it, become stronger. Don’t just give up on one of the most intimate, natural and bonding experiences a person can have. If you have a distaste for sexual organs in general, that is also a you problem and your parents failed you in the talk and noramlising sex for you. Any good doctor or psychatrist worth their salt will tell you sex is not only good for you physically but also mentally and emotionally.  If you feel you’re Ace because you had a bad sexual experience, I have news for you: You’re not Ace, your lover just sucked and didn’t know what the fuck they were doing. Get you a better lover and someone who can make you feel comfortable and confident. Some will argue that sex isn’t everything and you know what? I agree. It isn’t. You can certainly have a great mental or emotional relationship with someone, and can really vibe on an intellectual or moral level. Absolutely, I jive with this sentiment too. But good sexual chemistry between individuals can and does make bonds stronger. Also to any Ace people who have openly mocked, or shown disgust to those who really enjoy sex, talking about sex, loving the act and are comfortable with their sexuality and their body---fuck you. We are not degenerates, we are not disgusting, we are not perverts. Your view is just skewed and you’re broken. Fix that shit. Think hard before you label yourself this, you might just realise you have other issues that need to be considered or addressed. Let yourself explore yourself, be open, talk to someone about concerns. Because it’s better to rule everything else out before you put yourself in such a limiting position. You are barely over 1% of the population; good fucking luck.

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Dogs Are Awful

Dogs are for people with control issues who need constant validation and a personal simp. Except that simp always has a smell to it, slobbers all the time and licks your face after it eats shit and it’s own vomit. Have fun with that for now. Longer rant coming. I know you all are excited for that.

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Did I hurt your feewings?

Maybe you should stop being a little bitch.

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Yo trans peeps---

Got a question for ya. If you go out in public and you see a stranger, do you know everything about them? Do you instinctively know what their name is, where they live, their social status, their hobbies, what pets they own? No? Are you saying you have absolutely no way of knowing who they are because they’re a stranger you’ve never talked to or met? GREAT! You have a functional brain! So riddle me this: Why some of you get so triggered if someone misgenders you? Does this stranger know you? Probably not, they’re a stranger. Do they know what you like to be called out the gate? No. So if someone misgenders you, don’t get angry, just be polite and inform them. And don’t be condescending. The ones that get angry and start a riot over it only give the rest of the community a bad name. We all know the most insecure, thin-skinned dog barks the loudest. Don’t drag your own community down. It’ll only make that person view the lot of you like some hair-trigger group of mad people. Some even think you already have a mental disorder, so why act in a way that would only strengthen that belief? If someone misgenders you (ESPECIALLY if you identify as say masculine/male but choose to dress a bit more feminine, you’ve got NO ROOM to be upset). See humans are not only social creatures, but visual creatures. Only until a person becomes accustomed to things does it become normal or no big deal. This is a trait that is instinctual.  While gender may be a thing that’s going out the door at the current time, how one dresses or presents themselves still has an impact on first impressions. Humans (even you) are bound by assumptions. No matter how woke you think you are. Everyone makes snap judgements, because humans are also animals. Instincts tell us to look at something and almost unconciously make a judgement on what is in front of us to decide if it’s dangerous or friendly. Even what sort of language you will apply to this person. Do not bitch about binary shit. Humans can change their line of thinking sure, but not everyone has caught up, or will. So instead of reacting with anger and indignation; how about you react in the same way you want them to react to you: WITH RESPECT AND UNDERSTANDING. I had long hair for a period of time, and while at work, I’ve had customers see me only from the back and call out saying, “excuse me, ma’am!” and after hearing them call out a few times, I just turn to see if I can help instead, but they look at me and go “oh I’m so sorry sir!”  I just laugh and say, “no big deal, what can I help you with?” There is no reason ever, at all for me to get offended. And I’m not. I can completely understand how someone might see long hair and think “female” even though I know (and most people do) that guys can have long hair too. It is not a sin to bet on the higher percentage.  It’s actually a pretty normal thing for your brain to do. If you’re too frail to handle someone to accidentally misgender you---darlin’ that’s a you problem. Chill the fuck out and realise that the world doesn’t cater to you. The world is slowly turning a corner yes, to recognise other spectrums and ideals on gender but again its not there yet. So have patience, and give your community a boost by leaving someone with a positive interaction with someone/something outside of their normal encounter.

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We are losing tone and context

Just today I read a profile of someone saying that their “trigger” was being called pet names. Look, I’m not gonna pretend I know your fukken life, but let me lay this out here: No matter where you are from, let me repeat *no matter where you are from* there are some form of “pet names” or “terms of endearment.” For me growing up it was, hon, honey, sweetie, sweetheart, darlin’/darling.  Now sure, with a condescending tone, those can be seen as insulting; however like *most things in fucking language* it all comes down to that; tone. And context. I constantly call my friends these terms and they do not take offense, merely because they know I’m sincere. I could also do it with a different tone, and then *and only then*, would they know they’re being insulted. You’ve got gaggles of people that affectionately call their friends bitch, slut, whore, because there’s a familiarity. So why is this any different? Personally I’d think someone would be more receptive to being called “hon” than “whore”. “BUT!” you scream, “there’s the answer right there! Familiarity! You can’t do it to strangers!” Bullshit, yes you can. Why? *TONE AND CONTEXT*. Resepecting others is cool and all, but there’s this thing that a lot of people don’t think about---the other person. Some of y’all so wrapped up in your widdle fee-fees that you don’t take the time to consider this peron’s tone, context and even facial expressions or body language that can go into it. And that they might actually, in thier way showing you a care or affection. Even in a non-flirting manner. Yes, these terms can be used in a non-flirty manner. Shocking, I know.  If I’m at work, and say, “thanks hon!” with a smile, shut the fuck up, I’m not being fucking rude. And IF for some godforsaken reason you just can’t stand it, because you absolutely REFUSE to understand social cues, let me break this down: 

If you don’t like something, do not fly off the rails at the other person especially if you know they don’t know this caveot about you. Just smile and say, “I know you mean well, but if it’s okay with you can we not use endearment terms?” The other person, if they’re a normal functioning human being will apologise, take it into account and adjust their speech towards you in the future.  And let me say that putting something like what triggers you in a bio, on something that is absolutely fucking thin-skinned ridiculous, is a level of entitlement, narcissism and holier than thou please cater to my feelings only bullshit that I cannot believe is passing for okay nowadays.

And before I’m told “hey, why don’t YOU adjust”, think about turning that mirror the other way. Just because you’re offended or triggered by it, doesn’t mean it’s always at it’s core evil, wrong, mean condescending or cruel. Use your god damn brain.

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Respect Characters

Found something on Twitter the other day, won’t say who for privacy reasons; cuz this is a ballsy ass thing to post there:

“Stop making non-trans characters trans. Doing so disrespects a character already comfortable with their gender and body. Taking someone who is and twisting that is enraging and insulting. Trans is not a fetish, nor a tool for you to destroy characters for your own amusement. Because believe it nor not, there are a lot of people who really love their born gender and couldn't imagine being the other, or don't want to be. And this is valid. They aren't inherently close-minded or bigoted.

Take Angel Dust (From Hazbin Hotel, look him up I don’t have time to babysit you) for instance. He is canon male but likes to do drag and walks/moves or presents a bit more feminine. That doesn't mean he's trans. Not all Drag Queens are trans. Its quite obvious Angel loves being a male. I get wanting to relate to a character, but if they are already one you like with just them being themselves in canon, then why change it? This notion that you have to make a character you already adore just like you, is ridiculous. It defeats the purpose.

Characters we like that are different than us is more broadening, and can teach us something not only about that character and their struggles in general, but also, about ourselves.

Ship what you want, headcannon what you want, but just realise when you go too far, & risk changing, manipulating or destroying a character you already loved in the first place. After all, as you say, gender shouldn't matter, right? As you wish to be respected, respect them too.” --Anon from Twitter