My Take on Asking and Borrowing
Children are often taught to learn to ask. Therefore, they should also be taught that it is okay to ask but not everything should be given. By asking, they learn to be dependent or dependent on other people. It should be corrected at an early age because they can will be accustomed to it if not corrected right away. Children get used to the fact that everything they ask for must be given and if it is not given, they will be made to cry or lose it. Sometimes it even leads to self-harm and destroying things. Because they think "when you ask, you must be given", so they should be taught early on that the person who is asked for has the right to decide whether to give it to him or not. It is not obligatory for those who are asked to give because there are also many personal reasons for saying no and this does not mean being selfish. Asking is more selfish because you want to take what is not yours. Asking is different from borrowing and we should both respect the decision of the person you are borrowing from because in the end they also have a need and it is not their obligation to explain. Children should also learn that sometimes we also have to refuse the person asking so they can also learn that their own needs should come first. Let us not feel guilty if we cannot give to those who ask and borrow. Let's appreciate ourselves and the things we worked for. Before giving, think first if it is right to give according to the circumstance and reason? Is the person asking incapable? Why is it necessary to ask? What can be done to stop him from begging? Even those with shortcomings and flaws have the ability to find a way to get what they want. It is more important to teach hard work and to live within your means. Often begging and borrowing is rooted in the desire to obtain things that cannot be obtained immediately. Learn to be content with what you have. If everyone learns to be content with what he has, there will be less people who unnecessarily ask, depend and borrow. If you've learned to say no, it's an important lesson that you've taught the person you rejected to work hard so they can get what they want through their own hard work. If you are the one who is rejected in your borrowing or asking, it is important that you learn to understand and respect the decision of others. You are not someone else's responsibility. You are responsible for yourself. Let's all work hard. Let's have dignity. Let's be proud of whatever we've been able to do and have achieved, but let's be humble and not be arrogant, pompous or oppressive. Avoid borrowing, lending and especially asking. Asking is poison to our character.