Hadriel (I Have A Fae Curse)

I think I found the backrooms…

[butt-rice]

i wish there was a way to say "you're right, but this is really ineffective and even counterproductive messaging to anyone who doesn't already agree with you" without sounding like an asshole

[tangled-clouds]

People doing call out posts on fictional characters should be studied.

“FYI Dracula has murdered many people and took advantage of them against their will and mind controlled them!”

Girl, do you want a class action lawsuit on him? Want him thrown in jail? He literally dies in the novel I don’t know what more you expect.

“But it’s people who say he’s hot that are the problem!”

Okay fun police, he is literally not real. There might be something to say about people romanticizing real life serial killers but fictional characters sometimes do crimes so incomprehensibly far from what is even humanly possible that we usually don’t register that as glorifying real life crimes. This is why you will see people drooling over Junko Enoshima who has enacted world domination through… spreading DepressionPlus than people worshiping a character who is canonically a rapist. THAT DOES NOT MEAN CONDONING THE ACTIONS but like… you are allowed to like characters who do bad stuff. Sometimes I even like to visualize “good characters” ‘s kill count, which very often is higher than a lot of people in jail right now for murder. We would not question their role as the good guys but they have done crimes that exist in real life, to a super high degree.

[tangled-clouds]

Aight it’s my fault for filtering for text posts on my favourite media thinking it was gonna be funny meme posts, I should’ve expected 90% of posts are dissertations about why the writers have not “solved politics” in two seasons.

I feel like some of y’all forget that no one requires you to have a doctorate in politics and science to become a screenwriter. “But they humanized a cop!” “But they showed a person from [minority] being evil!” “But they didn’t end it in an equitable political system!” Look dude, either you learn how to use suspension of disbelief and accept no one will make perfect media that 100% align with your beliefs or you just stop enjoying media. We can definitely criticize media for harmful representation but what I think we should not do is act like we expect media to comply with strict rules you have set in your head. Not because those rules are necessarily wrong, because yeah I do agree there is over representation of villains having a visible disability, but because I find out a lot of the time these are not yet widely accepted by society OR there is nuance to tropes (is there more representation of HSN autistics than LSN autistics who under represented? Yes. Is it immoral to have a HSN autistic character in your story? I hope not).

This is not me going “ugh take politics out of my media!” but a show feeling like “baby’s first leftist radicalization” is still better than nothing if the reason you watched the show wasn’t for the politics in the first place. I’m not gonna watch Lucifer and expect to come out of it with flawless leftist theory, I’m watching it to see funny sexy demon get into self absorbed shenanigans for character development. I am not watching Kpop Demon Hunter for deep commentary on celebrity culture, I’m watching it to see a Kpop star come to terms with her supernatural identity and also be a badass fighter.

I miss wholesome discussions about media, I’m tired of people expecting everything to be idealistic leftist theory.

[tangled-clouds]

I love to remember, when I suddenly feel imposter syndrome about my opinions on media, that I literally have a college degree about it. Like actually maybe I DO know more about media literacy than you and maybe I literally know what I’m talking about.

Speaking of which, as an adult with a college degree on my way to get a bachelor’s degree, I am convinced a huge portion of people who are vehemently against gay ships have a critical lack of media literacy. You could throw them a fight between two oiled up muscular men almost embracing each other and they’d call you a freak for pointing out this is a metaphor for gay sex.

[vampirejuno]

Having a much older, much more experienced person tell you you're doing well in your shared hobby is better than crack, especially when the hobby tends to be 80% retired ppl. Like, hell yeah I'm gonna get a good grade in birdwatching and I'm not even 50. Child prodigy moment

[vampirejuno]

Spotted a bird today that turned out to be a yellow-bellied sapsucker (uncommon here this time of year apparently) and received several "well spotted!"s and "good find!"s. You wish you were me

[tangled-clouds]

It was a massive confidence boost when I shared my pictures for the first time in my local photography club. Having many 60 year olds with decades of experience being impressed and pointing out every detail of good technique in my photos and then giving me proper constructive criticism has made me completely rethink my ability to make good photography AND my capacity for improvement!

[future-crab]

So I follow N. D. Stevenson (comics writer and animator, most famous for Nimona and She-Ra and the Princesses of Power) and his husband Lee Ostertag (also a comics writer and animator) on Instagram. When I started following them, they were both publicly presenting as women, and then a few years ago N. D. came out as transmasc nonbinary, and then earlier this year Lee also came out as transmasc. Anyway this is all setup to say that Lee had the chance to make the funniest post of all time and he took it:

Absolutely iconic.

[fearoftheminotaur]

I want to throw in that part of the context behind this meme was N.D. talking about how he sometimes gets hatemail for marrying a man as a former lesbian, and how many people seem to think he divorced his wife.

I have not managed to find anyone who thinks that in the wild, but it is so damn funny.

[aromantic-journal]

"How can you be aromantic/asexual if you [insert whatever here]" well you see I happen to be on the part of the spectrum called Because I Said So.

[tangled-clouds]

I may be ace but I have two OCs who are madly in love and I keep them as pets but also lab rats in a way I put them through so much

[tangled-clouds]

Well fucking shit, I think my gay indulgent fantasy has turned into a violent criticism of capitalism

[tangled-clouds]

I fucking hate moral OCD especially considering that “morals” can be literally fucking whatever. I got my brain absolutely screeching at me because I want to draw a couple just for fun and my brain thinks “if it’s too self indulgent, you’re an absolute scum of a person and you should just go rot in a gutter somewhere” like??? And that’s not even talking about my little secret wish to try my hand at NSFW art just for the fun of it (I’m ace by the way, I just enjoy NSFW media because I think it’s fun) but my brain keeps going “you’re absolutely fucking disgusting for even thinking about drawing porn” I DON’T EVEN BELIEVE THAT! I HIGHLY RESPECT NSFW ARTISTS IN GENERAL! Sincerely fuck you moral OCD because you can’t even abide by my actual morals.

[storm-of-feathers]

this is what every mental health conversation on this god forsaken website sounds like to me.

[tangled-clouds]

It’s all over my dash, it’s all over the subreddits I’m in, and I think we’re getting into just a screaming match that is steering us away from intersectionality.

What happened to the wave of “men suffer too under the patriarchy”? What happened to wanting human rights for all trans people? Why are we divided right now?

Now is not the time to tally up everyone’s privilege points. We shouldn’t be focused on who has it better or worse. A man and a woman on a sinking ship are both going to drown if nothing is done to save them and the goal should be saving both, not choose who deserves most to die.

[tangled-clouds]

I keep using the phrase “I’m gonna throw myself in a volcano” on Discord while I keep forgetting I have Hobbit in my username which makes it funnier than I anticipated

[tangled-clouds]

Guy: Look how my situation sucks where I forgot I put a butter packet in my pocket and when I put my keys in, the packet burst and now my keys are covered in butter…

The entirety of Reddit for some reason: LOOK AT THIS FUCKING LOSER WHO PUT BUTTER IN HIS POCKET

It’s not that weird??? HELLO??? Can we have a crumb of empathy??? I only stay on this app for the niche communities but once in a while I get posts from huge subs and Redditors seem to be allergic to empathy. There is a great number of situations in which someone would be led to have a butter packet in their pocket. They’re acting like he announced he takes orange juice baths. Am I too ADHD to find that weird? I’ve probably had weirder stuff in my pockets…

[tangled-clouds]

You know what? I like calling myself a “little guy”. That is an accurate assessment of who I am. No, calling every trans man a little guy is not okay. That’s something you have to self identify with. If someone else called me a little guy, I’d probably have a bit of a problem with it. But I like calling myself that because that’s literally what I am. You’re allowed to identify with things that could otherwise differentiate you from the group you’re trying to be a part of and it’s okay. You’re allowed to “dehumanize” and “infantilize” yourself because you’re not exactly doing that in reality, or at least not doing it with negative intent.

This is about the part in the transmasc community of people who so desperately want to pass and be stealth and “I am just exactly the same as cis men” who instead of minding their damn business, tell me that I can’t identify with what makes me different from cis men or that means I’m either faking or a disgrace to my identity. Genuinely go fuck yourselves. I think being trans is a fucking epic experience and one that makes me stronger everyday. I am a real man, and also a little guy, a critter. I have the energy of an actual hobbit. You can’t take that away from me because you THINK it’s gonna make you look bad. It won’t.

[tangled-clouds]

Genuinely glad I have an intersex acquaintance who confirmed my suspicions about cis/perisex people. I can only speak on cis people as I am not personally aware of perisex and intersex people as I am perisex myself so here’s what I noticed and what they told me was right:

If you start looking androgynous in a way that is not socially acceptable, and by that I mean there is somehow a wrong mix of gendered traits which is often linked to any amount of facial hair on an otherwise feminine looking body, people start to get extremely weird about it.

I’ve started testosterone over a month ago and am now taking a very average dose for a binary trans man. So people are starting to notice my voice is not that typical “for a woman”, my face looks noticeably more angular, and my moustache gets more noticeable everyday. But now, I have no proof of this, but I am pretty fucking sure when people see me, they immediately think “this is a woman with a hormone imbalance” and holy shit to cis people? That’s like having terminal cancer! People are way more fucking insistent about “affirming my femininity” than before I took T. People used to even ask me what my gender is. But now that I got a little shadow on my lip, this is THE sign I have the horrible misfortune of being a woman with the evil hormones. It feels like when people call me “miss” it’s way less genuine and more “I am doing you a favour”. Which… it’s really fucking not, I’m a grown-ass man.

So apparently intersex people relate, which this sucks majorly. It’s not a fault to be androgynous. This enforced gender binary is just society collectively shooting themselves in the foot except it’s an explosive bullet sending shrapnel to everyone around. Do they just… can’t conceptualize that we either want or don’t care to look like that? Because it’s not just one cis perisex weirdo at work that does this, it’s like a huge portions of the clients I’ve met at work today. I’ve become super good at detecting compliments from pity. And it IS pity when someone looks at you with watery eyes saying “I love the short hair” because you know they think they’re the only person who’s ever told you this and that they say that because “no one would encourage a woman to cut her hair short it’s unthinkable!”

Now I don’t really know what to do with that information. Start picketing?

[tangled-clouds]

If you still post positive Harry Potter content in 2025, why? Like it’s in the very least a little gauche and in the very worst a red flag for trans people. My dad who is chronically offline knows about the JK Rowling situation. What’s your excuse?

“But it was my entire childhood!” Okay so what? I know it’s sad but if I knew Winx Club was actively inciting genocide of a demographic I would not engage with it anymore.

“But I’m pirating it!” And you keep talking about it online which encourages people to still engage with it and give money to them.

“But death of the author!” Except this author ISN’T DEAD. Death of the author doesn’t apply to a living author actively harming a community.

Please I am begging you to find a different franchise to obsess over. The good thing about our current society is that we aren’t lacking media content to enjoy.