an open letter to aphobes and alloromantics:
what the fuck is the deal with you guys equating romance to empathy
i am one of the most empathetic people i know
but i dont feel romantic attraction
and all of the sudden i am cold and heartless
it does not matter that i go to every food drive i can to help distribute food
or that i have told my mom about some things that are often overlooked (IE: homeless ppl, education quality, suicide rate, etc.) and begged her to use her political influence to do something about it
or that i always treat everyone with the same level of respect and give them equal opportunity in almost all situations (not like murderers or rapists cus fuck those guys)
or that nobody had even noticed that i was aro and i was always told that i had "the biggest heart I've ever seen" by others who then turn around and call me cold and heartless when i come out to them instead of giving me even 1% of the respect i gave them
why are you so insistent on oxytocin's being released in certain scenarios being the only thing that matters in this world
when you donate to a charity, you don't need to want to marry the recipients of the funds to go through with it, but when i don't want to marry them or anybody for that matter i am incapable of empathy???
and then when they realize that i did not come out as ace and am an aroallo they get even worse
one person (online thank god because otherwise i would be in jail for beating them to a pulp) said that because i wanted sex but not romance i was basically a rapist
how in the kentucky fried fuck does my not getting crushes mean that i am a rapist
I am friends with some victims of rape and the fact that people would think of me so lowly just because i was not like them to assume that i would do that to somebody, that i would make them feel that unique pain that i had to see my best friend's brother go through and never quite leave behind, all because i was different
because i felt enough trust and comfort in them to allow them to know this
to any allos reading this, please please please never do any of these things to someone
i really wish i were one of you guys because it seems soooo nice and the idea of being in love looks like drinking ambrosia to me, but if this is what it does to people, then maybe i should be glad that i dodged that ICBM
i did not choose to be like this, and i would not if given the choice, so please, treat me with some basic human decency instead of treating me like scum