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Sascha / 25 / n-b trans guy / proud faggot / white / poor as shit / nsfw / anti-assimilationist/ DNI racists, transphobes, etc

[tdicksupreme]

hope all mean transsexual faggots are having a good day. non-med transsexuals I love you

[thequeenoftheentiregoddamnworld]

Hey, hey, look me in the eyes when I tell you this okay? The whole "do trans women or trans men have it worse?" debate going on right now is the most obvious CIA bullshit on earth cause honestly we've both got it pretty shitty and fighting each other isn't helping anyone

[free-my-mindd]

[diedoffscreen]

[genderkoolaid]

the thing about "trans guys have it easier" is that when you look into it its really more of a folk myth than anything. people come up with all sorts of stories to explain this "fact." people will tell you that people seen as men are gender-policed much more harshly than people seen as women and every little deviation towards femininity is noticed and punished, and that's why trans guys have it easier. but you'll also hear people tell you that people seen as men have so much more wiggle room, men can be all kinds of sizes and shapes meanwhile people seen as women have to fit into this tiny little box, and that's why trans guys have it easier.

these are two entirely contradictory lines of logic, but they lead to the same conclusion. because the conclusion is the point. its a backformed theory of gender. people believe, for whatever reason, that "trans guys have it easier" is an objective fact, and then storytell an explanation for why that is that sounds right to them. and this isn't necessarily something that's done maliciously, which is key. its not about people twiddling their fingers and thinking about how to contribute to a massive conspiracy against transmascs. its about people just feeling, on a gut level, that trans guys must have it easier, by which they really mean, transmasculine suffering isn't socially visible, and it isn't natural for me to imagine it, therefore it must not exist; yet, trans suffering in general clearly exists, so there must be some reason that transmasculine suffering feels so abstract and immaterial to me and others.

this is why anti-transmasculinity theory is so important. all kinds of people come to this conclusion, and the best explanation for why this strange thing happens and why no one talks about it is anti-transmasculinity & erasure as a social force which people internalize.

[cheerfulomelette]

There’s a renowned fictional case study (originated by Jack Brittain and Sim Sitkin) which is used in business schools to help students understand the risks around poorly informed decision-making. The scenario that students are given is to imagine that they are John Carter, the founder of a car racing team.

The scenario asks ths students to looks at the data showing the likelihood of catastrophic engine failure based on ambient temperature and make a go/no go decision. Most students look at the data presented and make the decision to go ahead. Vanishingly few recognise the flaw with the dataset they've been given: the missing data points - the days the engine didn't fail - indicate a 100% chance of failure on race day.

The scenario is not about a racing car. It's about the Challenger disaster.

The point of the case study is to illustrate how missing data can give you a wildly inaccurate idea of reality and to underline the importance of looking at all of the data, not just the bits you think are relevant.

If you don't see trans men in the data - in trans history, communities, obituaries - the intellectually honest response is to ask "am I missing something?". Men are ~50% of the global population, logically we should be ~50% of the trans community. Where are we? Does that data exist? If not, why not?

If you go around making conclusions based on incomplete data, you're more likely to be wrong than you are anything else. You don't have to design studies and fill in the gaps by yourself, but you have to be mindful that an absence of evidence isn't evidence of absence and that, maybe, something important is being missed.

NASA, the Space Shuttle Challenger and Decision-making - Only Dead Fish

There’s a renowned fictional case study (originated by Jack Brittain and Sim Sitkin) which is used in business schools to help students unde

[casual-haterism]

being a trans guy is great because you get all the negative effects of being a woman in a patriarchial society and all the negative effects of being a man in a patriarchal society

[centwithlove]

The Following is intended to be commiseration with our shared suffering and not derailing.

being a trans gal is great because you get all the negative effects of being a woman in a patriarchal society and all the negative effects of being a man in a patriarchal society

[proudfreakmetarusonikku]

also absolutely not intended to derail and just to be like “fuck this shit sucks and I hate that u guys have to deal with it too”

being nonbinaryis great because you get all the negative effects of being a woman in a patriarchal society and all the negative effects of being a man in a patriarchal society

[antifascistelmo-deactivated2022]

No matter how progressive or well-read you are, there are always going to be moments in your life where somebody pushes back against something that's so culturally ingrained you never even considered it before. And you'll say "Huh, it never occurred to me to challenge this but you're right" and that doesn't mean you were "morally toxic" before, it means you're a non-omniscient human capable of growth.

[capacity2]

You can’t let this stupid ass evil world rob you of your vibe don’t let them do that to u

[riotdyke]

Stone Butch Blues, Leslie Feinberg. (1993).

[queermasculine]

i simply do not believe that transgender people with weird gender identities are ever the problem

[gettinontopic]

I am absolutely dying to know how a black nonbinary multigender butch lesbian whos openly poly has privilege in this society on even a general level. absolutely dying to know. please tell me as someone who uses multiple pronouns openly, is black in america, is nonbinary and cannot ever transition into a state that meaningfully expresses my gender, has privilege.

Even if it didt exist I can barely buy groceries, how the fuck would I save enough for surgery. The government just cut cost thatll now cut out half my medical care. do you people not see this??

I am like.

Really tired of being called tme and told I have a privilege that litterally isnt there in this society.

I'm trying to work so hard to fight for our rights. Voting, Community work, Events, and even at those I am not always respected! And I still fucking come back and do the work because it's needed-

And then I get on here and people are telling me to acknowledge what a privilege it is to- what?

Like they don't even elaborate. they block me or insult me or they tell me about a type of experience that doesn't apply to me and demand i identify with it.

Tme tells you nothing about my experience except seemingly what direction Im transitioning in and that's disgusting.

typing tme trans people knowing that youre going to ask every non-binary person to sort themslves between tme and tma, and if they dont you do it for them, is disgusting.

[itsabear]

i theoretically fall under TMA, but by arguing against that entire framework and by listening to trans masculine people, the users of that framework have made it very clear TMA is a privileged position that can be revoked.

[gettinontopic]

Seeing folls say ego renegade boy is dogshit cause trans men cant write music and then finding out two of the song writers are transfem pretty much sums up the state of anti transmasc/trasn men sentimemts on here

[briarwoodtree]

You pull up to the transmasc meetup and it looks like this

[dragon-in-a-fez]

"thought crimes aren't real, it's your actions that matter" and "your mindset informs how you treat others, so you should try not to have a shitty one" are another pair of things that are both true btw

[penguicorns-are-cool]

[genderkoolaid]

do you guys remember when it came out that there was targeted sexual abuse & forced labor of transmasc & other queer perceived-female people at an ICE facility, and like it was very specifically "transmascs getting both sexually harassed, told to wear makeup, actively assaulted to make them act more feminine, while also being forced to do grueling manual labor & being directly told this was a result of them "wanting to be a man""? do you remember when that came out and then it was crickets from the community it feels like.

[polybius-on-gameboy-deactivated]

And now we have the community panicking about “ICE targeting trans people” and it’s like… they already did, you just didn’t care when it was happening to trans men of colour.

[scramratz]

You know the common occurrence of a (usually younger) trans guy dating a cis guy and they start feminizing themselves while in that relationship? I don’t like that it’s treated as a character flaw of said trans dude and not what it actually is, abuse.

[myfootyrthroat]

Seeing a lot of "materialist" analyses that are in fact just vibes.

[maryfitzroy]

certain popular bloggers on here sound like this to me