Tea Time Reflections

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Raise Discomfort, Not Your Voice

You know how some of us tend to raise our voice when speaking to loved ones then later regret it? It happens all the time and even though we tell ourselves never to do it, we do it over and over again. How do we get out of this unhealthy loop? How do we soften our tone of voice?

For some of us, we need to remain uncomfortable in the presence of those who trigger your raised voice. Do you realise that you are cautiously polite to acquaintances or distant friends to create a positive impression or avoid conflicts but are recklessly sharp to family, partner or even besties?

The key is to learn to be uncomfortable in their presence to guard their heart against your recklessness but it won't be easy and will definitely take more than a few tries.

Question is, do you dare to be uncomfortable in the presence of your loved ones? What does it truly mean? Only you hold the answers. Find out by trying.

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Greet the Sun Before It Awakes

Are you ready for Monday? If you aren't, there is a sure way to face it that will make your Mondays better. Aim to unwind and sleep by 9pm. Enjoy the darkness and rest. Even if you can't sleep, at least you are resting well. Then, wake up before dawn. You'll see the vast difference it makes on your mind, body and soul. No matter how difficult the day can get, be assured that you are definitely ready for it. When you plunge into this #morningmiracle challenge, you'll discover that this unorthodox way of gaining some me-time is sometimes all you need to achieve that perfect day. Not facial, not massage. Just greeting the sun before it settles on the horizon. Now, who's up for some super early me-time?

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Will You Stand A Chance When Your Love is Put to Test?

Today, we are reminded of the vulnerability of marriage. Just because we say "I do" doesn't mean that we are sheltered from marital dangers. Love is a heavy word that we take far too lightly. What does it truly mean to love another person? Can we love the flaws as much as the virtues? Sometimes, we begin a relationship because we like the idea of being with this beautiful person and seen with him or her rather than weighing other more important considerations. Alas, many fall in the trap that all hard work is in the courtship and ends when our partner finally walks down the aisle with us. We fail to recognise that marriage is when our love for one another is finally put to test which begs the ultimate question: how much do you really, really love him or her? Will you continue to love despite all odds? When you look at your life partner tonight, take time to remember why you chose this special person to be part of your life. Do you truly love this person or was it all just an illusion? Why did you marry him or her in the first place? Always remember how your partner makes you feel or did for you and you'll know what to do.

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Back to the Grind Already?

Doesn't the holidays feel shorter the older we get? Some colleagues and friends have already returned to work yesterday. What's the hurry? After a busy year working round the clock, I'm in no hurry to return and slave away at my desk. What difference does a couple of days make anyway? In this workaholic culture which our society has embraced with open arms, relationships and family ties diminish while work gets more demanding as though we are being punished for putting family first. Work will always be there and piling on us but our family won't always be around. We need to make time for them and not let our family be our time fillers. Who are we without them? What are we after? Success? Power? Money? The society worships success far too much. While it's important to strive for success, it should never come at the cost of relationships and much needed rest. The fact that I can sit down and talk to someone I care about is a much bigger accomplishment than compromising my values and overworking myself so that I can get recognition from my boss. How about you? What's most important for you?

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Pick Up Your Phone and Start Calling

Some of us may not have the company of family and friends this festive season. Maybe you just can't wait for the public holidays to be over just so you can go back to work and continue the monotonous but self-assuring momentum work provides. Maybe you hate the empty walls and the fact that everyone else have someone to spend the new year with. Truth is, the world can only get as lonely as you allow it to be. To get out of the rut, sometimes, we just need to make that phone call or see a friend who will gladly share their new year with you. Open your heart and let people in. Nothing can be as meaningful as fostering relationships then watching them grow. While relishing sadness and self-pity can be somewhat addictive and strangely satisfying, it's a rabbit hole you can fall in and never get out. The only way is to take that first step, get out of your home, call someone whom you want as a friend and meet that person. I assure you, it will definitely change your life, as simple as it may sound. As introverted as you may be, we are designed to be with other human beings. No one should be alone, especially now that it's the holidays.

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Why It's Okay to Put Up with Annoying Questions During CNY

It's time of the year again to kickstart yet another cycle, beginning with this tradition that never gets too old. Whether you are playing host or visiting family and friends, remember to always be courteous and kind. Connecting to our roots is an important part of our identity that keeps us grounded with the facts of life. It reminds us of who we were and who we've become; we may not realise that until we reach out to others and make an effort to stay connected. Sure, lots of unpleasant questions are asked during this festive season by insiquitive individuals. We expect them. The real question is, are any of those questions that arise in the exchange of words really matter or make you reflect on how you can be a better you? Some questions are routine but others may trigger a deeper question that could point towards our direction in life, our values and possibly, even our dreams. How much do we let others in during interactions when we know we can trust them? How can staying connected with them help us grow as a person? Most of all, do we enjoy their company and if we do, why do we only meet once a year during the festive season? That's something to ponder about. May you have a wonderful New Year.