Ten's Collection Of Stuff

You can call me Ten. Pronouns are he/him/his. I'm European.

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Hey followers Tenander here! I’m going to be making a new tumblr (same old name though don’t worry). I want to try being more confident in my creative activities and my own tastes and there’s a lot of baggage in this one that weighs me down. I need to do some emotional and mental house cleaning. 

I’m not gonna delete this one, because it’s also full of good things, but I will stop using or regularly checking it, and I’ve renamed it. Link to the new one: https://tenander.tumblr.com/ for those of you who want to continue to follow me. 

last reblog of this for now

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Hey followers Tenander here! I’m going to be making a new tumblr (same old name though don’t worry). I want to try being more confident in my creative activities and my own tastes and there’s a lot of baggage in this one that weighs me down. I need to do some emotional and mental house cleaning. 

I’m not gonna delete this one, because it’s also full of good things, but I will stop using or regularly checking it, and I’ve renamed it. Link to the new one: https://tenander.tumblr.com/ for those of you who want to continue to follow me. 

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Hey followers Tenander here! I’m going to be making a new tumblr (same old name though don’t worry). I want to try being more confident in my creative activities and my own tastes and there’s a lot of baggage in this one that weighs me down. I need to do some emotional and mental house cleaning. 

I’m not gonna delete this one, because it’s also full of good things, but I will stop using or regularly checking it, and I’ve renamed it. Link to the new one: https://tenander.tumblr.com/ for those of you who want to continue to follow me. 

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Hey followers Tenander here! I’m going to be making a new tumblr (same old name though don’t worry). I want to try being more confident in my creative activities and my own tastes and there’s a lot of baggage in this one that weighs me down. I need to do some emotional and mental house cleaning. 

I’m not gonna delete this one, because it’s also full of good things, but I will stop using or regularly checking it, and I’ve renamed it. Link to the new one will be incoming soon for those of you who want to continue to follow me. 

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Every single attempt of mine to maintain a community has failed.  My attempts to reach out to others are being ignored at an alarmingly increasing rate. 

My brain gremlin tells me that either  a) I was cursed by the first person who ever ghosted me,  b) everyone secretly hates me and doesn’t have the guts to tell me or c) I am just such a pointless, useless, valueless being, I might as well be a ghost, a nothing.

Look, brain gremlin,  a) I get it, it’s hard to stay rational after these many rejections, but we’ve never been superstitious before and we will not start now, b) that ‘everyone’ includes several complete strangers so this is just nonsensical and c) you are wrong. I am funny, I am kind, I am pretty creative, my heart’s in several right places and I always work on the wrong ones, and what negative qualities I do have are not outnumbering or outdoing my good ones. 

The problem is that despite what I just said... I’ve been kinda believing you about option c anyway, haven’t I, brain gremlin. More importantly, I am presenting myself like I believe it. Like there is nothing to my existence worth talking about anymore, so I don’t. How will other people see my worth if I don’t show it?

I want to make change. If what I did so far is not good enough, then I need to do new things.

My brain gremlin tells me it’s just another desperate attempt at being relevant to others, fake and doomed to fail like everything before has failed. 

I don’t know if brain gremlin is right. But if I all I feel is loneliness and bitterness anyway, I have nothing to lose by trying. 

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A lot of the advice I got about learning to enforce my boundaries was framed as an adversarial thing. Like, ‘yes, it might upset and disappoint the people around you, but you have to learn to tell them ‘no’ anyway.’ At best, ‘good people will still like you if you enforce your boundaries’.

What I wish I’d been told is that good people will think it's awesome that you enforce your boundaries, that there are people who will respect the hell out of you for it, that there are people who will admire you not despite you telling them no, but because of it. That most people don’t want to make you do something you don’t enjoy,and so they’ll actively be happier and more relaxed around you if they know they can trust you to decline to do things you don’t enjoy and to ask them to stop things that bother you.

It helped me a lot, personally, to stop thinking of ‘enforcing my boundaries’ as something I did for me and more as something I did to empower the people I was close with, to build a situation where they and I felt sure everything that was going on was something we all wanted.

Most advice isn’t good for everyone and this advice seems maybe bad for people in abusive situations, because sometimes you do need to learn to enforce boundaries against people who will try to violate them. But if there are other brains like me out there: your partner will be really happy you can say no to them. your friend will be really happy you change the subject when you hate it. your roommate will really appreciate that you tell them to turn down the music. most people will feel safer and more comfortable around you if they know you’ll reliably express your needs, AND they’ll feel better about voicing theirs.

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this feels appropriate

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“I’ll stab your liver!”

~ Zavuth, Gnome Rogue, not appreciating her teammate

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Good luck, my US followers! I’m crossing my fingers for you. (Unless you voted Republican in which case get the fuck away from me.)

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Main lesson to take away from today’s successful (late) Halloween session of Sky’s End: background music is EVERYTHING

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It’s 2:15. 

In an hour it’ll be 2:15. 

The hour I am in right now does not exist. 

Happy Halloween. 

[digitalpoltergeist]

Practice portrait before I start doing anything more ambitious!

Bonus under the cut :U

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zodiarch

  American, trying to illustrate just how tiny her...

:o how does it go in germany? (also what does it explain)

Our schools are generally for no more than a couple hundred students, with class room sizes generally between 10 to 20! (Or at least they were when I went to school.) I knew every single student who graduated with me by first and last name, and more than half of them on a personal basis, and that’s perfectly normal. 

And it explains so much about why the US education system is so awful. Like, how can you humanly (and financially) offer appropriate care and education to so many people at once! 

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American, trying to illustrate just how tiny her hometown was: There were 115 kids in my graduating class! Me:

Husband: Yeah, America has schools with thousands of students. 

Me:

[wolpaw]

When the last human is finally destroyed

[im-fckn-cook]

If I have to watch this robot twerk, you all do 😂

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Hhhhhhhh the new Campaign is reeaaaally good. Dem sky pirates, dat music, dem Gable.

[phantomdoodler]

my favorite pairings are the ones that you can’t even bring yourself to care if it’s platonic or romantic or sexual or all of the above they just need to be together and happy and happy together