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Two icons were lost this week to suicide, but their contributions to the world will never be forgotten. Kate Spade made the fashionably unattainable attainable and @anthonybourdainās exploration of culture through food opened our eyes to the world. Both will be sorely missed.
Remember, no matter what you are going through, you donāt have to go through it alone. There are resources available to help you.
Please donāt hesitate to reach out if you need it, Tumblr.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Available 24/7 at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
NAMI (@namiorg): Dedicated to improving the lives of anyone living with mental illness. Free to chat at 1-800-950-6264. Free support 24/7 Text NAMI to 741741
The Trevor Project (@thetrevorproject): Confidential suicide hotline for LGBTQ+ young people. Available 24/7 at 1-866-488-7386.
Iām always wary of sharing this info because I think most people in that position donāt want to reach out for help (I know when Iām at my lowest I donāt want to talk to anyone). But if it helps even one person, itās worth sharing. I lost an old friend to suicide in 2009. I wish he was still around and that Iād made more an effort to keep in touch when he was.
Photographer Captures the Mystifying Moods of Mount Fuji at Dawn
Beautiful.
Getting ready for solitude
Cuthbert finally got his plane tickets to Very Distant Country for this summer and heās going to be gone for almost two months this time. My heart really sank when he told me. I know he has a lot to take care of at home with his mom and other family stuff, but heās never stayed that long before. And this is Ariaās last summer at home before college.
Yes, she graduated from high school last week. It was a harrowing experience because people who assaulted her, threatened her, and just dumped her as friends were there. She had to take some Xanax just to get through everything. How fucked up is that? These assholes are just celebrating and enjoying themselves and sheās struggling just to get through it. She never has to see them again, so thatās some consolation.
But back to the summer. Aria (so far) has no plans other than a road trip with a good friend next weekend. Iām teaching an online class in a few weeks so until then Iām trying to recover from everything and figure out how to keep busy with no husband around and no friends. I always manage. TV is my closest companion. Iāll cook. Iāll bake. Iāll pretend that Iām going to finish this paper that just canāt seem to to die. Iāll worry about how weāre going to pay for Ariaās college tuition. Weāll be borrowing money, but I have this fear that sheāll get through the first year and Iāll be denied loans for her to continue. I have good credit so it should be fine, but thatās what I do. I worry. And when Iām here with nothing to occupy me I worry more. And I feel trapped in the house because itās so hot and humid and thereās so much pollen. No reason to go outside unless I have to.
Well this turned into a downer post. Sorry! Iāve never had a productive summer in the years Iāve been in this job. So I donāt have high hopes for that. I just hope to spend some time with Aria before she moves away. Itās hard to imagine life without her here. And everything feels like such a letdown after the craziness of the semester ending, family coming to town, Ariaās graduation. I relish the break, but I also fear it. I do much better with something to keep me busy.
Sorry for the lack of postings- maybe Iāll be inspired to write more over here this summer. Weāll see...
Happy New Year!
I recently heard from an old blogging pal so felt inspired to come over here and write something. Since itās been so long since I posted, letās do some random bullets:
Aria applied to colleges and has been accepted at two so far including her top choice which is the only arts school she applied to. Now weāre just trying to see if we can pay for it between scholarships, loans, and savings. Fingers crossed!
Cuthbert didnāt go to Very Distant Country this winter so weāre all home for a change. A nice change.
Itās been insanely cold here (like the whole eastern US), so my attitude about not minding winter is fading fast. 20s and 30s are one thing, but sub-zero?!? No thanks.
Iām teaching online this winter and also need to plan for spring classes. AND get some fucking research done....
Research. Yes, Iām still not giving up on promotion. If I can get this paper that wonāt die accepted AND one more by May I can actually go up for promotion. I was optimistic about it last fall, but now that May is getting closer Iām feeling less positive. We shall see.
Thatās it for now- need to drive Aria to school soon. Iāll see if I can get back to posting here a bit more.
Aria and I took a quick trip to Mountain City (400 miles away) to see my favorite band last weekend. It was so hot and humid, but we had fun anyway. It was nice to get out of town- even if it was just for a couple days. Cuthbert got home the day after we did, so weāre all here now and Iām struggling with getting back into work mode. Iāve done a little research work this week, but today Iām not feeling it so spent some time on Fall syllabi. And we donāt start classes for more than a month! At least Iām doing something productive.
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Summer Vacation
Cuthbert is almost coming home (finally), but Aria and I are taking a quick road trip later this week to see my favorite band (400 miles away!). Weāve seen them twice before, but the only time theyāre coming within two hours of us on this tour is at a giant music festival today. I didnāt want to trek down there for a music festival when I really just want to see them, so instead weāre heading to Mountain Town where we took another mother-daughter trip five years ago (see photo above).
Weāve stopped there on a trip or two since then (all three of us), but it was always just a stop on the way somewhere else. I loved that trip in 2012. We went shopping, had our nails done, had facials, saw Moonlight Kingdom in a theater that sells beer, drove around to see the natural sites, and had a great time. But a lot of things have changed since then. Aria has been diagnosed with an eating disorder, seemingly recovered, relapsed, then finally got thorough help and is doing great now. She was a moody preteen on that trip, but I had no idea was else was going on. That it wasnāt just being a grumpy 12-year-old. Sheās 17 and about to start her senior year in high school. Iām so proud of her and so thrilled that sheās doing well and seems happy with life.
Itās a really quick trip this time, but nice that we get to go somewhere this summer at all. I wouldnāt want to leave for weeks and weeks and go to Very Distant Country with Cuthbert, but I feel bad that we didnāt go anywhere. This should be fun and I know Aria is looking forward to it, too.
Knowing when to stop
In my research, it can be challenging to know when to stop trying additional methods and when to just write up what youāve done and get the damn paper submitted. I am currently struggling with this in the case of a paper revision. The paper took too long for us to finish and we felt somewhat āscoopedā by another study that came out just as we were submitting to a journal. Our study is different in a number of ways, but when our reviews came back it seems likely that the other paperās author was one of the reviewers and thought that we duplicated their work too much (even though we did our analysis long before they did and just took too long writing it up). In an effort to revise the paper, Iām trying some additional analysis, but am encountering this issue of: well letās try this, too! The paper is already long (just around 5000 words) so I donāt want to add more, but still want to make clear that our study is different. Co-authors are busy (one is out of the country and the other just moved plus has other projects), so Iām plugging along trying to make progress before summer runs out. Whole situation is frustrating since Iāve been presenting parts of the work at conferences for over TWO YEARS, wrote up draft of the paper in late 2015, then waited for co-authors for over a year before we submitted. Sigh. Just one more reason Iām never getting promoted.
UGH!
Iāve got another never-going-to-get-promoted post brewing, but for now Iāll just say Iām having one of those days where I feel like a complete failure. Mediocrity. Thatās what Iāve got. Maybe a deep tissue massage then lunch will improve my mental state. Stay tuned.
And because of my post title: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hXaU0QzByIM
Canāt believe it took people this long to figure out the Time Magazine hanging in Trumpās golf courses is fake.
High school reportedly considering expulsion after student wears off-the-shoulder top
Hickory Ridge High School honor roll student Summer was weeks away from graduating when she did the unthinkable:Ā She wore an off-the-shoulder top.Ā
Now, she says sheās been slapped with a 10-day suspension, banned from walking in her commencement ceremony, possibly facing expulsion and is worried about losing her college scholarships.
According to NBC Charlotte, Summer was wearing the top on Wednesday when, she said, the principal approached her in the cafeteria to ask if she had a jacket to cover up. Read more (5/23/17)
This is so fucking stupid. WOMEN'S BODIES ARE NOT CAUSING THE DOWNFALL OF SOCIETY.
Trump appeared to push a world leader at the NATO summit
For someone so desperate for people to like him, he sure is terrible at interacting with everyone. What a disrespectful asshole. And why does he think that NATO is a protection racket? Heās an embarrassment to the United States.
The cosmos is within us. We are made of star-stuff. We are a way for the cosmos to know itself.
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