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daily self care checklist ft. emojis✨ get enough rest • take your meds • stay hydrated • and eat enough food 💕

Two icons were lost this week to suicide, but their contributions to the world will never be forgotten. Kate Spade made the fashionably unattainable attainable and @anthonybourdain’s exploration of culture through food opened our eyes to the world. Both will be sorely missed.

Remember, no matter what you are going through, you don’t have to go through it alone. There are resources available to help you.

Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you need it, Tumblr.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Available 24/7 at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

NAMI (@namiorg): Dedicated to improving the lives of anyone living with mental illness. Free to chat at 1-800-950-6264. Free support 24/7 Text NAMI to 741741

The Trevor Project (@thetrevorproject): Confidential suicide hotline for LGBTQ+ young people. Available 24/7 at 1-866-488-7386.

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I’m always wary of sharing this info because I think most people in that position don’t want to reach out for help (I know when I’m at my lowest I don’t want to talk to anyone). But if it helps even one person, it’s worth sharing. I lost an old friend to suicide in 2009. I wish he was still around and that I’d made more an effort to keep in touch when he was.

#depression #suicide

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Photographer Captures the Mystifying Moods of Mount Fuji at Dawn

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Beautiful.

#Takashi Nakazawa #Your Shot #Mount Fuji #landscape photography

Getting ready for solitude

Cuthbert finally got his plane tickets to Very Distant Country for this summer and he’s going to be gone for almost two months this time. My heart really sank when he told me. I know he has a lot to take care of at home with his mom and other family stuff, but he’s never stayed that long before. And this is Aria’s last summer at home before college.

Yes, she graduated from high school last week. It was a harrowing experience because people who assaulted her, threatened her, and just dumped her as friends were there. She had to take some Xanax just to get through everything. How fucked up is that? These assholes are just celebrating and enjoying themselves and she’s struggling just to get through it. She never has to see them again, so that’s some consolation.

But back to the summer. Aria (so far) has no plans other than a road trip with a good friend next weekend. I’m teaching an online class in a few weeks so until then I’m trying to recover from everything and figure out how to keep busy with no husband around and no friends. I always manage. TV is my closest companion. I’ll cook. I’ll bake. I’ll pretend that I’m going to finish this paper that just can’t seem to to die. I’ll worry about how we’re going to pay for Aria’s college tuition. We’ll be borrowing money, but I have this fear that she’ll get through the first year and I’ll be denied loans for her to continue. I have good credit so it should be fine, but that’s what I do. I worry. And when I’m here with nothing to occupy me I worry more. And I feel trapped in the house because it’s so hot and humid and there’s so much pollen. No reason to go outside unless I have to.

Well this turned into a downer post. Sorry! I’ve never had a productive summer in the years I’ve been in this job. So I don’t have high hopes for that. I just hope to spend some time with Aria before she moves away. It’s hard to imagine life without her here. And everything feels like such a letdown after the craziness of the semester ending, family coming to town, Aria’s graduation. I relish the break, but I also fear it. I do much better with something to keep me busy.

Sorry for the lack of postings- maybe I’ll be inspired to write more over here this summer. We’ll see...

#family #isolation #summer

Happy New Year!

I recently heard from an old blogging pal so felt inspired to come over here and write something. Since it’s been so long since I posted, let’s do some random bullets:

Aria applied to colleges and has been accepted at two so far including her top choice which is the only arts school she applied to. Now we’re just trying to see if we can pay for it between scholarships, loans, and savings. Fingers crossed!

Cuthbert didn’t go to Very Distant Country this winter so we’re all home for a change. A nice change.

It’s been insanely cold here (like the whole eastern US), so my attitude about not minding winter is fading fast. 20s and 30s are one thing, but sub-zero?!? No thanks.

I’m teaching online this winter and also need to plan for spring classes. AND get some fucking research done....

Research. Yes, I’m still not giving up on promotion. If I can get this paper that won’t die accepted AND one more by May I can actually go up for promotion. I was optimistic about it last fall, but now that May is getting closer I’m feeling less positive. We shall see.

That’s it for now- need to drive Aria to school soon. I’ll see if I can get back to posting here a bit more.

#RBOC #family #research #teaching #winter

Aria and I took a quick trip to Mountain City (400 miles away) to see my favorite band last weekend. It was so hot and humid, but we had fun anyway. It was nice to get out of town- even if it was just for a couple days. Cuthbert got home the day after we did, so we’re all here now and I’m struggling with getting back into work mode. I’ve done a little research work this week, but today I’m not feeling it so spent some time on Fall syllabi. And we don’t start classes for more than a month! At least I’m doing something productive.

#family #work #vacation #road trip

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Save Snopes, The Internet Fact Checking Site Turns to Crowdfunding to Keep Their Virtual Doors Open

#save Snopes.com #snopes #fact checking

📷 Aria in 2012.

Summer Vacation

Cuthbert is almost coming home (finally), but Aria and I are taking a quick road trip later this week to see my favorite band (400 miles away!). We’ve seen them twice before, but the only time they’re coming within two hours of us on this tour is at a giant music festival today. I didn’t want to trek down there for a music festival when I really just want to see them, so instead we’re heading to Mountain Town where we took another mother-daughter trip five years ago (see photo above).

We’ve stopped there on a trip or two since then (all three of us), but it was always just a stop on the way somewhere else. I loved that trip in 2012. We went shopping, had our nails done, had facials, saw Moonlight Kingdom in a theater that sells beer, drove around to see the natural sites, and had a great time. But a lot of things have changed since then. Aria has been diagnosed with an eating disorder, seemingly recovered, relapsed, then finally got thorough help and is doing great now. She was a moody preteen on that trip, but I had no idea was else was going on. That it wasn’t just being a grumpy 12-year-old. She’s 17 and about to start her senior year in high school. I’m so proud of her and so thrilled that she’s doing well and seems happy with life.

It’s a really quick trip this time, but nice that we get to go somewhere this summer at all. I wouldn’t want to leave for weeks and weeks and go to Very Distant Country with Cuthbert, but I feel bad that we didn’t go anywhere. This should be fun and I know Aria is looking forward to it, too.

#family #road trip #summer

Knowing when to stop

In my research, it can be challenging to know when to stop trying additional methods and when to just write up what you’ve done and get the damn paper submitted. I am currently struggling with this in the case of a paper revision. The paper took too long for us to finish and we felt somewhat “scooped” by another study that came out just as we were submitting to a journal. Our study is different in a number of ways, but when our reviews came back it seems likely that the other paper’s author was one of the reviewers and thought that we duplicated their work too much (even though we did our analysis long before they did and just took too long writing it up). In an effort to revise the paper, I’m trying some additional analysis, but am encountering this issue of: well let’s try this, too! The paper is already long (just around 5000 words) so I don’t want to add more, but still want to make clear that our study is different. Co-authors are busy (one is out of the country and the other just moved plus has other projects), so I’m plugging along trying to make progress before summer runs out. Whole situation is frustrating since I’ve been presenting parts of the work at conferences for over TWO YEARS, wrote up draft of the paper in late 2015, then waited for co-authors for over a year before we submitted. Sigh. Just one more reason I’m never getting promoted.

UGH!

I’ve got another never-going-to-get-promoted post brewing, but for now I’ll just say I’m having one of those days where I feel like a complete failure. Mediocrity. That’s what I’ve got. Maybe a deep tissue massage then lunch will improve my mental state. Stay tuned.

And because of my post title: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hXaU0QzByIM

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Can’t believe it took people this long to figure out the Time Magazine hanging in Trump’s golf courses is fake.

#LOL #Funny or Die #Drumpf #fake magazine cover

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High school reportedly considering expulsion after student wears off-the-shoulder top

Hickory Ridge High School honor roll student Summer was weeks away from graduating when she did the unthinkable: She wore an off-the-shoulder top.

Now, she says she’s been slapped with a 10-day suspension, banned from walking in her commencement ceremony, possibly facing expulsion and is worried about losing her college scholarships.

According to NBC Charlotte, Summer was wearing the top on Wednesday when, she said, the principal approached her in the cafeteria to ask if she had a jacket to cover up. Read more (5/23/17)

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This is so fucking stupid. WOMEN'S BODIES ARE NOT CAUSING THE DOWNFALL OF SOCIETY.

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Trump appeared to push a world leader at the NATO summit

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For someone so desperate for people to like him, he sure is terrible at interacting with everyone. What a disrespectful asshole. And why does he think that NATO is a protection racket? He’s an embarrassment to the United States.