[slfcare]

If you’re unhappy with who you are, view yourself as a foundation. You will expand, you will grow and you will reassess, while also realizing that who you are is necessary to who you’re becoming, and that there’s an inherent goodness inside of you already. It’s okay to start from where you are, with who you are.

[recomvery]

"If they wanted to they would" is a nice saying and all, but if you don't clearly speak up to people about what you want and expect and what would make you happy and then they don't meet those expectations and you're out here saying, well, If they wanted to they would, maybe you're more responsible for that than you think you are.

[ousia-poetica]

[hypergamiss]

Inflation can’t even keep up with the cost of having access to me these days

[thepersonalquotes]

““Don’t let the concept of change scare you as much as the prospect of remaining unhappy.” - Timber Hawkeye”

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[thepowerwithin]

Take a moment to appreciate all that you are, have been, and who you are to become. You have come so far, have learned so much, and have done so well. Yet, you have so much distance to travel forward, so much left to experience and marvel. You’ve done a magnificent job, but get ready because there’s still so much more for you.

Dr. Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin

[thepersonalquotes]

““Every person from your past lives as a shadow in your mind. Good or bad, they all helped you write the story of your life, and shaped the person you are today.” - Doe Zantamata”

—

[2productive]

get used to casual glamour. you don't need to wait for "deserving" times to indulge. have glam as your basic setting. get your nails done, do your hair, wear your expensive makeup and perfumes, take that bag out. wear those silk pajamas and eat that fancy food. casual glam sets a standard for you. make it your new normal.

[thoughtkick]

“Never let the memories of the way things were, blind you from seeing the reality of the way things are.”

— Unknown

[theambitiouswoman]

[thoughtkick]

“There are so many beautiful reasons to be happy.”

— Unknown

[thatbitchery]

Sweets you have to downgrade your goals. You have to take your wants and wishes and desires from that pedestal you have them on and make it look and feel normal, even when it isn't yet. You have to stop desiring it and start expecting it. Why wouldn't it come to you? You've put in the work. You're focused. You're praying about it. You've done your part. Of course it'll come to you. Why would it not? You want it. You get it.

Make 100k months look normal. Make loving relationships look normal. Make people respecting you look normal. Make getting paid look normal. Make passing exams look normal. Stop worshipping your goals, make that shit look normal. See next month of course you'll get paid more, you've put in the work. Obviously you'll get paid more duh.

Get the drift? Tell yourself that shit is normal. Walk into that luxury store like you belong there and think wow that 10k Chanel bag is cute, I'll come back get it, like it's normal routine for you even if you only have 10$ on you. It's not that big of a deal, its normal. You wanted it so ofcos you get it . You're a woman. You're provided for. By GOD. This shit is normal

[2productive]

Reflections on building a better me

Exercise is not optional. Mental satisfaction from completing yet another workout cannot be overstated. Physical satisfaction from feeling good and enjoying your body in clothes, the mirror, and photos cannot be overstated. Stop messing around, stop info hoarding, go exercise. And tomorrow. And the next day. And the next day. And the next day.

Looking your best depending on circumstances (ie, casual, dressy, bedtime, etc) is not optional. External confidence from taking care of your appearance top to bottom and loving what you see in the mirror is highly valuable.

You feel better when you eat better. You’re proud of yourself when you eat better.

Hobbies, hobbies, hobbies. Do you feel embarrassed when someone asks what you do all day and you can’t come up with an honest answer that doesn’t make you sound like a loser with no life? You need hobbies. Some that are outdoors, some that are indoors. Some that are taxing, some that are relaxing. You will enjoy life more, become a more well-rounded individual, and have positive ways to spend your time rather than racking up more hours on your phone. Get some hobbies. Plural.

Procrastination and laziness should disgust you. You shouldn’t be able to relate. You should strive to be above that. You like yourself better when you complete your tasks and get things done in a timely manner. You’re proud of yourself when you’re on a roll and have a productive streak. You’re impressed by productive people and no one likes a lazy bum.

Decide what you want from life and pursue it ruthlessly. Don’t take advice from people who don’t have the life you want, unless they were once on your desired path and fell off. Even then, you listen to them when they say what NOT to do (learning from their mistakes) but clearly they don’t know what TO do bc they didn’t make it to the finish line. Take “do this” advice from people who crossed the finish line and have what you want. You’ll find that the amount of input that is actually valuable to you has suddenly dwindled. Good. Less chatter in your ears.

Get yourself in order before you go around critiquing everyone else. Get YOUR face in order. Get YOUR body right. Get YOUR money up. Get YOUR style in order. Get YOUR relationship together.

Stop coming to everyone for validation like a toddler. Validate yourself. Do you like it? Okay then. Are you over it? Okay then. Stop being so weak. Stand tall, lead yourself. Stop being such a follower.

Be a good person. Help your family, lend a hand to strangers, give back, say sorry, do things for loved ones just because, show affection, work things out, watch your mouth, speak respectfully, remember that the world owes you nothing. Stop being an insufferable freak.

You can’t change anyone but yourself. Get yourself in order and be a good role model. That’s all you can do. Give people advice when they want it and then go about your business. Get yourself in order. Get yourself in order.

Outrage content is the lowest form of entertainment. Engage in things that make you happy or educate you. Doom scrolling only leads to doom. Don’t like this person? Don’t click on their articles or videos. Unfollow and block. Don’t like these people? Leave their spaces. You don’t have to be outraged every day.

Always keep your word to yourself. Make a plan, stick to the plan, always deliver. If you can’t be reliable for yourself then who can you be reliable for?

[2productive]

Scary Close - Donald Miller

[unfvzed]

just beautiful! 💞

[thoughtkick]

“To find peace, sometimes you have to be willing to lose your connection with people, places and things that create all the noise in your life.”

— lieinlove

[thagoddess]

@Bayou_doll

[thagoddess]

@Bayou_doll