How would propose marriage to a another also how would wedding propose worked out
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In Chapter 40 of Heta World Stars, Veneziano and Germany visit Verona and the Casa de Giulietta. When Veneziano suggests that they touch the statue to make sure they’ll get happily married, Germany says they “can’t get married anyway.” This, and how marriage is portrayed in the series through Austria-Hungary and others, lead me to believe nations normally don’t just get married on a whim. Nation marriage is primarily a political affair that’s joining two countries in a union, but sometimes romantic feelings develop later, as in the case of AusHun.
Now how does this affect Romerica? Outside of a very AU fic, they might not actually be able to get married as nations. And because of who they are as people, a political union would be the opposite of romantic to them. Romano would reasonably be worried about getting controlled in a scenario where he politically married a country that’s much more powerful than him, and America led a Revolution to be an independent country, so I can’t see him wanting to form a political union because he’s in love. But the thing is, I think they might want to get married, the way humans do. America, because he’s more idealistic, is the one more likely to propose marriage in nation verse. I think he does it as a spur of the moment thing, because he’s so in love with Romano, as I wrote in one of my fics. Or maybe he proposed shortly after the Obergefell ruling, which made same-sex marriage legal in all 50 states. He was riding high on the happiness of his people, and maybe he met an elderly couple who’ve known each other for decades like he’s known Romano, and that inspired him to propose. In nation verse, America is scared of frightening Romano off with a marriage proposal he misinterprets, so he makes it very clear he’s proposing as Alfred, not the United States of America. Romano happily accepts what America is offering, if they can get married that way. If they can’t get officially married in nation verse, they could hold some private ceremony with friends and family members, wear rings, and still act like a married couple for all intents and purposes.
In human AUs, it’s obviously a lot simpler. Either one might propose, but they would go about it differently. America is more likely to propose spontaneously and in a goofy way (in one fic, he was wearing a bedsheet and holding out a Ring Pop, which made sense in context). Romano would plan out a proposal, and he would do it in a more traditionally romantic way, with a romantic date or something that’s very special to them as a couple. Romano would have a prepared speech he’d nervously deliver, and he would make America listen to the entire speech without interrupting (although America would be interrupting to say yes, of course). America just kind of wings the speech, but it ends up being very sweet and heartfelt, if a bit more bumbling. Romano is opposed to huge public proposals on principle, because he thinks it puts pressure on the person being proposed to and doesn’t let them give an honest answer. He would be embarrassed if he was proposed to in front of an audience, especially a huge one. In one of my fics, he proposed to America at a family gathering, but took him aside and did it in another room where they could speak in private. America likes the spectacle of big public proposals, but he knows how Romano feels and doesn’t want to risk him saying no because of the way he proposed. So, if he were doing something more planned out, he’d try to make it “grand” without embarrassing Romano. And, if he had the resources, he would shoot off fireworks after Romano said yes.
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