The Agent U Show: Extended Edition

(19 | M | FL | White cishet scum) Hi, everyone, I'm baaack! I've taken over this account from radical-feminist-writes, and this time it's for good! I'm a MRS (Men's Rights Slactivist) and a generally embarassing person to be around.

[severeobjectfun]

Dear teen girls,

Stop abusing your boyfriends and yes what you are doing is abuse.

Stop:

Yelling at him in front of his friends 

Hitting or slapping him when he does or says something you don’t like

Telling him he doesn’t have a choice when it comes to decisions that involve both of you 

Telling him he can’t hang out with friends because you don’t like him

Telling him to not talk to other girls even if they are his friend

Forcing him to spend every moment with you 

Belittling him and pointing out all his flaws

Calling him stupid or making fun of him for making a mistake

Threatening to break up with him if he doesn’t do what you want

Being emotionally manipulative and crying until he does what you want

Accusing him of cheating every time he’s not with you

Blow up is phone if he doesn’t text you every five minutes 

Telling him you are the must thing that has ever happened to him and no one else will love

Physically attacking him when ever you are mad

Forcing him to have sex despite that fact that he said he didn’t want to

Invading his privacy by going through his phone

Getting mad at him for changing his password and demanding he tell you what it is

If a guy did any of these things to a girl it would be considered abuse but since its the other way around its considered normal. Throughout High school I saw many girl treating their boyfriends like shit. Sometime even physically abusing them in the hallways and no one trying to stop it because its a girl attacking a boy. 

Boys: If your girlfriend does anything on this list leave her. It is abuse and you deserve better.

Girls: if you find your self doing anything on this list to your boyfriend you need to knock it off because you are being abusive. 

[dynastylnoire]

!!!!!!!! My brother was abused by his babies mom and it started like this and escalated to child abuse and neglect.

You don’t deserve to be screamed at, ignored, or assaulted.

Not showing affection when she wants or not hugging her before class) or missing a phone call doesn’t warrant getting cussed out or hit.

[fvlani]

Lol, I lost 5 followers from reblogging this. That’s fine, y'all can go

[onlyblackgirl]

Whole lot of grown women do this too.

[engel-tier-deactivated20180213]

Just wanna throw these in too

Being passive aggressive with him when he wants to spend time with friends or doing other things 

controlling when he’s able to go out with friends

Breaking up his friendships with other girls just because you’re insecure

Making him feel like his opinions in decisions that affect the both of you are irrelevant and don’t matter

SENDING HIS NUMBER TO STRANGERS TO TEST IF HE’S LOYAL OR NOT

testing him in anyway in general without his knowledge or permission (example: catfishing! it’s manipulative and weird don’t fucking do that)

taking money/credit cards without permission to spend on things without his knowledge ( had an ex friend do this constantly to her boyfriend and she’d always condone it because “he’ll get over it” )

guilting him for hanging out with friends/family over you  and making him choose between you and friends/family

telling him “you don’t love me if you *insert harmless activity he wants to do here* “

being rude or mean to him in front of others to assert dominance or power over him

downloading apps to spy on his phone activity (yes, this is a thing “”regular”” people do) or snooping on his social media to see who he’s talking to

hitting him, slapping him, punching him, shoving him. literally how do people not understand slapping your male partner is bad. people tend to find this funny in media and society and its weird. KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF YOUR PARTNER WITHOUT PERMISSION. 

I come from a family of very forward and manipulative women and i see it in media all the time. it’s fucked and people need to not be accepting of young girls acting like snot-nosed, abusive shit heads that think they can get away with manipulation and cruelty because they happen to be girls.

[alwaysbewoke]

and let me add this. ABUSIVE TEEN GIRLFRIENDS TURN INTO ABUSIVE GROWN ASS WOMEN GIRLFRIENDS WHO TURN INTO ABUSIVE WIVES.

if you have an abusive teen or young adult gf right now fellas, leave. don’t let her use you to get her shit right. you’ll be so fucked up by the time she gets it together if she ever does and believe that most likely she won’t.  

[spoonmeb]

Can i just add that ive seen young queer girls do this to their girlfriends. Girls can be abusers and you are right to leave. 

[purpleandpinkhouses]

Women/young girls can definitely be just as abusive. I knew a young man that got ran over and had his leg broken by his girlfriend because (in her words he annoyed her) He refused to press charges. Another young lady started to hit her ex boyfriend because he wouldn’t take her back because of the abuse. He called the cops on her and they literally started laughing at him because she was very petite in comparison to him. Anyone can be abusive and I wish more people understood that.

[madhattey-deactivated20211019]

dammit I’d spam my blog if i reblog this more than once but dude this is really important.

[dateaboysuggestions]

Date a boy whose bigger than you, but wants to be the little spoon

[the-agent-u-show-blog]

that me

[onedarkmarch-blog-deactivated20]

A revision and extension of my rant a couple posts ago

I feel that at the time I felt I could not really express myself in a way that was productive and clear. Now I wish to make myself a little clearer if possible. And I also want to go further and present some of the background to why I’m feeling like shit.

Last time I complained that I had hoped to experience something different in the RR community than what I see in society, namely a place where men are treated as creatures worthy of respect and care, as opposed to being disposable utilities for labor or money. I said that instead I saw nothing but porn and “men being treated as nothing but lapdogs”. By “lapdogs” I was referring to the representation of men in the RR community as lowly domesticated servants who “would do anything for their divine mistress”, and worship her like a goddess. All for little more than being petted on the head like a dog and told that they are “a good little boy”. I find this incredibly demeaning and I definitely wouldn’t like to be treated like this on a regular basis, I might like for a little bit during foreplay, but that is about it. And I have a hard time understanding why other men in the community are so interested in behaving this way, it almost seems like a form of emotional masochism to me.

On top of that, it doesn’t seem too different from the way gender roles normally operate in society. Men are expected to serve and protect women anyway, sacrifice everything for them, including their lives, act chivalrously and be happy with this role as servant for women, without expecting anything in return accept maybe a little gratitude. All this sort of “good boy” shit seems to me like nothing more than a sexualization of that gender role.

I know this might seem like I’m just complaining about chivalry, but I wouldn’t mind it so much if it was mutual, if women had the expectation and sense of duty to protect, care for, and sacrifice for men. Where is the chivalry for men? Do women have a responsibility to protect and sacrifice for others, to treat men with respect chivalry? Or does that job fall mostly or completely on the shoulders of men, are only men responsible for treating women with respect and chivalry? And is a little pat on the head and being called a “good little boy” the only thing men that should expect to get out of this? I feel like it is just so horribly one-sided.

And that is one of the reasons I came into the RR community. Because I expected to see something different than that, a true reversal of this gender role. I wanted to see this sort of chivalry and sense of duty being extended to men as well. Where men get to be the ones who are protected, who are treated as people worthy of respect and care, as people who the opposite gender (women) have a responsibility to be kind towards, like how it is vice versa. Where men aren’t the only ones who are expected to sacrifice for others, where women sacrifice for men as well. And instead of just being patronized as some lowly servant, I would like to be praised on merits other than just my blind servitude to a woman.

I guess I want some male version of being “treated like a lady”… “Treated like a Mansel?” I don’t know. I just get depressed sometimes. Western culture these days can be so brutal towards men. Men are treated like the enemy, the source of everyone’s problems in the media, in education, etc… Issues concerning their well being and rights are so often ridiculed and/or ignored. Issues such as male victims of rape and domestic violence, anti-male bias in divorce courts, the fact that males make up the vast majority of both successful suicides and homelessness, male genital mutilation, and the fact that men make up the majority of victims for all violent crime, even for rape when you include prison rape statistics. And whenever they complain about their issues they are told a bunch of things like “I love male tears”, “You know women obviously have it worse right”, “Oh what are you? Some sexist neckbeard MRA?”, “You know its probably their fault right.” or my personal favorite “But that is just the consequences they have to suffer for their male priviledge!” I really crave a place where men can be treated as precious creatures worthy of care and respect, rather than society’s eternal, disposable scapegoat. And that is what I wanted to find when I came here.

Sometimes it’s enough to me sick. Sometimes I just decide I want to give up and say, “You know what, maybe men just are disposable. Maybe it’s good that they are disposable. Maybe they don’t deserve to be treated as precious people, maybe they don’t deserve to be treated with the chivalry they give to others, Maybe they are supposed to be the only ones in society responsible for caring for, sacrificing for, serving and protecting others. Maybe its good that they are shamed, blamed, and ignored because they are male. Maybe that is just the proper order of things and I should just learn to accept it no matter how bitter of a pill to swallow it really is.” Sometimes I feel that if I gave up and just believed that then my life would be a lot easier than if I continued to struggle emotionally with these issues.

Another big reason I came into this community is because I really am attracted to the idea of being “the object of romantic attention”, for lack of a better term, of being the submissive and receptive partner. I like the idea of having a strong woman that looks out for me, that treats me as someone worthy of respect, not just her personal lapdog, who extends chivalrous gestures towards me, doing things like defending me when someone verbally or physically assaults me, walking me home at night, who goes out of her way for me, etc… I don’t know why I am this way but I am. I just seem to desire from a woman all the things a stereotypical girl would want from a man. And no matter how much I try to be “normal” or “straight”, I just can’t seem to change that about myself. And I was like that for a long time, pretty much since childhood. And for that reason I guess I feel like an alien who doesn’t belong in the world he was born into. I don’t see any opportunities for a relationship like that with any woman, especially any woman in a culture so dead set on treating men as if they’re disposable and not worth anyone’s time. Sometimes I would pray to God to change me, even if I wasn’t meant to be normal, so I could fit in with everybody else. I hate having strong romantic desires that I feel won’t ever be fulfilled, if anything they feel like nothing but a nuisance to me, something that remains in my hearts just so it can taunt me. 

Again, I feel like their are few options and that the best course of action for me is to choose the attitude that hurts less. And right now the attitude that seems least heartbreaking to me would be to accept that as a man, I don’t deserve things like chivalry, or a protective and self-sacrificing spouse, or respect as something more than just the opposite gender’s lapdog. To tell myself that even if I do deserve these things, I will never get them. It is not my place as a man to be an object of love, only of ridicule or utility.

I’m not any writing of this to gain sympathy points. Hell I imagine that, the way the culture is, I’ll probably get a lot of backlash for some of the shit I said here. Especially from gender ideologues who can’t view the world in a way that doesn’t involve the male gender being the main source of all the evil in the world. Ya, I can already hear a lot of their whining even now. I don’t expect to get effective therapy from tumblr, if anything this was pure catharsis and nothing more. And damn does catharsis feel good.

[acejk-arts]

FUCKING YESSSSS! IM SO HERE FOR THIS! Thank you for putting my thoughts into words!

Im so tired of acting like I have to be a “lady” or “feminine” when I get a boyfriend. That I have to make them my slave or servant for my pleasure or have to be submissive for them.

I just want a cute boyfriend that I can take care of and make blush and make him feel special. Why is that so difficult to understand?

[moonsqqvenus-deactivated2020031]

Femdom often bleeds into role reversal. I think the reason behind most of what OP has described is that many within the role reversal community confuse it with femdom, which is a separate topic. Being emotionally submissive doesn’t equal to being sexually submissive.

It’s interesting to hear about ‘not wanting to be a subject of ridicule and utility’ though. It’s true that in role reversal, guys are the ones who are cherished and looked after, for the most part. As a girl though, liking the idea of role reversal stems from not wanting to be treated like an object or possession to be owned. The disatisfaction towards gender roles on both ends are mutual in the sense that we all want to be treated as individuals of our own right. I really hope the concept of role reversal will be able to provide that for us all, in the long run.

[onedarkmarch-blog-deactivated20]

I’m asking this question honestly but, you don’t like “being treated like an object or possession,” so you revert to treating men like possessions? I’m asking this because their is a lot of stuff in your blog surrounding the idea of men being women’s personal pets.

[moonsqqvenus-deactivated2020031]

Yes, I do adore the puppy boy trope. No, I do not view men as pets. I enjoy the idea of having a partner to protect and cherish instead of it being the other way round. This does not apply to men in general, as men are not public property. No one is. The idea is that I am unhappy with how women are viewed (by general society) as public property to be claimed and made into a private possession, and want to go against that as I want to pursue, not be pursued. That seems to be the main idea that role reversal revolves around: women having the right to be active initiators and men having the right to not be, with neither being shamed for it. However, while the action is the same, the mindset should not be. Women shouldn’t operate with the same toxic mentality of ‘staking their claim’ in rr, since that is what we’re trying to do away with ourselves. Rather it’s about finding someone who isn’t uncomfortable and doesn’t make us feel uncomfortable about being who we are, and allowing themselves to be cared for.

(plus, what you’re looking at on my blog is more gentle femdom than role reversal, as I’ve mentioned before.)

[onedarkmarch-blog-deactivated20]

Ok, thanks, it was just an honest question. I appreciate your candidness.

[show-me-your-devotion]

It’s a big, scary world out there. 

Sometimes it seems like everything is falling apart. They expect so much from you. They want you to be strong. Domineering. They expect you to be the sole breadwinner, a provider, yet muscular, testosterone-pumping. Advertisements show you images of men you are not. Expressing emotion, especially that of sadness or distress, is seen as a weakness, causing you to bottle it up inside, hurting you from the inside out. 

You should not be held to these confines, my dear. Softness is no sin. 

Come to my side. I want you to be healthy. Happy. A smile on your face. A blush on your skin, the radiance of your warm blood, just beneath the surface. I want to hear your laugh echo throughout the floorboards, I want to champion your smiles, your tears, whatever you bring to me. 

It’s a big, scary world out there.

Do not be afraid to be soft, within it.

[reversalitea]

This is so necessary.

[thepioden]

Man though you know what makes me sorta sad is when nerdy, “quiet” kids latch on to me during camp and they just talk and talk and talk about a thing they’re into (Skyrim, Pokemon, Harry Potter, Doctor Who, dinosaurs, whatever). And I see the kids just light up when they say something and I can chime in with an ‘oh hey, are you talking about [x]? I love that thing! Tell me more about it.’

Like, their parents will warn me ‘so-and-so is pretty quiet and hard to engage’ but no, man, just listen, your kid is so smart and so into This Thing, they’ll engage like fuck and talk your damn ear off it you let them. Frame it in their damn terms. Or! Just! Listen to them about their Thing! And they will engage with the rest of the material! Because they know you care about them! Amazing!!!

[knightoflodis]

Quiet kids are usually that way because either no one listens, or there is always someone more dominant speaking wise in their group that always talks over them and then they give up. Some quiet kids are starved for attention and really really want to talk, but don’t always get the chance to

[celtic-pyro-deactivated20230725]

And those kids with interests in This Thing? Maybe they get told they’re too obsessed (it happens when hyperfixation is a symptom of what you have), so they get too embarrassed to bring it up. Please, do not shame people with hyperfixations for loving what they love.

[archiveofidentityconstellations]

do you ever feel ugly? not look ugly, because you did your hair and makeup and that’s as good as it’s gonna get, but FEEL ugly. feeling ugly happens a lot

[captainclickycat]

Shout-out to disabled people who aren’t “inspirational”, who are unemployed or stuck with a job they don’t like, who didn’t do well academically and/or had to drop out of school, who aren’t in a position to live and take care of themselves independently even if they would like to, who don’t “just get on with things without complaining”, whose lives didn’t work out in the way they were hoping for, who haven’t “overcome” their disability in the way that society tells us we’re supposed to. You exist, you’re worthwhile and you matter. 

[voidbat]

i needed this so, so badly.

[magicalforestfairy]

Living with chronic illness and not being able to do what you want to is so incredible hard :(

[graceless-goddess-deactivated20]

^^^been going through this for the past year

[celtic-pyro-deactivated20230725]

I grew up with the mindset that I would only be “successful” if I’d be able to live on my own and manage all my symptoms 100% of the time, so being disorganized, having to live with my parents and getting super behind in my work just totally messed me up because I felt like I was ‘failing’.

That’s the whole “myth of self-sufficiency” narrative I’ve seen pushed a lot in media. It’s not true. Just because you need help and can’t handle yourself perfectly, doesn’t mean you’re a loser and not living a “fulfilling” life.

[holyabundance]

“…This is why you don’t have religions based on historic events. They are all, with the exception of Christianity, based on private encounters which cannot be falsified or subjective ideas which are beyond inquiry. The amazing thing about Christianity is that there is so much historic data to be tested. Christianity is, by far, the most falsifiable worldview there is. Yet, despite this, Christianity flourished in the first century among the very people who could test its claims. And even today, it calls on us to “come and see” if the claims are true.

The only reason why I can say Christianity survived in the midst of such historic volatility is because it is true. And this is exactly what I would expect if there were an all-powerful God who created and loves this world. When he intervenes, he makes a significant enough footprint that historic inquiry is demanded. Think about that next time you are critiquing the Christian faith. The only reason you can is because it is the only religion that has opened itself up to such critique.  Simply put, Christianity is the most falsifiable religion there is and yet it has survived. Why?”

[barchenkecil]

[explainguncontrolandsafespaces]

Female privilege denied.

[celtic-pyro-deactivated20230725]

Police brutality is out of control.

[androlphegax]

[anti-feminism-pro-equality]

Boys don't date a girl who

-puts you down -calls you names -screams at you -takes your things -breaks your property -hits you -forbids you from speaking to other girls -forbids you from speaking to anyone -demands your money

[darkmirror-persona-blog]

-insults you -demeans you -treats your thoughts and ideas as less important -doesn’t care about your life -doesn’t want to hear about your day -ignores you -gets mad at you for little things that don’t even matter -never talks to you -doesn’t want you to share your emotions

[women-against-equality]

A Message To All Boys/Men

I want you to know how beautiful you are. Don’t laugh. Don’t be embarrassed. Men can be beautiful, too. You’re a prince. You’re a king. You’re a warrior. You deserve great things. You deserve to be loved. You deserve to be spoiled. You deserve to feel special. Because you are…you’re amazing. You’re talented. You’re gorgeous. You’re one of a kind. Your smile is perfect. Your eyes are pretty. Your body is perfect. Don’t ever compare yourself to anyone else, you are perfect just the way you are. Don’t ever change. The world needs you to be who you are. You’ve been hurt. You’ve been scared. You’ve felt insecure. You’ve hated yourself. But you’ve never been allowed to show it… It’s okay to cry, you need to let it out. It’s okay to be scared when you hear that loud noise at 3am. It’s okay to wish you looked like someone else. It doesn’t make you any less of a man. It doesn’t make you “gay.” It means you’re human. But just remember that you’re already perfect. You’re already gorgeous. You look great today! You look beautiful everyday. Love yourself. Respect yourself. You’re amazing, and don’t you ever forget that! ♥

[septemberwildflowers]

here’s a thought

let’s tell young boys that they are brimming with kindness and imagination and nobility. point out their gentleness, their fierce joy and limitless capacity to love everyone and everything. tell them they are princes in a kingdom of wonders and beauty and thoughtfulness and the warmth of their own hearts. take them to museums and symphonies and forests to make tree forts in. raise them to empathize, innovate and do good things. with confidence and humility.

[positivityforboys]

[boypositiveplace-deactivated201]

Gentle boys deserve so much love. Boys who speak softly. Boys who get frightened easily. Boys who aren’t good at standing up for themselves. Boys who get bullied for having traditionally ‘feminine’ hobbies or mannerisms. Boys who get told they’re not ‘macho’ enough.

You’re all amazing and never forget that

[tw-evan-deactivated20170827]

its never wrong for a man to defend himself from lies and bullying by saying “i’m not like that” or “not all men”

let’s stop stigmatising men having a say about their own self huh 👀

[the-agent-u-show-blog]

We will never truly have peace and equality until we all understand that "kill all whites" is just as racist and evil as "kill all blacks".

We will never truly have peace and equality until we all understand that "men are garbage" is just as sexist and awful as "women are garbage".

We will never truly have peace and equality until we all understand that people are people, that humans have value no matter who they are, and that one's physical appearance has nothing to do with their ethics or their person.

Racism and sexism will never go away until we realize this.