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A Couple at the Park
He’s pulling so hard against his tether, she’s only seventy degrees from hitting dirt. A stubbornness that appears bred into him; they say you can’t teach an old dog new tricks.
They’re wrong, of course. With enough patience, you can change their entire world; they can change yours.
They also, sometimes, say that whatever name you give them could mark them for the rest of their life. If so, “Bear” might not have been the wisest choice.
Such a magnificent creature. His coat, dark as ink; slender frame, befitting a German Shepard; tall, particularly for his breed. I’ve seen few dogs with such an overt display of personality.
They walk together; an amusing pair. His strength being met with her consistency. Every few feet, she stops, gives a curt “Bear!” followed by a tug to his leash, and then they resume; in precisely the same manner.
Caught in a perpetual battle of wills; he just seems eager to discover the world before him - she, earnest to show him the value of pacing yourself.
They walk together. An amusing pair.
As humans, we tend to be so egocentric, That we forget that the world is not
Actually
Ours for the taking. It does not exist Because we want it to. It does not answer To our whim; live by our leave.
The question: if a tree falls….
As humans we are so reclined in the Arrogance of our “higher knowledge” That we answer in the negative; quoting The absence of an observer as the source Of such grievous bereavement, from both
An empirical, scientific view, as well as a Theoretical view of philosophy.
Well… I am here to tell you, I have been Among the trees; throughout the forest.
I have walked across the crisp, fallen Leaves; over moss-covered rocks and Roots. I have heard the winds as they Berate the canopies; howling, thrashing Through the limbs. Seen the silhouettes
Of the trees as they were lit by the lightning Piercing the sky. I have heard the wail of a Tree; a tree as it falls. The crack of too much Pressure splitting against the air; splintering
My very core. The devastation. the needles Strewn across the woodland floor. The
Stark scent of pine pervading on the wind.
There’s a stillness; a sorrow. A presence Felt for generations, lies shattered. Broken.
A pillar of the earth, ever-yearning, growing Reaching for the heavens cut
Short.
It’s a truly terrible thing; as great in its Atrocity as it is swift in its deliverance; As it is intimidating to witness. So there,
I say: Do not ask me if a tree falling Makes a noise based upon whether or Not you get to perceive it. Ask, instead,
If you, yourself, respect the life enough To mourn that which was lost…
Without witness.
Three Mile Island
“Has anyone ever told you the story of how Daddy got his nickname?”
She looked up at me, with a quizzical look on her face.
“Isn’t ‘Daddy’ uh nickname? His name is Lair-rie.” Being a seven-year-old only added to the beauty and thickness of her southern drawl.
I couldn’t help but to laugh at her simple logic. “Fair enough. But I’m talking about his other nickname: 'Bear’.”
“Oh.” She giggled and cast her eyes to the side. “I thought it was 'cause one of our cousins looked at him one day and thought he looked like a bear, because'a how big and hairy he is.” She said, emphasizing the imposing figure of our father by holding her arms out from her sides, imitating a body-builder’s stance.
“Well you see, that’s the story they’ll tell you,” I responded, with a dramatic strain in my voice, “but only because they don’t remember what really happened.”
With that I leaned back, rested against the porch swing, and began to rock us back and forth; relishing in the warm, humid, mid-evening atmosphere that permeates the Alabama countryside. To our front, the sun was setting, and the sky was alight with varying shades of pink and purple clashing against hues of orange caressed by blues that darkened as they receded to the eastern horizon behind us.
The crickets were just beginning their nocturne when she finally spoke up.
“Well then? Where did he get the nickname from?!” she asked, arms impatiently held out in front of her in that manner indicative of one who has clearly been waiting for some time for an answer.
“Oh! You don’t know?” I feigned surprise. “Well, you see it happened a long, long time ago. Daddy was still just fifteen in fact. Do you know how many years ago that would make it?”
“Weehhhllll……” she drew out the single syllable as she rolled her eyes up to the roof of the porch. “He’s fifty now… sooo… twenty-five? No! No, danggit! Thirty-five! Twenty-five would be forty. I got it confused for a minute,” she finished with a giggle and a smile.
I couldn’t help but to smile with her. “Precisely. Thirty-five years ago, so that means our story happened in 1979.”
At this point she interrupted, “And that was a looong time ago!”
As we shared a laugh, I continued, “Not all that long, but not quite short either. Now, the winter coming out of 1978 started particularly early and lasted longer than it should have going into 1979. And do you know what bears do in the winter?”
“Uh-huh! They hiber-date,” she said, matter-of-factly.
“Close.” I corrected. “They hiber-nate.”
Another giggle, “That’s what I meant. That’s where they eat up lots-an’-lots of food, and plug up their butts so that they can sleep all winter and still stay so fat!” she explained, with full dramatic expression through interpretive signage; read that: brandishing her arms as if she were guzzling down pounds of food and then mimicking the expansion of her stomach by spreading her hands away from her belly.
Throwing back my head in laughter, I couldn’t help but to cherish the wonderful, ever-so-classy child that I had come to call my sister as I continued.
“Yes, yes, that’s where they eat a lot and store up energy so that they can sleep through the winter. But you see, that was the problem. This winter had lasted too long! Much longer than most winters. It started at the end of October in '78, and was still going strong at the beginning of March in '79! By the time the spring equinox came around in March, many bears were still sleeping! Word got out that the bears hadn’t awoken and well Dad was rather concerned for their well-being. So, you know what he did?”
“What?” She asked, her voice and eyes filled with wonder.
“He went and woke 'em up.” I simply stated.
She laughed. “You’re silly, Cory. Daddy, didn’t go and wake up all the bears. There’s too many!”
“He did so!” I objected. “He started on the spring equinox! It was March 21st that year, and what’s more is: it took him an entire week to do it! He didn’t finish until March 28th, and then his work still wasn’t done! You see, Em; all of those bears had been asleep for so long that they went and forgot how to fish. So you know what Dad did then?”
Not waiting for a response, I continued as her jaw dropped slowly more and more, and her eyes ever-so-slightly began to widen.
“He spent the entire day teaching each and every one of those bears how to fish again. It took him all day and night to do it. I imagine it would take any lesser man longer than just one day, but not Daddy. He started early on the morning of the 28th and finished before supper. Not that he had any appetite to eat anything, mind you. He’d been throwing his head into a river and biting on salmon all day, only to spit 'em out and bite down on another. He still won’t eat salmon to this day. Says he can’t stand the taste of it, and that was thirty-five years ago.”
“But Cory, if Daddy really did all of that, people would have done something for him. They would have tried to say thank you or have at least told the story on the news,” she said, thinking she had outsmarted me.
“You know, you’d think they would have. And to be honest, I believe that some people were genuinely wanting to. But on that day, March 28th, 1979, there was a really dangerous thing that happened at a place called 'Three Mile Island’ in Pennsylvania. A nuclear reactor had a coolant leak and there was a partial meltdown; which is a way of saying a lot of people got really scared, really quick because there was a big risk that a bunch of people would get hurt. The story was so big, that it was all anyone could talk about, and everyone overlooked the fact that one man from Alabama single-handedly saved the entire bear population from extinction.”
She slowly turned her face toward the horizon; at this point, nothing more than a tiny spot of orange and light blue being encroached upon by the inky-blackness of night.
“What, you don’t believe me?” I asked.
She shook her head no.
“Well go ask him! See for yourself. Just ask him if he likes salmon, and see what he tells you.”
Without another word she rushed to the door and ran inside. I could just barely hear her through the open windows as she found him across the house in the kitchen and asked, “Papa Bear! Do you like salmon?”
“Hell no!” He responded in the playfully gruff voice he always uses when the kids refer to him as “Bear”.
“I ate too much of it once, when I was younger.”
Of wolves, murders, and the Serengeti
Did you know that there are trees, out in the Serengeti, I think, that grow thousands of feet apart from one another, with nothing in their immediate vicinity but the dry grasses tousled below them by the wind?
Yet still, in all their distance from one another, the root systems often grow to encompass an area so vast that they can, in instances, entwine; as if, they’re sharing their resources or offering mutual comfort against the desolate isolation.
Honestly… I have no idea if any of that’s true or even remotely accurate. It’s just something that I tell myself because I’d like to believe it.
Because I’ve heard from people going through similar circumstances as mine that it’s true about us; and “truths” spoken from the tongues of humans always resound more easily in my soul and psyche when I can find an equivalent to them echoing in nature.
Take dogs, for instance: affirmation of unconditional love.
Or my beloved wolves and ravens. The only two animals I’ve ever identified with. Now this part has actually been documented by ecologists:
Wolves (particularly lone wolves) that live in close proximity with ravens in an ecosystem, will often form mutually-beneficial bonds to the nearby murder. They often follow the flights of the ravens in their forages; as do ravens trace behind the wolves as they scavenge for carrion in turn. The ravens, from their higher vantage point, have been known to signal danger to a wolf if it appears he’s too indulgent in a particular carcass to take notice; while the scent gland at the top of the wolf’s tail is often enough to ward off any natural predators his feasting companions may have lurking in the surrounding area. There have even been documentations of almost “social” tendencies displayed between the groups. Ravens darting down to peck at a wolf’s tail or drop a pebble on its body or head. Wolves chasing and bounding after ravens in the murder, filled with ample opportunity to catch one, yet with no seeming desire or intent to do so. Numerous cases of a wolf watching a murder’s actions and vice-versa, all within yards of one another’s presence, as if each is merely enjoying the company of the other.
It is this wolf-raven relationship that perhaps brings me the most comfort. I see it mirrored so intimately in the relation of me to my friends. The mutual care and sharing of nourishments. The warnings against getting too wrapped in something and making oneself blind to potential dangers. The offering of guidances to fruitful endeavors. The protection and even the playful teasing.
Yes, all are so akin to our own interactions; perhaps, most keenly though… the manner in which they’re still so vastly different. Though they may share a life, they never quite belong together. One is a beast of the sky; the other an earthwalker.
So… I return to my fantasied trees of the Serengeti. I see them; weathering the storm as lightning pierces the darkness of the sky and the thunder rolls on overhead. Their roots stretching, reaching-out ever toward one another; promising their presence.
At least, I like to picture them that way.
No Words
“Keep your voice down!” he whispered sharply, locking the bathroom door behind him. “My God…. Haley.”
He walked past me and leaned himself against the sink with both hands pressed on either side. All I could think about was how ceramic could bear so much weight until you hit with something a bit more solid than grief.
“When did it start?” he asked, eyes fixed on the drain.
“I don’t know…. She was younger. Probably around ten or so, We’ve never really talked about it.”
“About what?” he asked.
“It,” I emphasized. “Any of it. When it happened. Who it was. I’ve never asked. She’s never told.”
Turning to me, impatience filling his voice, he asked, “Then how- how do you even know-“
“Because neither of us ever had to,” I interrupted. “I just- I just knew…. I’ve seen it before. I know the cues.”
He brought his hand to his mouth in disbelief. I crossed my arms and leaned against the door; busied myself with the task of aligning the heel of my shoe with the toe of the other.
I went back to that night. When she erased all doubt or wondering.
We hadn’t checked any reviews for the movie. Might have even forgotten the title had it been any longer. A friend merely raved of Foster’s performance and how redeeming it was; how you could see the character evolving over the course of the film.
The feature hadn’t long been playing when she bounded out of the screen-room. In the lobby, I saw how puffy her eyes were as she fumbled with the lump in her throat for the words: “take me home.” I could only nod my consent as I felt my own eyes begin to sting and well up. She held my hand the whole way.
We didn’t speak; neither one brave enough to look for any words. Once we arrived, she drew a bath and I threw some towels in the dryer. When she got out, I met her with a fresh one and we walked to the bedroom. I undressed and went to lie down as she dried herself. She finished, then came beside the bed and stood for a moment; naked and hurt, with all of her pain on display.
She lifted the covers and crawled in to lay next to me for a moment, before placing her right hand in mine and rolling over onto her left side; securing the embrace that we would hold for the rest of the night.
Still, no words. Only intermittent sobbing and a grip so tight, all that I could think to do was squeeze back through the pain. I’ll never forget the way she sounded in that lobby. I still can’t stand the smell of popcorn.
His voice brought me back to my shoe. “How could sh- how could I not have known?”
The last thing I had patience for was him feeling sorry for himself. He dropped the lid to the toilet and took a seat. “All this time and I never knew. Eleven years. She’s twenty-one and I-“
“She’s twenty-two, Ben.” I snapped. Then, a bit softer, “She’s twenty-two now. Her birthday was two days ago.” He had missed it. She understood. She always did. (”He’s a busy guy.”) His face sank.
“My god. I- I…. Twelve years?” It wasn’t fair for me to be angry. He looked so sad and pathetic. “How could you not have said something? How could sh- you’re my best friend!”
“And she’s your sister!” I retorted.
More silence. He looked so helpless; so defeated… and I found only pity for him. “I just…” he breathed. “I don’t understand why she never told me.”
“Sometimes…” I started. “Sometimes they can’t tell you. Sometimes… they don’t want to.” He looked to me and our eyes met. “Because… sometimes, they just love you too damn much.”
Kissing Sweet Genocide
I don’t often say the phrase “the last of a dying breed”. However tonight, I feel there is a lingering need (or perhaps just my hungering desire) To address the issue.
Those few of us who truly do belong to one (i.e. a breed that is on the verge of extinction) fear for the safety of our kind too much to admit that we really are so close to nonexistence. Perhaps it’s all just pride winning out over some other higher emotion, but I feel that it more-than-likely comes from the innate terror of wondering whether or not our species will be championed by those we leave behind; is there any way that we can instill our sense of being into others, pass on the torch?
But enough of that. It’s all that I care to admit on the topic and more than I really wanted to share.
I told you that to set the tone for my next comment. One that, if I can help it, will not be repeated many more times in my life:
I am the last of a dying breed. I know it. My family knows it. It has been testified and witnessed by all of my closest friends. My mother knew it when I was born.
It’s funny all of the wisdom my mother truly has, especially when regarding her children. She has this intricate way of understanding who and how we are; at most, it seems, when we understand the least of ourselves.
I fear to look into my mother’s soul.
I fear that… she would know too much of mine.
I fear the chance of her being burdened by all that I’ve been trying to protect her from for so long.
But optimism is as much a drug for the reckless as it is a salvation for the wise.
I read somewhere, not too long ago, that wisdom was in not forgetting. It echoed a lesson taught to me by some friendly scholars on the Grecian Waters of Memory and Oblivion. I wish I could remember the source and give proper credit and recitation, but alas… just trust that I say it was very insightful and expressed in much better terms than the ones that am presently going to attempt to use.
The main idea, as I interpreted it, could be summed up with a simple analogy: Everything is new to a babe. Experiencing life earns us knowledge. Adding in wonder then lays a better foundation for the ideal. Keeping that spark; that light that flickers beneath the eyes of a child first seeing snow, or one that just had a butterfly land on her finger, or the one that stands out on a mound in front of his house and admires the star-strewn sky of his country home…. There is the source of wisdom: gazing into the depths of the unknown, meeting it’s newfound treasures with gratitude; and then meeting such treasures with the same reverence each time, experiencing the old as if it were new. Only the foolish forget or lose themselves to complacency. Such is true in all aspects: the beautiful with the ugly, just as the dark with the bright, and the good with the evil.
So then…. Knowing all this, combined with all of the Fears that I have allowed to form their Various cages, confines, and constructs….
Why on earth would I wish to kiss you again?
I Know Now; I Could Never Hope To Have Found You, Looking For Brown Eyes
I keep a picture of yours nearby. I find myself stealing glances at it from time to time.
I don’t believe my actions are motivated by sweetened sentiments or disparaged desires. Neither lust nor longing creep into my mind when gazing upon your image.
No.
It’s merely that… You’ve seen so much of the world. You’ve lived through so many states and countries. You’ve witnessed human life through a perspective so disparate
From that of my own. You’ve seen, lived, and witnessed: And yet…
You still love.
You love it all. This life. This world. This “Human Condition”.
And as much as you, yourself, are gorgeous, the adoration, trust, and faith that you regard humanity with is even more admirable than any facet of your beauty.
You inspire me to believe the words my dear friend Sam once told me: that there’s still some good left in this world and that it’s worth fighting for. I have rekindled hope for my fellow man as a byproduct of having known you…… and I told you that I often refer to my favorite movie characters as if they were personal friends of mine.
I’m sure that, in your opinion, I’m being a bit biased in my consideration of your perception. I realize that, even now, you’re going through a difficult time in your life. I understand that, as much as you’re disappointed with yourself for it, you find your flame of zest and zeal flickering as the year wanes and winter falls.
You want roots. You want stability. And not just anywhere.
You want what you miss most:
Home.
In a brilliant and bold flourish of simple and soft hues of blues and whites and five stars and three bars you find your patriotism, and you feel it fuel the fires into a fervor so feverish that you know in your heart of hearts you’ll never be home in a southeastern swamp of bug bites and briars or a west-coast wasteland of blue mountains and beavers.
Then again… perhaps I’m wrong.
Perhaps you’ll read this and know Without a doubt that I must be Writing with someone else in mind Because none of this fits you in the least.
Perhaps everything I’ve just written Only describes the girl in the photo That I keep nearby and find myself Stealing glances of from time to time.
Still… I can’t help but to think:
She could have been my soulmate; If only her eyes were brown.
What are thoughts worth?
I mean… technically speaking, everything.
They kinda are everything. Every value to which we could compare any aspect of our lives is really nothing more than a formulated, illusory figment of our own perception.
And yet… they are nothing. They sit and wait on our leave; answering to every whimsical fancy with which we may decide to direct them.
Therefore, how should I feel when you tell me that you’re thinking of me? Should I feel bereft of sadness? Or perhaps saturated in it? Your thoughts lean upon me; however, all I can wonder is:
Am I really worthy of such a lingering consideration?
Perhaps if circumstances were different, then there might be reason to attempt to know one another better. But they’re not. It is what it is, and redundancies are redundant.
However, if it helps at all….
Know that I have to get up early to take my thyroid medication and (due to my previous hatred for doing so) that just might be the most difficult adjustment of my cancer process for me.
Know that I was born nine weeks premature; I’ve been ten feet tall in a six foot town since I was conceived. The moment I was given the opportunity to get out, I did. And now… I’m waiting on the cusp of setting out into a world so vast and wide that… well, quite frankly has been all I ever wanted since before I can remember. It’s driving me insane, but I just view it as a lesson in patience.
Know that when I feel down, I know I can always just turn to some of my oldest friends: Lumiere, Cogsworth, Belle, Beast, Mrs. Potts, and Chip; Quasimodo, Phoebus, Laverne, Victor, and Hugo; Simba, Nala, Timon, Pumba, and we can’t forget Rafiki.
Know that I’m from Alabama…. There’s an entire playlist on my Spotify account dedicated solely to country music. And that I am a father…… to a wonderful, beautiful, amazing mutt; he’s a cocker spaniel and black lab mix. I swear to you that he’s convinced I actually sired him.
But even more than any of that; What I’d wish for you to know Is that your value is not tied to my thoughts, Nor is it tied to the perceptions of any other man.
I want you to trust me when I say that if you haven’t already, one day you will look into the mirror and see your own worth, in your own eyes, shining back at you.
You are fearfully and wonderfully made with a purpose larger than anything you could ever imagine for yourself. And you have everything you need to realize that purpose and bring it to fruition. It’s all there…
Inside of you.
She walked in tonight.
I didn’t know her, but I couldn’t help to feel as if I recognized her. Eh, I just chalked it up to the probability that she had come in to the restaurant before. How many faces have I lost track of over the last two+ years.
Regardless, there she was; walking toward the band. She was, of course, gorgeous. That’s how it starts, isn’t it? I mean, if I hadn’t thought so would I be here now, putting these thoughts to word? Inspiration is founded upon beauty.
I just… I could tell, she was more than a pretty face. She is a good soul. Some people just are. And I’m the best judge of character that I know.
She was to be a guest singer for our billing tonight and her set was coming up soon. I had never heard her sing before, but I was more than willing to listen. And all too short it was.
Her demure, sly way of stealing the show seemed to suggest that she barely even noticed she was doing it. She belonged in the spotlight; it just fit that you would give her your undivided attention, but she’d never ask you to. It was a contract; never writ, nor signed, yet sealed and understood. It was her voice. Her growl, her whisper, her belt; her coy way of drawing out a syllable and making you wait for the down beat….
I was lost; my feet taken from beneath me. Or maybe the floor had fallen. I couldn’t be sure. It wouldn’t matter. I wasn’t about to attempt to speak to her. She was far too intimidating.
Then she came to the bar, puzzled, carrying an inquisitive look.
“Can I help you?” I asked.
“Yeah… they said you were the guy to talk to about playing here.”
I looked over to my manager, more than a bit confused.
“Who told you that?”
Upon revealing the name of my co-worker (read that: conspirator) who sent her to me it all made sense.
“Oh, ok. See, I believe this was their way of scheming up some devious, little plan to get us to talking, They knew that I would never initiate conversation, so this was their way of ensuring that we would talk.”
“Ah!” her mock surprise was so adorable. “That is devious. But it seems to have worked.”
She might have thought it was actually my idea the entire time. I assure you it wasn’t. She might have thought I was a foolish boy that was in desperate need of a haircut. (She wouldn’t be too far off with the latter.) Or… perhaps she found me charming.
Either way… there I was, desperately attempting to tread water and keep my cool; all-the-while failing miserably, I’m sure.
My thoughts turned to you. 2,300 miles away. Sitting two-hours behind me, on the west coast. California. How would you feel if I told you this story? Would you be open and honest? Would you fake excitement; would it need to be faked? Would you be crushed? Would you be relieved?
I don’t even know this girl, beyond her name and my “reading”. It could prove to be nothing. Just a foolish flutter sent along the Autumn breeze.
Still her voice resonates through my ears, ringing in the best of ways…. And I haven’t heard yours in over a year….
It happened just yesterday.
I walked in, with a worried father desperately seeking approval to follow suit. He’s become such a softie in his old age.
If you had told me when I was fifteen that I would one day not only get along with this man, but truly feel loved by him, I might have laughed. Truthfully, I would have probably just looked out of the window or cast my eyes to the ground, feeling dejected and hurt by my (now recognized as self-imposed) inability to do so at that time.
I now realize that he’s always loved me. He’s always lived for me and my family. I just never understood his motivations, and misinterpreted his actions. He spent hours away from his family, working so as to place himself in a better position to take care of it.
I felt abandonment. He felt loneliness.
I wallowed in anger and perceived injustices. He taught self-control and an unbiased discipline.
He, in ways, has taught me a firmer understanding of unconditional love and true integrity. He single-handedly earned my respect when it was never mine to withhold from him in the first place. And I love him all the more for it.
And there he was, standing in the corner, attempting to be nothing more than exactly what he was: there for me.
The nurse, sounding as if she struggled against her teeth to speak, detailed the directives I should follow during the course of the next week.
Don’t go near children, infants, or toddlers. Avoid pets. Do not maintain physical proximity within three feet of another human being for any period of time exceeded three hours. No kissing, cuddling, sex of any kind. Try to use a separate bathroom from anyone else. If a secondary bathroom is unavailable, wipe down any surface you come in contact with. Flush twice, don’t stand to urinate, rinse the shower for two minutes upon exiting. Drink from disposable cups, and eat with disposable utensils on disposable dishware. Get a new toothbrush after your quarantine is over.
Maddeningly simple tasks that I already knew to accommodate within my daily routine. I just wanted to move forward. Get it over with.
Then, it was time.
She opened a refrigerator, heavily labeled with numerous warning tags and stickers, and withdrew a thick, metal cylinder. As she began unscrewing the top, she paused upon hearing a faint hiss. She withdrew a styrofoam cup and filled it with tepid, tap water. “Sorry, the slightly warmer temp eases the breaking down of the pill itself.”
I couldn’t begin to care less about the temperature of the water. It was a meaningless variable in the current equation. One that would soon be cancelled out and discarded.
She continued spinning the lid around its threads until with a *clink*, she pulled my twisted insides up against my diaphragm. For a few moments, I couldn’t breathe.
Upon retrieving a plastic container from within the metal tubing, she unscrewed the top half from the bottom. Afterwhich, she removed another plastic container and popped the hinged lid open, tilting the tube until its contents slid gently down to meet her awaiting index finger. With her thumb and middle finger, she grasped the bottom of the final tube; a clear, unassuming little thing that seemed to scream its presence.
Sitting there, at the bottom, was a blue pill; just about the size of a pinto bean. “Just wash it down just as you would any other pill, hun.”
I took a swig of water, reached for the container, and spilled 29.9 MCi’s of “radioiodine” down into the awaiting pool; sending it along the cascade with a swallow. Wanting more to happen, but not quite knowing anything else to do, I raised the cup of water to my lips and finished it off.
She threw it away in a bin marked “Radioactive Waste” in big, bold letters.
I’m a walking expulsion of radiation.
As far as my cancer team is concerned…… as of yesterday, at 11:43am:
I have been cured of cancer.
Now, we’re just waiting on a confirmation exam that will be taken sometime during the March of 2014.
This is dedicated to:
Katie Labore, my most dearly beloved aunt: I’m sorry we didn’t have more time. Breast Cancer, May 2005.
Tim Carter, my college advisor, mentor, and friend: I hope you were right and I will try my best. Melanoma, April 2011.
Jim Derington, father to my roommate and best friend: He’s doing it, Jim. I’ll keep my word. Pancreatic Cancer, January 2007.
My family, without which I would not be: I’ve told each of you I’ll always be there. I’m not about to lay down this early.
And finally… for you. Though I do not know you, you’ve all bared so much of yourselves to me. You’ve kept me strong, just by showing your strength. I said upon starting this blog that there was a certain intimacy in revealing myself to complete strangers, but I haven’t truly revealed much of myself; and all the while I’ve grown to know you and care for you.
I am with you during your frustrations: when life seems to be out of your control, when you feel as if you’re the only one putting forth any effort, when you can’t find direction, when you’ve procrastinated one too many times, when you think there’s no one there that is listening or cares.
When you just want to be heard, I am listening.
Thank you.
I love you all.
My body has yet to come to terms with my missing thyroid. Consciously I know. I get it. I understand. My thyroid, both glands, has been removed.
Subconsciously, my mind has yet to put the pieces together. It just hasn’t figured it out, or at least it hasn’t come to terms with the idea yet.
When I have my focus actively placed elsewhere, most everything seems to be at the “new” norm. I mean, I stay exhausted now. I’ve been stuck on a low-iodine/no-prescription regimen for the last twelve days in the hopes that, when I go in to see the radiation specialist Monday and they do my blood test, my TSH levels will be at 50 and we can move forward with the procedure.
Imagine: starving your body of any potential energy providing hormones, beyond basic caloric intake (which calls for thyroid hormones to be actively effective anyway), for two weeks. Yes…. I’m tired.
I have the wherewithal to live and function, because I have no other choice than to do so.
I get up and I go to work, because of the ones that I love that lost their fights: Aunt Katie, Dr. Carter, “Big” Jim.
I smile and laugh at jokes, because I’m not so cynical as to ever lose my sense of humor.
I hang with my friends because they are still some of the only lights in my life at the moment, and I know that I can be entirely too comfortable in the darkness if I were to allow myself to be.
I want my life to be a beacon of hope for those that have received their diagnoses. To be the exception to the stigma that says “I am going to die of cancer” when the words spoken were “I have been diagnosed with cancer”.
My struggle has been an easy one, by comparison. So many bodies filled with fully, correctly replicated cells say, “There is no easy struggle when it comes to cancer, Dear”.
I can’t say if I agree with them or not, but I would imagine that chemotherapy would be a lot rougher than anything I’ve had to go through. The ones that face the difficulties of fighting and fighting and fighting, just to finally curl and wither; balded and beaten, lying in a hospital bed as they simultaneously breathe their first comfort with their last rasp. Their opinions would be the only ones that could hold an argument against me.
Until I can have that discussion, I’ll stand my ground in saying this: my battle has been an easy one. The biggest change in my life has been that odd little feeling I get from time to time.
When I awake in the morning and lie in bed, feeling the emptiness in my throat; the void where my thyroid once was. Not with my hands or fingers, mind you; nor from the surface down. No, as I said before, it is my mind that has yet to make the separation.
And then; during those times either before or after I allow my brain to become engaged; when everything is still and silent. I feel the absence of my organ from within my body. I’ve tried to make myself understand that it was gone. To stop feeling its absence, and to merely recognize my new form as my only form. My brain just seems to be in denial. It’s searching for my thyroid, desperately scouring for any hint of where it has run off to.
All I can think is….
Maybe they were lovers.
It’s funny, isn’t it? How some people, on a cellular level, In their deepest core, are simply made to replicate an Evil that seeks for nothing less than to destroy anything That happens to be, resemble, or emulate that which is
Healthy,
Happy,
Beautiful.
To create and create and again, a wickedness that Threatens to
Infest,
Destroy,
Mire.
Even in me. For most, I was the last person they thought Would be plagued with such selfishness. Such sickness. It’s funny how selfishness works, We cry against those that Embody it, but only because they are taking away ours.
We fail to see that it is a symptom of the human condition To see, to want, to covet, to desire, to possess, to protect; All in the name of what? Love, mayhaps. I can’t argue you Your own motivations. It’s funny; the moment they become
Privy to the truth, they’re shocked into a state of disbelief.
How on earth can I face this? I’m losing my
Friend,
Lover,
Son.
Nothing is the same as it was before. I view everything in a New light now. It’s has single-handedly managed to test Every relationship I have; even the ones that I hold most dear. All of my answers have been exactly what I expected thus far.
Now look at me. Here in another… five, six days pending your Perception, they’ll come again. They’ll invade my very lifeforce And draw the essence that they need. Subject that precious, Violent rosewood to its state of oxygenated, scarlett stupor.
They’ll push it, force it, bend it to shape their own confines. They’ll analyze each little cell until they find the ones that they Need. The ones that are the very supplication of energy itself. Then, as long as there aren’t too many, they’ll destroy them.
They’ll lay waste to each and every single remaining piece; Every wretched, fragmented cretin residing in my being. The wrath will pour down as a waterfall upon a rock; erasing One molecule, another, and again; until the ablation is complete.
I know that it’s coming. I’m grateful for it. I want to conquer the Beast that is inside me more than any other. I want it to know my Name and to fear the very utterance of such. One day, we may Even meet; and you would never know without me having told:
I will be a survivor. I will win my fight.
Not even cancer can hold me down.
Ten minutes now: that’s how long I’ve been trying to find a good way to start this. I suppose it’s only fitting. I’ve been slow to start everything in our…
(dealings? happenings? relations?)
You, on the other hand; ever since you’ve found yourself single and have decided to be a force in my life, you’ve found no trouble with easing yourself into it.
The thing I remember most about meeting you was the relief I found in your being taken. I knew that you would find a place into my mind, and often, if you weren’t. You’ve been nothing short of an enigma ever since, yet I feel that’s only for our mutual fear of commitments: your’s being just an innate fear of the thing; mine being some inexplicable, wanton struggle between where my loyalties should lie… or rather, with whom.
The thing I remember most about your first visit to my apartment was how… at home you were, and how quickly you became such. Walking in, taking off your shoes and hanging your jacket over the back of a chair; all before I really had a chance to ask or offer that you do so. The way you went behind me, cleaning up the small messes, as I cooked reubens. Or how you grabbed the nearest blanket when you noticed the chill of the evening.
Still, here you were again, just last night. As I finished cooking what we both agreed was a fine meal (lemon-and-pepper seasoned pork tenderloin, homemade mashed potatoes, and cheesy macaroni shells), I walked in to find the construct that was your pallet.
An evening filled with mutually-stimulating conversation, a nice meal, Princess Mononoke, and excerpts from the 10th anniversary production of Les Miserables; it truly was splendid. We laid down together. Thirty minutes later (after I had talked myself in and out of the same idea), you addressed the entire reason for your coming: your desires and urges that I could fulfill and release. I couldn’t begin to count how many times I’ve lost myself today in the recollection.
For, last night: the dark was our shared companion, our mutual confidant, in whom we entrusted our very sensibilities and insecurities; we were more than two, one man and one woman; we were transcendent, non-relenting, resplendent, and reliant; we merely… folded, one into the other, as waves often do on their race for the shoreline; blankets mingled and swindled one another, following our suit, as we entwined and entangled above them.
Am I a fool?
I post truths on a lost love, when I’ve been convinced for some time now that I’ve already met my soul-mate again. She and I have this little dance, you see. We run through the eons as if they were the rehearsed steps of the simplest waltz. This life found us meeting through work. She was a hostess at the restaurant where I am still currently employed.
Her smile was a beauty unparalleled. Her eyes: a deep, rich, earthy, tiger brown; they glistened in amber waves and ochre pulses when hit with the proper lighting. She whispered her frustrations in French (frustrations usually aimed at me for “abhorring” such a beautiful language… had to keep the relation interesting, right?), all the while shaking her head; that adorable pony-tail bouncing from one shoulder to the next.
She’s gone now. Living out in the western side of the country. She made me promise that I would write her. I had no clue that she had developed somewhat of an endearment toward me while she was here. I’ll never forget that fated day:
Me: “I’m doing it Jacob(my roommate)! I mean it! I’m actually doing it today.”
J: “Sure you are.” He’d heard my lies for the past few weeks. He believed that fear would win out again.
Me: “No…. Really…. I’m doing it this time.” The resolve in my voice showed that I had finally gathered whatever courage/inspiration/strength I needed for the deed to be done. “I’m asking her. Today. If I fall flat on my face, at least… well… no, there’s no good that could come from that. Hahaha. Wish me luck.”
J: “Good luck, Brother. Go get her!”
I drove with a purpose that day. I would ask that lovely, wonder of a woman on a date and hope for nothing but the best.
I met my manager outside.
Me: “Today’s the day, Sheila.”
S: “Oh yeah? Well it’s about time. You better hurry.”
Me: “Why is that?”
S: “She’s leaving soon.”
Me: “Leaving? Where?”
S: “Out to California.”
Me: “Oh.”
It hit like a hammer. I stood outside for a minute, waiting behind as Sheila walked inside. My Trinity was leaving.
She was so excited when I walked in. Good Lord… I’ll never forget Your Grace; it shone so radiantly in that smile.
She greeted me in French, to which I responded with a jumble of syllables akin to the sound one would make if trying to whistle with a mouth full of peanut butter. She sighed in exasperation as I chuckled at my own “cleverness”. It was our usual routine. She flashed that smile as I walked away. Later that evening, I finally asked her; not on a date, mind you, but about her leaving.
Me: “I have a bone to pick with you, Miss Trinity.”
T: “Oh? Pick away.”
Me: “When were you going to inform me that you were leaving?”
T: “Oh.” Her face fell. “I didn’t think….” As her voice trailed off, I got the feeling (which at the time surprised me) that she was saddened by this departure.
Me: “When do you go? For that matter, where?” I needed to hear her say it.
T: “California. Just after the end of the month.”
Me: “Ah. Well… that’s exciting. Rather… far away.” We sat in silence for a minute. The kind of silence that’s normally unbearably awkward or uncomfortable. It wasn’t either. Nothing ever was with her. “You know, I had something I was going to ask you today; when I first got here, I mean.”
T: “Oh? And that was?”
Me: “You know…? I don’t really recall now. I’m sure it doesn’t matter anymore.”
It was a fantastic evening. You said so yourself.
I don’t quite know where I lost myself in it. At what point did I turn from being a man on a date with a woman, to a spectator watching two strangers enjoy a fine evening?
I relished in your pouting as you fought with yourself over what to wear. Changing from one disarming outfit to the next. Red blouse to blue, back to red, then to white. Fighting with a cow-lick before finally succumbing to your frustrations and pulling your hair up into a bun. Putting on your makeup, vainly trying to enhance God’s performance; managing only to portray a different beauty, rather than a more beautiful face.
O! but how beautiful is that face. Even so, I daresay that I’ve never seen a more beautiful testament.
We stepped out onto the walkway, and, for the first time, I moved on ahead of you as you locked your door. Only for a moment, before pausing; yet, again as we descended the stairs. We would take your car. It was understood. You needed the luxury of your heated-seats on such a blistering winter night.
Was it the cold that caused me to lose the feeling in my fingers?
Watching the cars pass by as you weaved in and out of traffic, I pondered, once more, why it was that you insisted on driving. It’s been such a recurring motif, I barely thought to question if you would want to; and, rather, merely opened the driver door for you. You were still pouting over your dilemma and found no amusement in my mirth.
How could I help myself? You were so adorable, throwing the blouse on the dryer, never once considering that I would be content should you chose filthy, tattered rags. Just your company; it was enough. I tried to console you. Failed miserably a few times. Only finally succeeded after admitting my own dilemma of deciding which way to tie my tie.
“Well”, you grinned, in spite of yourself. “That makes me feel a little better.”
It was better that you drove. Once we completed the hour trek from our city to the next one over, I couldn’t recall any of my surroundings. You had driven those roads far more than I. After some navigating and mis-remembered turns, you finally brought us in to the restaurant parking lot. I never doubted you.
Only myself.
The atmosphere was exquisite. I particularly liked their unique fans that oscillated over the central seating area. I agree; I’m a dork for pointing them out. The sly way you slowly, deliberately blinked your eyes and allowed your smile to spread across your lips with such words seemed to whisper, “But you’re my dork.”
You ordered your wine. Our server brought me un-sweetened tea. I added some sugar, though not quite enough. I sat, watching you sweeten my tea for me; purely of your own accord. You couldn’t mix it well enough with just a straw; the tea was too cold. Two minutes you struggled with your fork, rattling the ice around; batting relentlessly at the tiny sugar granules, until they finally conceded to your higher stubbornness.
Is it pitiful to admit that that might be one of the sweetest things that I’ve ever had done for me?
We left the restaurant. I took your hand in mine. You left it there for a moment, before moving to wrap your arms around my waist as we walked, side-by-side, back to your car. We had no cares in the world; only fifty minutes to spare with a ten-minute drive to the theater. As I sat, pondering the world that lay beyond your passenger-side window, it hit me. This inescapable, inexplicable, undeniable truth:
This would be our last evening together.
I told my sister
“I’m almost ready To fall in love with her.”
“What are you waiting for?”
“Permission.”