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The things you need to know about Kall Lifelover —— Regarding Kim Carlsson’s sexual harassment of teenage fans during Lifelover tour in China

Trigger warning: the article contains the following topics: sexual harassment, sexual crime against minorities, and virtual violence.

On the second day of the Kall plays Lifelover China tour, March 14th, the lead singer of Kall Lifelover, Kim Carlsson, sexually harassed two of his fans. I am a friend of one of the victims and witnessed the entire incident. The two victims themselves were not involved in the writing of the article. I chose to tell this story merely out of my own will.

March 14th, after the show, I stayed with my friends outside the venue until midnight just to have a few more chats. Everything seemed to be fine until Kim came to one of my friends and kissed her with his tongue. He fiercely hugged her, pressing his entire body against hers, all done without her consent. Shocked by the scene, I had no idea what had happened just then. At that time, I didn't realize that something was seriously wrong, but my body had already responded: I was constantly shaking uncontrollably and couldn't stop it. Then, we left the building and walked onto the street. It was a freezing night in Beijing at 2 a.m, not to mention that my friend put on a lot of effort to dress up for the occasion, which was still a little bit thin for the weather. Within a few moments, the members of Kall Lifelover also came out of the building. It was then that Kim kissed my friend again. Also, this happened under a situation without any permission. “He was totally drunk,” as my friend recalled a few days later, that she could “taste the alcohol in his mouth,"  and kept brushing her teeth until her mouth was filled with blood, but still couldn't get rid of it.

And then everything went wrong. The situation deteriorated as Kim hugged another girl and kissed her, even touched her vagina. He kissed her neck and held so tight that she could taste the bloodstains on his suit jacket. The belt around her waist was torn by Kim. I couldn't believe what I saw. I was totally terrified. The only thing I did that time was run away from the scene and go home as soon as possible.

It took me a long time after this incident to regain my composure. After experiencing several days of insomnia, panic attacks, and flashbacks of traumatic memories, I decided to write down this story. It's not out of moral criticism, nor for some grand narrative. It's for my friends and me. I just hope that I can eventually get over this situation and be able to heal from all those nightmares and fears. A few days later, at another show part of the tour, when Kim Carlsson was questioned by his fans about his misconduct in Beijing, he explained it was due to cultural differences. However, I believe that obtaining the consent of another person before engaging in intimate interactions and sexual contact is a consensus that shall be universally agreed upon worldwide. Cultural differences are not an excuse. This is a sexual harasser justifying his shameless behavior. He took advantage of his fans' trust and admiration for him in order to satisfy his own selfish desires. The power imbalance between them was manipulated by Kim to bring extreme trauma to his victims.

 This is not the first time Kim has done something like this. He picks his targets, often targeting young (even minor) females and queers. After this incident was spread on the Chinese Internet, many people who had been harassed by him also stood up and shared their own experiences. These include:

-  One of them was harassed by Kim as early as last September. After a performance in London, he asked her to touch the scars on his stomach during the signing session.

- Another person complained that when she was taking photos with him, he had hugged her so tightly that she couldn't break free from him, and Kim even pressed his genitals against her body. 

- I am queer, and it's pretty clear that I'm a teenager, both in how I look and factually. Kim also hugged me, but I noticed that he only seems to engage in close contact with young-looking women and queers, because he's rarely done such things with male fans, at least not as openly enthusiastic as he does with us.

Apart from the sexual harassment, the other things he did made it hard to believe that he is sincere about art. This is a quote from a text from the Nattdal Official page, posted March 23rd, 2015: "Jonas did talk about what would happen to Lifelover if he ever passed on, and since he felt like he had done this all by himself, he did not want Lifelover to continue, as he felt some members of the band were already using him." The author also wrote that the Kall members never contacted his family and other members of the original Lifelover HATED this behaviour. And during the China tour, the band made countless mistakes in the performance. I can't see any respect for B and his music in Kall; they simply come to China, a land with fans that can bring them huge profits, to make money. But they don't even respect the Chinese audience. The bassist liked and responded to a comment on Instagram that contained racial discrimination against Chinese people. After the performance in Xi'an, the bassist also sexually harassed a female audience member. He said, "I wanna make love to you" to her.

Unfortunately, although this incident has gained some attention on the Chinese Internet, there are still many people who don't know the truth of the matter and thus attack the victims, even spreading rumors. So, I decided to post this article on international social media. I hope this matter can receive proper attention, and I don't want to see any more people getting hurt by them. Please spread this message as much as possible.

 *I am not the author of this article, but I have obtained permission to repost it.

p1 post from the tribute page of B

p2 Kall‘s bass player used "Kinaman" to refer to Lifelover fans in China

[the-schizophrenia-anon]

Are you still alive bro

Yeah mate, alive and pretty much ok I have been busy writing articles about the war and I also published my first book! So life kept me busy ahah

[the-schizophrenia-anon]

Wow, Schizophrenia Anon (sorry, I don't know what to call you!), you sound like a very intelligent person who knows a lot about psychology

Thank you that’s very kind! — as for psychology, I do actually have a master in psychology (art psychology to be precise) and taught it as well:)!

[the-schizophrenia-anon]

As an autistic person, do you think Per Yngve was also autistic ?

probably he was neurodivergent— but we all are.

[the-schizophrenia-anon]

Sorry for the stupid question, please do not take it bad!

But what do you mean by summarized your message as "schizophrenia anon"? I saw the post, but I don't understand what do you mean that it was a sign for you of poor intellect.

no problem! — you know,,,, when you are talking about your difficult past , you would expect somebody to have a bit of sensitivity when replying to you;

So when she summarized all of that into one derogatory line without giving her followers the chance to see for themselves what I actually typed, that was her poor attempt to twist the narrative and make me sound "insane."

By calling me schizophrenia anon, she added credibility to her next line, which was that I said, and I quote, “pelle was destined to be dead." Taken out of context and presented to people with the intent of slandering me with a mental disease and making everything sound credible

So the whole narrative she was pushing was “look people this anon with schizophrenia said Pelle was destined to be dead” and the underlying was “this person who is insane said Pelle had to die and — I — being the good person in the story I will tell to my public the matter so we can bully her all together”

[the-schizophrenia-anon]

When did you realized that The Old Mayhem didn't have good intentions towards your message? When you send a second anon and she ignored it?

quite honestly since the first answer the fact that she minimized my whole script into “schizoprenia anon” was already a sign of poor intellect, so when she didn't reply to the second anon and let her followers badmouth me I decide to take the matter into my own hands

[the-schizophrenia-anon]

Oh, I agree with the part about religious families. It really bothered me when they tried to force the idea of ​​God and all that into your head, especially when you come from a background of domestic violence and they paint you with the idea that prayer solves everything. I feel like you end up growing up resentful and religiously phobic.

yeah I agree, generally when something is instigated you will end up hating on it by default so it was a matter of time really

[the-schizophrenia-anon]

How did you came off as spiritual?

well let's say I never believed in god to begin with—having grown up in a Christian family you can imagine how much of a problem that was,,,

Then I discovered philosophy and my life changed completely I started reading Confucius, Zhuangzi, Lao (etc, etc) and I found out I am very inclined to the spiritual side of life more than the nihilist side of it

[the-schizophrenia-anon]

didn't Kim Carlsson take nude pics?

I remember seeing some of those online so I guess the answer is yes!

[the-schizophrenia-anon]

schizoo anon I need an advice

But how do you deal with injustice feelings? Idk if you understand what I mean

hi there, well it very much depends on what you are holding a grudge on

However, there are actually a few tips I can share to help you—personally, I don't hold grudges against pretty much anyone. I am a very spiritual person, so I believe that if you hold something negative inside you, it will end up influencing your life and your values, and I don't want that for myself.

so here are some of the best tips I can give to you:

Write your feelings down (that's self-explanatory it doesn't need to be perfect just write everything you feel and then have a good reading of what you have put down)

Try to see the perspective of the other side (this one is a bit more challenging I know, but for how difficult can it be, try to see why the other person you feel like did an injustice to you did what they did)

Share your feelings and story (everyone has a voice that needs to be respected when bad things happen, just speak about it you'll see you are not alone)

Remember that doing bad is much easier than doing good (it's all in the phrase, people harm others just because the most of the time it's the easiest thing to do)

You are not what people do to you (fundamental to remember)

[the-schizophrenia-anon]

💥Top 5 best ways to reply back when you are exposed in a thread with a damn of evidence against your own💥

🥇Number one,level GOD:

You probably laughed a lot reading that reblog

that’s exactly one of the reasons why I decided to post the whole thing tbh

I consider myself a pretty zen individual but when I saw that… it was the last drop mate hahah

[the-schizophrenia-anon]

Idiotic question but you were harrassed after exposing the old mayhem?

Other than the comments to which I replied no only many people who reached out to me to share their similar experiences

[the-schizophrenia-anon]

I read that you're a psychologist. What do you think about the fact that she acts this way having a child with autism? I mean,if you really care about your child why you act like that.It seems the heavy experience she lived did not taught her nothing.IMHO she has some evilness more than being a bad manner person.

It’s quite a difficult topic, and I can’t diagnose her with anything — I can only make assumptions based on behavior.

Usually, people who act harassingly or mistreat others have experienced some form of abandonment — either from family or from society.

Let me explain this better:

Their inner equation often becomes “society mistreats me, so I’ll mistreat society.”

Abandonment issues cause a collapse of self-esteem. Self-esteem is built on universal truths we learn from those who raise us. When no one teaches us self-worth or instills positive values, insecurity takes root.

This insecurity leads the person — let’s call them X — to constantly seek certainty. When X grows up and begins forming their own beliefs and values, these become the fragile foundation of their self-esteem.

So, when someone questions or threatens these “certainties,” X reacts defensively — often with cruelty, hostility, or harassment.

Even if X later builds a family, perhaps with neurodiverse members, this pattern often persists — or even worsens. The diversity within the family can be unconsciously perceived as another form of rejection or proof that society is against them, reinforcing their defensive and aggressive stance.

In X’s mind, society is a robber trying to steal their sense of security — and the only way to make a robber run away is by sounding the alarm, making them uncomfortable enough to leave.

Essentially, X is a person with fragile self-esteem, who once sought validation in art or music. When someone else appears to share or even surpass their passion or knowledge in that field, they feel threatened — and respond by trying to assert control, belittle, or bully the other person

hope this helps!

[the-schizophrenia-anon]

Foto fav de kim carlsson?

[the-schizophrenia-anon]

it's me or she has an obsession with Pelle? I mean,the fact that she always fights with Pelle's fangirls as if both were teenagers fighting over your bias

With highest chance of probability she has a sort of para-social disorder because at the age of nearly 40 yo; you gotta let it go, you know what I mean

[the-schizophrenia-anon]

Hi, sorry this is random, but I saw your first post and let me say that no many have the guts to face her.I also had a bad experience with that woman.Honestly, her attitude hurt me a bit, especially because when you're a fan and she treats you badly, it feels like a betrayal. Like, is this what I get in return for being a follower? I don't know, I'm not asking for anything huge in return other than to be treated well, but oh well, you shouldn't have expectations. Honestly, her behavior really shocked me because she seems to have talent on her page.

Yeah unfortunately you are not the first one telling me this, she is just a bad mannered person

[the-schizophrenia-anon]

No context.