Why The New Year's Resolution Doesn't Work?
"So what's your New Year's Resolution?"
You might have heard this-or being exposed to this question. Especially now that we've gone through our first few weeks in the new year. You may scoffed at that question or you may simply by reminded of your own New Year's resolution. The one you made on New Year's Eve.
In the mean time, i think these could be the 3 most plausible reasons in why my New Year's resolution doesn't work :
1. We don't really want those things. We only think that we should want them.
Probably we don't really want a new job. We don't really want to pay a down payment for a house. Maybe we are not really into travelling, and actually prefer to stay at home, doing our hobbies or spending time with our families.
But we sometimes write down the things we don't really want, simply because our circle friends or families (or societies) believe that we should want those things. Because our parents think of those things as the epitome of success or because our friends told us that when you can drive a car is the coolest thing to do or because society believes that if it's indeed very respectable to climb the corporate ladder.
2. The things we desire may be fun to have, experienced, or achieved, but actually they are not really important for our lives.
When we created our New Year's Resolution, we may wrote down so many things we wanted to have, experience, or achieve. Now, from all those things, how many of them are truly important? or let me rephrase: if we can't have experience, or achieve them, how would our lives be affected?
If our lives would still be (relatively) fine even when we couldn't get those things we want to have, experience or achieve, it means those things are not that important to us and it is exactly because we don't think of them as that important, we don't have enough drive, inspiration or motivation to go for it.
3. We don't really know why we want certain things
There were times when i looked back to my previous New Year's resolutions, and felt like i needed to at myself kindly. Have we ever looked at our New Year's resolutions and asked ourselves why we actually want those things?
Why do we want to get married this year? or why do we have to drive a car? or why do we want to lose weight?
When we are asking these questions-and be honest with ourselves while answering them, we will be able to understand what it is that we truly want. Why we want the things we want. Keep asking why until you're lost for words.
For instance, if we'd like to lose weight, keep asking ourselves about why we actually want to lose weight. Maybe it's because we think we would feel more confident being in our skin. Maybe it's because we'll be in dangerous medical condition if we are not losing weight, thus we are afraid that we'll get seriously ill.
The underlying reasons behind why we want the things we want could actually give us more clarity on the things we really desire.
Note: i took and rewrite the passage from beradadisini.com/On Why Our New Year's Resolution Doesn't (Really) Work, and How I Crated Mine (In Slightly Different Way). The reason i type here since i couldn't find the original article and i printed the article back on 2017. Please, all these words belong to the original writer, not mine.
