The Boarding School

Class is in session ladies and gentleman, boys and girls, sluts and whores, Daddies and Masters... Here at The Boarding School we're all about life's nasty little lessons. In our halls we hope to provide you with a space to express and gain knowledge about all your kinky and BDSM related interests. We also want to provide you with a space to network and meet up with other individuals who might share some of your own special interests. Can't live the lifestyle 24/7? Step inside the classroom and see if you can find a study buddy or private tutor to help you for the night, or maybe set up online instruction with The Dean once in a while :) If you have any questions, are seeking advice, or just want to get something off your chest concerning kink, hit up the ask box. We look forward to getting to know you all throughout the semester. On to first period now, I'd hate for you to be late... The BDSM Emblem is copyright 1995 by [email protected] who maintains the copyright in order to protect the symbol. It is freely available for all educational and non-commercial use within the BDSM community without charge.

[theboardingschool]

I was just ranting about a lack of african american representation in BDSM and now ive just discovered this blog and its quite refreshing. Hat off to you.

You should check out my main blog @DAMAGICTOUCH then.

[damagictouch]

Kinksters of Color: The List 08/15

Lately I’ve been seeing post on my dash like this one and this about Black people or non-white people being misrepresented or lack of us in the TUMBLR WORLD OF BDSM. If you get specific in your search #Black BDSM. Looks like it my be changing.

 To my followers know it’s ok to step away from your devices and get out there. There are many places for you to experience this with other Kinksters of Color like in this post.

 I guess it’s time to update this list POC BDSM/FETISH Blogs or Tumblrs that I ceated on a side blog.

*Note: Not all theses blogs post/reblog POC images or only talk about the lifestyle exclusively but they do represent and to the best of my knowledge are run by POCs. BE RESPECTFUL 

Kinky People of Color in Adult Industry(Indie Too)

nikkidarlingxo, skin-diamond, jessicacreepshow, mickeymod, papi-coxxx, feistymasochist, therealvanessablue

Kinksters of Color Blogs here on Tumblr

@Damagictouch (Me), @theboardingschool (Side Blog), pervertsofcolor, @pain-puppy, kinkyblackgirl, subbieblackgrl, jezebelphoenix,  kinkybutterfly, orpheusblack, nawi-xxx,  blackcat514, mzmonicajade blackonblack-bdsm, westrange, paperfag, badlittlekitten, badass-lilgirl,  theropemistress, theemperorvince, theemperorsrighthand, ethicalslutt, llulahhumphrey, getmexx, nerdgirlextraordinaire, kinkedoutsiren, ask4permission1st, charliieecoxx, artistickacchi, eroticwadewisdom, dulcedaddi,  jessdidit, kawaiijamaican, theshinobiarmy, laceandleatherkisses,  weekendreunion, blackpervertdoc, blackdomesticdiscipline, black-curvy-foxxx, thadisciplinarian, h-i-m-100, thelilsqueak, lilmissgoodgirl @bratsub, @renderingprincess, thenoirsextherapist, hiscumslut,  glitter–babygirl, neon-taco,  littleblackholes, blackbdsmmarriage, @thesublimeasylum, @freqdaddy, dirtymindofchaosghost,  portlandpuppygirl, big-sugar, blvck–ice, marzipan-fawn, girl-vs-sex, kinkyblackjanedoe, rositademuerte, our-erotic-behavior, mrandmrsdoesdirtylilsecret, complicatedbutlovable, atticusthegreat, thedreaminginsomniac, afro-orgasm, kinkygirl2014, missesprettyp,  apronsheelsandcollars, littlemiss-viper, liquoricebiatch, lilbrownfox, @thegreat-sexini,  @ronin730, blackgirlpornblog, preciousblackpearl,  mysubmissivekisses, littlenaga, goth-schoolgirl-diaries, gogomiamiixxx, the-house-of-darcsong, zorrabelle, kcoops3, thecompatibles, reallymoments,  choklatecoveredcherry, scatteredimperfections, justanothersub, redbottomedharlot, catherinewheeeel, thekittymeows, @puppypussy, sheobeyshim, shamelessbabydoll, originalfluffydomme, coffeepussy, sexykitten0326, @sexyfoodkittenn, keesy-bunny, sex4thesoul,  drgoodesremedies, thenudestoner,   dominantblackgentleman, daddysbunnii, dawkness,  deebott,@myegotiscticleindulgences, princesshanahoney, honeycoatedprincess, zeezeezee123, babykajira, etherealnymphette, kittensplaypin, imablackbarbiedoll, shortielittle,  sluttybbw, sexiestmoan, whateveryourfantasyis, kinkysunnybunny, @chokesngags, daddybearthings, itzpkbaybee, iamapaperuniverse, darlingmaxi, @thedarlinglittlenikky, trashytwotimes, ouijavvhore, unfrightthere, lookatprincessasha, @cocostix, suitntiedom, blackgirlpornblog, blackerotica, theprincessandtheperv, this-is-getting-old, plotprincessss, ourpornstory, teaseme-fvckme, such-a-nerdy-slut, restrainlove, myhiddencuriosities, abbywill12, beautifullysubmissive, foxys-cub, akinkykitsune, chocolate-desires, chocolateandroughsex, chocobabydolly, fuckbarbiehard, littledaisyluv, lustybbwlove, clitplayxx, blackfuckdoll, blackchocolategirlwonder, xonaughtyminx, naked-sophisticated, notafreakjustafan, thesluttiestqueen, girlsloveitroughtoo, ecchi-princess-sophie, holycin3, princesshoneycunt, his-ethical-slut, princesspussyonapedestal, @daddynoooo, poopypwincess, brightswitch, purnima-slut,  peanutbuttersmackbiznitch, yourbadgrrl, delicatelyadorned, 757daddy, @Daddysgirl757, @mykinkysexsecrets, ohainaomi,  thegirlwiththeforbiddentattoo, justmeandmylittleself, trrripled,  justanotherhornyblackgirl, girlwiththeskullkneesocks, @ariaonthefloor, naughtyballerina1821, @minx-y, @magicalsubgirl, @godivaeva, @lordalphablacharem, papabearandlittleone, cel3stialnymph, dirrtykitty, prvybbgrl, kinkymilf4u, yungsadistic, @dandhisbabybear, barbieexotica, electricpastelpapi, @submissivedreamer, cum-minx1005, dontforgettheclit, ktabi, itsbabigirl, thethickchickacademy, thizjourney, cheshireskitt3n, sexntemptation, daddysgirrlll, daddygetsmewetter, daddygetsmesoaked, kittenblanco, masters-prodigy, caram3l-princess, caritialove, cartoonsandorgasms, @black-rapunxel, alittlegirlandhersquishy, taco-brat, yourpleasureisallmine, softcollarswitches, @please-and-thankyouus, blackspankogirl, thekinkyismutual, rightondaddysdick, myfreakydesires, @afatrabbit, @the-house-of-iii, nubianhippiegoddess, lilglitter, @kinkykarter,  villainrewardprogram, sweeetwet, caram3l-princess, anotherwalkingscandal, @4ublackbeauty, journeysofcevi, akinaamelie, @highguyandgirl, @misswett, wezakani, sleek-siren, lamunecamala, @evolution-ofagirl, youngxlady, thelittledarlingnikky, @cutehotchocolate, @pwincessbunny, @littlechocolatekittie, scandalouslilprincess, ephsea, kittyisabellaloves, queensunflowers

@cacao-bunni this is the most current list made.

[weekendreunion]

Join us as we celebrate the fifth and FINAL Weekend Reunion, August 2nd through August 5th, 2018 in Piscataway, NJ. Weekend Reunion is an unrivaled, sex-positive BDSM experience. Join us for an amazing weekend of clothing-optional playing, dancing, learning and partying. All ethnicities, sexual orientations, gender identities, and lifestyle structures are welcome. From start to finish the entire hotel is closed to the outside world, and you are free to be unabashedly and unapologetically your true self. It’s an experience that words can’t really describe. You just have to live it. For more info visit weekendreunion.com

[damagictouch]

This is were I found home. I will be forever grateful to the organizers of this amazing event.

If you’ve never been you don’t want to miss this.

[prin-xxx-ess]

A reminder not all subs are the same. Tumblr sub blogs almost appear like a monoculture of “popular” kink but remember not all subs like being degraded, not all subs like being used, not all subs like being bratty. Not all subs are poly or play with multiple partners, not all subs enjoy sex, not all subs like being slapped, not all subs like being spit on, not all subs like being spoilt financially, not all subs like older partners, not all subs enjoy being tied up, not all subs are masochists!! And this doesn’t make them any less of a perfect sub.

[damagictouch]

Hello. I noticed you refer to violet as your 24/7 submissive versus your slave. What do you view as the defining difference? And is slavery something you both aspire to? Thanks.

Sorry for the late response anon. I do state that we are in 24/7 dynamic. It is as many in our lifestyle call 24/7 PE( Power Exchange). Although we think of it more as Authority Transfer( not my term). Since Violet has given authority over her and I’m technically not exchanging in power.

What do I see as the defining differences is the label. IMO if you’re in TPE or PE dynamic you label yourself a title slave, submissive, etc. In the end you are a S-type which is someone who submits to another. Regardless if you’re naturally submissive or not. But in our lifestyle the difference as seen between Slave and Submissive is the level of submission. So Master and slave are usually in TPE while a Dominant and submissive are in PE dynamics.

We have no desire for slavery. Just kidding. We aren’t that cookie cutter dynamic but most aren’t. On the outside looking in we look like M/s, D/s, or D/l . Since @violetltm entered training to now she has “Aligning Herself with My Will” ( www.powerandsurrender.com/understanding-alignment-of-will/ ) . I lead she follows . #excusetypos

[justanothersub]

I like that phrase, “alignment of will”. It describes my Daddy and me very well.

[artistickacchi]

I like the way this is worded too. Like this is what I would want.

[kinkyropecuriosity]

Rope is for EVERYONE!

Soapbox moment, here.

I recently recieved a message from a follower explaining her love of rope and how she wishes she “were small enough” to be suspended in rope. That pisses me off!

Kinksters! Rope isn’t weight specific! I have suspended a 350+ lb man, damn it! And I’m just above a buck fifty. There are many things to take into account for safety and ability, here. There are certainly those out there who can not work with rope for other medical reasons, but weight would hardly be that deciding factor. Anyone can be at least partially suspended, be that may only a single leg or a hip or a chest, but it is possible. Hell, you can suspend the biggest of humans with the right equipment and the safest rigger. And there is also amazing and intense floor bondage that has sent me so deep into subspace, I yearn to experience again, still.

If you appreciate bondage… If you appreciate the power dynamics involved…If you love rope, then go for it. Get educated. Find a safe rigger and start slow. We all start somewhere. Don’t let body image keep you from the joys in life.

Rope is a medium by which I pass on my love. I wish that for all who are out there wanting to experience that kind of satisfaction and thrill and love.

Don’t let the disproportionate images of tiny girls in suspension make you think rope is out for you. You deserve the feel just as much as the next person. Go get it!

Warmly, _Curiousity_

[cuddleswithrope]

Perfectly said love! ❤️

[auroraprincessbabe-deactivated2]

My experience with diversity in kink started on Fetlife. I never thought that there were many littles who were PoC or not tiny when I started exploring this side of myself. Diverse littles weren’t as visible to me there and still aren’t to an extent. I felt so uncomfortable. I even got messages on Fetlife pointing out my lack of pale skin and the fact I wasn’t petite. I quickly felt invalidated. Even my first potential Daddy had a problem with my size due to the “standard” some people hold littles too.

Well, fuck those standards. I took this disappointment and decided not to let it affect me negatively. So, I joined Tumblr; well kinky Tumblr 😏 hoping to meet more open-minded kinksters and littles. At first, I saw no diversity and I thought this sucks. But after following @sweetie-peaches she started reblogging littles of PoC and who were all sizes. I was so excited. I quickly started following sooo many people. I can’t tell you how amazing it feels to see so many different people of all shades, genders, sexual orientations and sizes.

Which is why diversity is important. Just like that, she gave me a validation that I didn’t have. I followed all the DD/lg and little tags; I didn’t see the diversity there (which I think is changing now).

I learn so much from you all. You open my eyes. Diversity educates me and makes me better. It makes the world better. Smashes the bubble people live in. Welcome to reality! Everyone is unique and should be praised for their differences.

My point is that I know what it feels like to feel like there’s no one out there like you. So my hope is maybe my followers see a post on my post of someone or something and just like that they feel a kinship. They feel connected to me or someone else and they feel less alone.

[reysoju]

Consent

The word for the day CONSENT. If you don’t give it and we don’t have it guess what it is assault. Now consent is given in many ways it does not necessarily have to be verbalize every time depending on the person you are with but for the safety of all parties involved if you don’t know if you have it don’t assume verbalize it and find out. That could be the thing that saves you from jail or worse

[a-daddyslove-deactivated2017111]

A true dd/lg relationship should not be based on sex. It's not a "kink", it's: trust, respect & love.

[mlafismlezi]

Eh…. I don’t totally disagree. Dd/lg is definitely based in trust and love and I definitely wouldn’t be with my Daddy in the capacity that we’re together without that. However, it is also most definitely a kink. DD stands for Daddy *DOMINANT*, which means that it’s on the D/s spectrum. D(ominance) and s(ubmission) is kink.

[theboardingschool]

Appreciate everything your doing for kinky people of color 👍👍👍

Thank you

[thadisciplinarian]

She coined herself the “Unspankedbrat” until she came to see me!

[damagictouch]

Check out this article. https://www.joomag.com/magazine/naleighna-kais-literary-cafe-magazine-april-issue-heaven-hell/0429914001491883054?short

[ms-jadenlee-blog]

HOLIDAY BDSM DESIRE CHALLENGE Nov 30 COLLAR ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡

So.. today is collar. A collar can be a many of things, it does not have to be around your neck. For me a collar is so much more, it is a agreement between the parties involved which can mean so much than a material item. When you move the same way when you have no collar. You know than that no collar is needed, you know than you are marked.

The meaning weighs more… no matter if it is ROPE, LEATHER, or even METAL

♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡

#BDSMDESIRENOW #TheSunAnfHisMoon #SUPPORT #WeLiveThis #MyLife #MsLee #JadenLee #MsJadenLee #COLLAR #MyLife #TheMeaning

[mae-the-chubbi-kitti-deactivate]

So like.....24/7 D/s relationships....

So I’m scrolling through FL and I’m interested in the 24/7 lifestyle (you know TPE shit) and I’m scrolling through the Harem section kcause honestly I’d love to be apart of that too. Like lord yes )

And I just wanted to kow what my mutuals thought of that type of stuff.

@brattynympho @bleachtastic @aurora-princessbabe @littlecuriousprincess @bubbly-nammu @daddys-chaton-noir @daddysprettypinkprincess @jupitersaurus Thoughts you guys

[daddys-chaton-noir]

Hey, mtck! 💕

So I’ll give most things a go, but we’ve definitely done like 24/7 TPE - is that what you’d call it?

Anyway, Daddy had full control. I thought that it would be ugly, because he likes to fuck with me & I can be stubborn, but it actually goes really well when I give over all power. We don’t fight because I don’t have a choice. Hahaa

He always fucks with my…bathroom time. He thinks it’s funny to make me do the pee-pee dance. 🙄 But beyond that, it goes really well! But we’ve been together for 4evs so it’s super easy to fall into that because I defer to him in general.

As far as harems, well…*plays with dreads & stares in the distance* That might be something we’re into. I cannot say exactly. But if we were into that, it’d be cool b/c we’d have a lady harem (b/c we both like ladies) & ladies are pretty & fun & the more the merrier but I’m always the best, so there’s that…😇

[kittenbabyxo-deactivated2018040]

I personally know that a 24/7 TPE would not work for me at all, but I am very very interested in having certain rules in place 24/7, mostly things that I need help with like sticking to a schedule, getting enough sleep, taking my mess every day etc. I don’t think I have the confidence to be involved in a harem, buuuuut that’s why I like playing w @daddys-chaton-noir and @daddysmaison so much. I adore them both and I know that we are friends first, an sexy times second 🙈

[damagictouch]

There are levels to this lifestyle. My submissive @violetltm and I have been in a 24/7 PE dynamic for about 4yrs. I never want her to lose her individuality that is part of what drew me to her. There is an Authority Transfer or what most describe as Power Exchange but it doesn’t interfere with the rest of daily lives. It works with it. Just because your in TPE or PE doesn’t mean service is part of your dynamic. They are separate. Yes there are many factors that make a dynamic or relationship successful like trust, communication, respect, honesty, etc. Including being with the right person that’s why getting to know someone before jumping into things through vetting, negotiating, cosideration is important. Yes there are times when my Violet is full service to me at home or in public and there times when isn’t. But we are always in our dynamic 24/7.

[yy4myslf]

Effort, commitment, honesty, personal strength, personal accountability, humility and forward thinking. All necessities IMHO to make this work. From My talks and her journal entries the butterflys biggest challenge in O/our 24/7 PE is following rules or protocol when she just doesn’t want to and I’m not there. The level of personal accountability is greater. As much as it is the Doms role to keep the sub in line he/she must also exert self control in their own space. As a Dom I do not pull strings in your mind to make you better but My presence and your commitment to this dynamic will push you to the next level of you not just for My benefit but for yourself as well. All great responses above as well!

[theesirsuga]

Submission from the view of a Black Male Switch.

Submission for me is something that comes from the heart, I actually love serving my Miss and my happiness comes from her happiness. I believe my happiness from serving comes from me serving in the military and helping people and seeing the smiles on their faces. Before I begin my service as a submissive, even really before I decided I was a switch, I had to go into myself and tackle all the hyper masculine I ideas I had about my self as a Black Man, or at least what I was taught to think about myself. I had to get rid of the Idea that being a Black Male meant trying to be over the top and extra with my masculinity, I also had to learn that submission doesn’t mean weakness. I do believe that as a Black Male in general we are always grasping at control and respect something that America never fully gave us and when get even the slightest taste of it we guard it literally with our lives and refuse to give it up, so when you decide you want to be in BDSM and you have all these Dynamics, even if you do find submission interesting or even being a switch, there is always that brainwashed hyper-masculine part of you that goes straight toward what the patriarchal Idea of what power and control is which can lead to a toxic and harmful relationship if you haven’t checked your Misogyny at the door. 

It can also lead you to look down at male submissive’s or switches which can cause dissension in a already small Black BDSM community. Overall I believe a good starting point for any Black Males that may be interested In the BDSM life style and being a submissive in particular would be to check you hyper masculinity and misogyny at the door, do your research on what being submissive is and the power it can hold also talk to other Black Male submissive’s and get information from them on their journey and last but not least have fun.

@lolasplayhousex

[theboardingschool]

Thank you for this.

[theboardingschool]

So You Wanna Be A Kinkster?

Welcome to the wonderful world of BDSM! Be it searching the internet, browsing Tumblr, watching the awful movie 50 shades of gray or even an adventurous partner, something has peaked your interest. Well you may ask... What now? I’m going to give you a quick (well as quick as possible) run down of how to successfully enter into this amazing world of kinky fun!

S S S & M M M *What is BDSM?*

BDSM is an overlapping acronym. BD (Bondage and Discipline), DS (Dominance and Submission), and SM (Sadism and Masochism). “Oh but Liddo Renissance,,, what does all of this meeeeaaannn?” Well My future kinky friend I shall break it down in the most basic terms I possibly can. Now probably the part of BDSM that even the most vanilla of people understands is the bondage and discipline aspect. Well what about the dominance and submission? There are people within the lifestyle who enjoy being in control and those who enjoy being controlled. There are also ones who enjoy switching between the two. Now what equates as “control” is totally dependent on the people involved. I could go on and on explaining and breaking down the BDSM acronym, but instead we will move on to...

Tops are not always Doms but Doms are usually tops? *Terms and such*

Now just like almost everything in the world the BDSM lifestyle has its own language. One of the first things with learning something new is understanding the different terms. I am by no means going to attempt to list every term in this humble post but I will link a very good list of the terms I feel you should know. 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glossary_of_BDSM

These are a good start to understanding things and even seeing whats out their that you might be into, These are just basic terms and not a list of all fetishes because their are TONS! However I will break something down for you. The aspects and inner workings of BDSM branches out like a family tree. Lets think of it as if we are classifying plants. *put your elementary science hats on* An apple tree is a vascular plant, but it is also an angiosperm. A pine tree is a vascular plant as well but its not an angiosperm... its a gymnosperm. When thinking of identities I always like to say people usually... emphasis on usually... fall into either Dominant, Submissive or somewhere in between the two. Masters/mistresses/daddies/mommies/caregivers are all technically taking on the dominant role and are known as D-types. Slaves/littles/pets/middles are all technically taking on the submissive role and are known as S-types. 

Books and blogs and videos oh my! *Research*

Whenever someone comes to me with interest in the lifestyle I am always willing to answer any and every question they might have. However, the one things I also make sure to tell them is to do some personal research. There is only so much any one person in the lifestyle can tell you no matter the experience level. Its always good to do some good old personal research as well. Even the most experienced kinksters learn from research. Simply because their is more and more information produced everyday. It might be a specific fetish you’re interested in or a certain aspect of the lifestyle. Tumblr is an “OK” place to look around. This blog and others like it can be very informative. Google is also your friend. There are books, videos, diagrams, and all kinds of other forms of kinky information. 

Who am I? What am I?

After you have read all your books and scrolled the blogs you might feel as though you have to quickly give yourself an identity. Most people won’t know exactly what they identify with as soon as they decide they want to be apart of BDSM and you don’t have to! Its definitely a good thing to give yourself time to explore and figure out who the kinky you really is. Even when you do find an identity you might not always stick with it. Most people within the lifestyle are ever evolving.  

Kinky Folks like Me? *Community*

Well now you’ve done your research, you know what you like and don’t like... Now what? How do I get to people who like the things I do? I’m a personal advocate for Fetlife. It’s like a kinky Facebook, and fr new comers it’s best feature is the events page. It’s a great place to find kink events in around you. Munches (Kink meet ups in a vanilla setting for discussions and getting to know like minded people. Usually hosted at bars, restaurants, or coffee shops) are great for going to alone to meet people in a safe and vanilla setting. Once you feel more comfortable you can start looking for play parties and educational events for various fetishes.  

Partners in Kink *Dynamics and Play partners*

Once you’ve gone out and explored the kinky life. How do relationships begin to form? There are different types of relationships in the world of BDSM. The most basic are dynamics and play partners. Play partners are pretty self explanatory, kinky partners that you play with! Dynamics are a bit more complicated. This is like the boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, bae and bae of all kinky titles. Honorary terms of endearment. Dynamics can be formal or informal, romantic or non romantic, sexual or non sexual, monogamous or non monogamous. It’s all about personal preferences. Formal dynamics can include contracts and even be 24/7. The things I feel are a must in dynamics are trust, communication, respect, consent, and honesty. Just like with vanilla relationships it’s good to know your partner, and this goes for play partners as well. This brings me to my final point in this humble post…

You’re Kinky... I’m Kinky...Let’s get Kinky! *Safety and vetting*

When it comes to meeting people in this kink nasty (freak nasty… get it..) world, consent and safety are a must. The first thing that should be established is consent. Whether this is non consenting consent over a long period of time or temporary consent for the night. IT. IS. KEY! The next thing that should be established is safety. The process of vetting is an ongoing thing. It begins from the moment you meet someone all through the beginning stages of the “relationship.” Taking time to get to know your partner in and out is important to having a successful dynamic or partnership. Get to know their kinky self, their vanilla self.. being able to know your your partner’s non-verbal queues is an important trait for the structure of the relationships within the BDSM lifestyle.

And there it is folks! That’s my spill on how to enter into this wonderful world of fetish, pleasure, pain and kinkiness! I wish you all the best and the most successful moments in this lifestyle. Take your time, learn, grow and be happy.

                                             -Liddo Renaissance

[weekendreunion]

Bondage, Dominance & Submission: Why People Get Off on BDSM | xoNECOLE

I have dabbled in being kinky, but not BDSM in its true form. Truthfully, I’m a little scared to push myself that far, but in my experiences,