🎀Mrs. Della 🎀

30F. 18+ a guidepost for the submissive who craves healthy, growth-oriented service, and the Dominant who craves a submissive committed to femininity.

[thedellaacademy]

hi :) im della. main is over at @xxbasicblondebitchxx

real pinned post to come

tag guide:

exercises - specific tasks designed for specific purposes

mantras - helpful affirmations

musings - more diary, less directive

directives - me telling you what to do

alter ego - posts from my other blog that i reblog here

[xxbasicblondebitchxx]

im a dirty girl

im a pretty doll

im a nasty slut

im a good princess

im an obedient toy

im a mindless object

im a fuckable set of holes and tits

im a docile pull string dollie

im a programmed cunt

im a brainwashed bitch

im a trained whore

im a pretty baby

im a spoiled brat

im a pliable possession

im a breeding bitch

im a perfect hole

im stupid im programmed im weak im naive im innocent im corruptible im easy im weak km easy im weak im getting easier and weaker every day.

i get easier every time i touch my tits. i get weaker every time i suck a cock.

i get stupider with every pussy i make wet and every dick i make hard. i get easier with every dollar spent on me.

the more spoiled i an the more slutty i get.

the more spoiled i am the more slutty i get. the more spoiled i am the more slutty i get. im for sale. im for purchase.

my cunt is owned by my Dadhusband and he can do whatever he wants with it

im not my own. i never was. im not my own and i never was. im not my iwn and i never was. im not my own and i never was. im not my own. i was never my own. i was never my own. i was never my own. i was mever my owni was never my own i was never my own i was never ever ever my own

any ounce of independence i ever had was a farce

every ounce of control i ever had was an illusion

every bit of intelligence i developed is subject to destruction for the sexual gratification of my husband. my husband chooses what i like. my husband chooses what i think. my husband chooses how i dress. my husband chooses how i soeak. my hisband chooses for me. i defer. i obey. i defer. i obey

my cunt is not mine. its his. i dont have autonomy because i gave it back to him. my autonomy was never mine to begin with. i dont have autonomy. my husband is my owner and my Master and my father and my brother and my world

im an owned piece of property. my Patriarch owns me. im a cunt. my Patriarch owns me. my patriarch owns me. my patriarch owns and operates me. im a toy. im a cunt with tits

[xxbasicblondebitchxx]

if you want him to be the man you deserve, be the woman he deserves first. let him respond to your femininity with his innate masculinity.

you cannot force this, and neither can he; it MUST be organic or it will be nothing.

phrase things sweetly: “what do you think about x?” as opposed to “i want x,” or “would you please get me x on your way home” rather than “i need x.” the former leaves room for masculine leadership and provision, the latter brings a sense of urgency and selfishness. dont be selfish. theres no urgency. speak as though you defer. deference will naturally follow.

move and walk with grace and ease. like i said; theres no rush. train your body and mind to slow. the. fuck. down. stop scrubbing your teeth like there’s a tiger stalking you. stop washing the dishes like youre on the clock. stop walking from room to room like a drill seargent getting his uhh. soldiers in order or whatever drill seargents do. rather, move like youre floating through water. step gently. take your time. when he’s around, especially, move with languid comfort. you have nothing to worry about. he’s providing everything you need. rest on that, and let him witness you resting on that.

move as though the way you fetch a cup out of the cabinet could make him rock fucking hard; because it can, and it should.

be sweet. be bubbly. be vivacious without necessarily seeking to be the center of attention; if you are, its because youve earned it, not because you want it. be generous with your time and energy. help those around you. encourage him.

ask him for help, even if you do not need his help. let him get the heavy things. let him open the jars. let him get your door. let him take your coat off for you when you come inside. stop complaining, unless there’s a REAL problem. stop bitching. stop judging him unless he’s actually abusive, in which case, leave him.

lots of women want a tough, dominant, commanding leader of a man. not many women seem willing to follow him, or to support and encourage that pure, devoted masculinity.

do your part and watch him blossom.

he deserves it.

[thedellaacademy]

a basic truth behind the reality we play in is that our brains are malleable.

squishy.

no matter how mentally tough you think yourself to be, you, too, are able to be slowly and intentionally crafted to suit the whims and preferences of your lover.

there are so many ways to do this, but start with the easiest: repetition paired with positive reinforcement.

for example, say you're a submissive for a Dom who desires more flexibility and openness from you. here's where i'd start you.

write a list of at least 10 ways you could become more flexible, in present tense, first person. i.e., i am very easygoing about what i eat and when! i am easy to please. i dont need to know what to expect.

record yourself repeating these mantras. during this recording, repeat each mantra at least 20 times. do it slowly, pausing deliberately between each repetition.

as often as you possibly can (bare minimum is 3x week), play the audio. listen along. repeat after yourself.

while you do 3, practice touching yourself. where does it feel soooo good to touch? pinch your nipples or tweak them just barely. edge, if you edge. overstim if you like that. get on your hands and knees and bark while you listen, if you like that.

other times, make it more studious. get out a notebook and do 3 while writing the mantras out. let yourself get into a flowstate here.

if you have a Dom already, involve them. show them your mantras and ask for ways you could improve them. repeat your mantras while they fuck you, or edge you, or hit you, or whatever it is they do to you. play your recording during it.

this is a bulletproof, seriously real way of altering your mind. what happens when you do this is you are literally rewiring your brain. each repetition of each mantra deepens the hold that statement has on your mind.

what we repeat is what we believe.

what are you repeating?