Dom Caught A Witch ~ Welcome to Pentacles and Punishments

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[hoke53]

Even to take on Fridays. ☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️

Good Morning Friends. Happy Friday.

[lilxmonsterx]

Underrated Dom Phrases:

“Did I say you could stop?”

“I wasn’t asking.”

“The more you fight, the more I wanna fuck you’”

*mock whining*

“Now.”

“Did you just say no?”

“What’s wrong? Can’t breathe?”

“That’s Sir to you.”

“Wanna say that again?”

“That wasn’t a suggestion.”

“Excuse me?”

[thetriskeliondiaries]

So you want to be a Dominant?

So you’ve sat down and watched Fifty Shades of Grey, and now you think, “yeah, I could do that. I could be a Dominant like that and tell a girl what to do. It’ll be awesome.” You’ve dusted off your suit and tie and readied your spanking hand.

That’s wonderful. Congratulations. 

But are you sure you’re ready? You are? Oh, even better! 

Quick question though: 

Are you sure? 

Are you sure you’re ready to never send another picture of your genitals to another person ever again without consent? Because that’s what being a Dominant is. That’s what being a good person is. It’s about respect. It’s about honoring other humans. 

There’s a piece of Biblical cannon that speaks about “dying to self.” You’re sure you’re ready to do that? Because that’s one of the biggest parts of being a Dominant. Yes, you hold the reins. Yes, you’re in charge. But that girl you’re in charge of, that leans on you and depends on you? You’ve become their world, their stability. Their rock and their stay and their shelter in the storm. 

You’re ready for that? 

You’re ready to exhibit self-control? Because your submissive is not your stress release or your punching bag or your side of beef a-la Rocky. Your submissive may say no. She may use her safe word. Are you ready to stop on a dime and devote all your attention to her physical and mental health in that moment? 

Are you ready for hard work? Yes, she is your submissive, your slave, your property, your toy, your muse, your sin and salvation. But she is not your fix it, your magical spell to make everything good for you while you rest on your laurels.  She is work as much as you are work for her. 

Are you ready to earn that title you’re so quick to claim? Are you ready to show her what a Sir, a Daddy, a Master is worth? Are you ready to earn her submission? Are you ready to do what it will take to reach a place where an intimate piece of another person’s existence and psyche rests tenderly in your outstretched palm? 

Are you ready? 

Are you sure? 

[sir-phrixus-govad]

[spoiled-lil-kitten]

Behavior Mod is the basis of my D/s with @1-sadistic-lover. Every moment he is sculpting me to be the masterpiece he sees inside. Sometimes this is completely adding behaviors, often it is removing roadblocks and negative habits.

To me, the point of D/s is to become the best you can possibly be. To grow beyond your destructive or protective coping mechanisms into somebody strong. And yes, because we consent to it, to grow into what is most pleasing for the Dominant. BecauSe of this, I believe that behavior modification is a very integral piece of any D/s power exchange. While it’s not always going to be comfortable to have behaviors changed, I’ve personally found that rejection of this modification can be tantamount to rejection of the Dominance entirely.

My behavior is constantly modified. Often I don’t even realize he is doing it (even though he blatantly tells me what the next goal will be). I have had my agoraphobia almost entirely removed. I have had my bad depressive episode behaviors eliminated. I have gained confidence. I have learned that I have inherent worth.

For the most part, positive reinforcement is used. When I subconsciously do the right thing, a “Good Girl” is added every time (to begin with). When the pattern of behavior is established, the reward “Good Girl” is given sporadically. The habit becomes more engrained. We use positive reinforcement for mistakes as well - (Recall here that positive reinforcement doesn’t necessarily mean something good - it simply means adding something that will reinforce the behavior desired) - when mistakes are made, the positive reinforcement is a verbal correction, and then a chance to retry. 🙈 Often this is where I will get a bit frustrated. I’m not the most graceful in my retries. But they are effective.

The obvious benefits are becoming a stronger, better version of yourself. The danger is when a Dominants vision of that is self serving entirely and actually causes more harm to the overall well-being or capability of the submissive. It’s not something to be taken lightly or for a submissive to blindly trust.

For me, the biggest difficulties with behavior modification come when something is being removed. In these cases I must be given an acceptable substitute for the behavior/habit he wishes to eliminate. Think building a tower. You can remove a wooden block near the base, but if you don’t replace it with a stone block, the entire system is more likely to crumble. If it crumbles, the submissive loses faith in the system that didn’t keep them safe. Plus it’s a hell of a lot of work to rebuild from the bottom. That said, sometimes the stone block NEEDS to just be good communication and trust with the Dominant, because certain habits don’t have a healthy equivalent to replace the behavior. In these cases; say... rejecting comfort or communication — its a harder process because these are things the submissive MUST accept as necessary. In those cases, perhaps think of it as a stone block in their foundation that has been cracked through either neglect of good habits from the submissive, or abuse (literal or figurative) in the submissive’s past. This means when it comes to behavior mod it’s the Dominants job to clean it up, point out the cracks, and hold the submissive’s hand while you BOTH fill in the cracks with mortar together. I have been through this process. It is slow. It is necessary. And it only works if you BOTH have hands on the tools to fix it.

[onelittlekingdom]

What’s a red flag when finding a daddy online, or in general?

May 18, 2020: Morning

Here come 10:

🚩 Men who disappear and leave you alone for long periods of time

🚩 Men who take no interest in hearing and learning your limits

🚩 Men who react in anger when simply told no.

🚩 Men who isolate you, and discourage you from having healthy friendships and family relationships

🚩 Men who make you feel bad about yourself  

🚩 Subs who submit out of excitement, rather than prudence

🚩 Subs who ignore the little voice in their head due to blind trust

🚩 Subs who don’t seek opinions from other kinksters when they are unsure of something

🚩 Subs that don’t have kinky friends - just a dom

🚩 Subs who go looking for doms before they have fully learned and understood all the potential dangers and red flags they should be looking for each time they vet a candidate

JD

[instructor144]

Well done on balancing red flags for both sides of the slash, JD.

[frankdefrankioso]

[mwdomdaddy]

MWDD🐺🐾

[megikindran-deactivated20240221]

[daisyfreshdollyofficial]

[art-of-domination-deactivated20]

Look

Look.

Look at yourself.

Look at what I see.

Look at your elegance.

Look at your mystique.

Look at your magnificence.

Look at what makes me crazy.

Look at what makes me desire more.

Look at what makes me want nothing but you.

Look.

[spoiled-lil-kitten]

So You’re Going to your First Event!

Congratulations!! What an exciting time! But it can also be nerve wracking: “What if I do something wrong?” “What’s expected of me?” “What will it be like?”

Because there are so many things to wonder about, I put together a list of some common expectations for Dungeon Events! Feel free to share!

• Don’t touch anything or anyone that isn’t yours

• Don’t get offended if you’re directed to speak to a submissive’s D type

• Safewords aren’t optional

• If alcohol is served : Don’t get wasted

• Don’t assume you can tell anything about people’s relationships or dynamics (current or previous)

• Did I mention DON’T TOUCH ANYONE?

• Do not use pet names or titles you haven’t earned

• You aren’t entitled to anything

• Practice and/or research before ever using a tool or skill on another human

• Do not interrupt another’s scene

• If seeing something triggers you, remove yourself from the situation

• If somebody touches (or similar) you without consent, report to a Dungeon Master right away (often wearing glow sticks or name tags)

• If you are intrigued or curious about something you see, often people are willing to exchange contact information for the sake of future education.

• “Where’d you find that”? When not interrupting something, is an often loved question and can get you in touch with incredible item creators.

• “Pick Up Play” can be very dangerous; it’s much wiser to negotiate with somebody before the day of.

• Be respectful of all bodies and sexualities.

• Dont assume gender pronouns

• Aways wipe down your play area after use

• If a kink is not your kink, be silent and respectful

• You are not expected to dress/undress a certain way. Stay comfortable

• Don’t try things without knowing the risks

• Bring an ID that proves you are of legal age

• Almost all sex clubs have rules about wearing condoms - pack accordingly

• Most places do not allow phones to be out; plan any contact accordingly

💠Happy Kinking!💠

[depression-and-movies]

“Community has pulled off one the most patient easter egg: in one episode of each of the first three seasons, the word “Beetlejuice” was used off-handedly in a joke. If you’ve seen the movie Beetlejuice, the titular mischievous ghost would appear in the world of the living if anyone said his name three times. So, sure enough, on the third mention by a Community character, this guy appears in the background for exactly two seconds. They patiently waited three years to reach that punchline.“

[sand-in-the-timepiece]

TF HATS FUCKING BRILLIANT

[jacobnordby]

[an-erotic-gentleman]

[firefly-flashes]

“Show me,” he said.

Lifting her little black dress, she slowly bared the sexy red satin and lace of her panties to him. His fingers slid teasingly up her thigh, stroking over the damp warmth of her pussy through her panties.

“You’re wet,” he said. It wasn’t a question, but she nodded agreeably. “I think the panties are very sexy, sweetheart. But I also think you know better than to wear them without asking.”

She looked up at him anxiously.

“Take them off,” he said patiently, rising from his chair. “Bend over the arm of my chair and lift your skirt…”

[theladymorganlefay]

**Reminder that "smudging" is part of a closed practice. Please call in cleansing.

[therestlesswitch]

Try to share artwork directly from the artist! If you can’t share it directly from the artist, at least link them!

[sleepin]

[art-of-domination-deactivated20]

“Tell me what’s wrong, sweetheart.  I can see it in your eyes.”

“I don’t want to talk about it.”

“I can tell something is bothering you.  What happened today?”

“It’s the same old shit.  I fucking hate it some days.  It just makes me so angry.”

“Well, tell me about it.  Let me listen while you vent about it.”

“I don’t want to.”

“Settle, little one.  Settle now.”

“Yes, Sir.”

“Look at me.  That’s a good girl.  Now, you know you’re going to feel better once we sit down and relax and talk.  And I’m here to give you whatever you need to help you release today.  Whatever you like.  But I don’t want you to keep it in.  Ok?”

“Yes, Sir.  Thank you, Sir.”

[kissingpicture]

[art-of-domination-deactivated20]

Damn, girl, do you ever not look sexy? Is there ever a time you don’t make me fucking crazy with desire. You can be wearing an evening gown, a pair of jeans, or just your underwear. You can have your makeup and hair done or just be natural and there’s never a moment you don’t completely do it for me. The simple fact of the matter is I just can’t get enough of you.