Why Should the Fire Die?

“I am the combined effort of everyone I have ever known.”

[virgomoon-deactivated20240514]

the only way to restore humanity is to kill instagram altogether

[kisses5ever]

things about you

[writhe]

i have a hill to die on real quick

[writhe]

phrases like “you don’t owe anyone anything” and “relationships aren’t transactional” have the power to be used in ways that are very backwards and harmful

for example, no you don’t owe anyone anything in that if some creep is trying to get with you, you can block him without feeling bad. you don’t owe kindness to people who are transphobic or racist or bigoted.

but, you can’t use this as an excuse to fuck over people who have helped you. “you don’t owe anyone anything” isn’t an excuse to allow yourself to forget compassion and basic empathy, it isn’t an excuse for you to be an asshole just because you find it easier to be one

relationships aren’t transactional in that if your partner does something nice for you, you are indebted to them. they do these things because they love you; it is their choice to express love through these gestures

but they are transactional in that you both actively need to be putting time and care into the relationship. ignoring the dynamic of one person caring too much (and putting in excessive (emotional an literal) work and labor) while the other does nothing isn’t healthy. one person can’t solely take and the other person can’t solely give- that’s dangerous, and you can’t put the bandaid of “this isn’t transactional” over a relationship that is draining you in all capacities

i’m tired of seeing these things being misconstrued and used as an excuse to hurt people, while framing it as a way of taking care of yourself

[ip2lb]

[findme-at1am]

no joke who wants a date like this?

[podencos]

Hey baby have u considered committing to friendship the same way you’re endeared to the idea of romantic love

[corsolanite]

Were 23 years into this anime and it’s now that they wanna start questioning the evolution logic.

[purplebuddhaquotes]

“The life in front of you is way more important than the life behind you.”

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[mirandaaylese]

accept the ending of relationships, eras, experiences, etc.

[thefoolonthehill14]

“One day, all the love you’ve given away will find it’s way back to you, and it will finally stay.”

— bunny-in-neverland  (via wnq-writers)

[purplebuddhaquotes]

“Become addicted to constant and never-ending self improvement.”

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[purplebuddhaquotes]

“She quietly expected great things to happen to her, and no doubt that’s one of the reasons why they did.”

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[purplebuddhaquotes]

“There will come a day when you’ll be so grateful that you never gave up.”

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[wellbutrinboy]

someone i speak to every day: hey

me: i miss you and i love you

[nevver]

Camera obscura, KangHee Kim

[purplebuddhaquotes]

“When someone is going through a storm, your silent presence is more powerful than a million, empty words.”

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[purplebuddhaquotes]

“‘You’re going to be happy’ said life ‘but first I’ll make you strong.’”

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[purplebuddhaquotes]

“For the wise, rocks on the path will become steppingstones, not obstacles.”

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