Ang âmalungkotâ na Noli De Castro-Kylie Verzosa interview
We can liken Noli De Castro's now-infamous interview with Ms International 2016 Kylie Verzosa to a Marvel movie wherein we have stopped talking about the movie itself because the epilogue--which came out of nowhere and without warning and at the very very end of the movie--shocked dead our concept of a happy ending.
Ito âyun mga bes:
Indeed, people have stopped talking about the interview, they have begun raging mad about it (or at least about the "epilogue"). Paano naman kasi, sinabihan ni Kabayan Noli si Kylie na, "Ang lungkot niyan," dahil wala siyang love life. Eh ang daming naka-relate kay Kylie na zero love life din pero hindi sila malungkot, ayun na-online kuyog tuloy ang former vice president natin.
Thanks to Kabayan Noli, Kylie has a newfound advocacy: Ang itaguyod ang niyuyurakang reputasyon ng mga single.
I guess what's most cringe-worthy about the incident is the more Kabayan Noli tries to correct his error and placate the not-visibly-irritated interviewee, the more he sinks in the quicksand of embarrassment he dug for himself. By the time the interview ended, the nation is given a grand total of three lessons we ought to remember about being single, courtesy of the 24-year-old beauty queen.
1. Hindi malungkot maging single
Sabihin mo âyan sa sarili mo 10x a day para magkatotoo. Hahahahah :D
Ganito kasi âyun. May ibang category ng kasiyahan sa pagiging single at may ibang category din ng kasiyahan sa pagiging committed or married na. May mga bagay na na-e-enjoy ng mga single na âdi na na-e-enjoy ng mga taong in a relationship. Ganoon din naman ang mga taong committed na, may na-e-enjoy sila na mahiwagang misteryo na lang muna para saâting mga single.
Pero isa ang sigurado: Kung alam mo ang kahalagahan mo kay Kristo, âdi magiging malungkot ang buhay mo dahil lang wala kang ka-text ng Kumain ka na? Nag-breakfast ka na? Uwian mo na? Natanong ko na ba mga routinary questions ng relationship natin para 'di ka ma-insecure? (Haha sorry na.)
Worth and happiness are not solely determined by oneâs relationship status. Instead, fulfilling Godâs call for your life is the ultimate barometer of whether or not you are actually going to live a joyful and satisfied life.
Hindi malungkot maging single kung sa panahong single ka ay ginagawa mo ang calling ni Lord sa buhay mo para sa partikular na panahong âyan.
Magiging malungkot lang ang pagiging single kung puwede ka namang mag-asawa na at pinagtutulakan ka na ni Lord mag-asawa pero âdi mo pa rin inaaksyunan.
Unfortunately, it is a widespread belief that being single, regardless of a personâs personal circumstances, is misery. Unfortunately, Kabayan Noli becomes in the interview a purveyor of that unfortunate perspective.
Like Iâve said before, and I quote myself (haha): âBecause someone is unmarried does not mean that he/she is pathetic. So maybe we should stop poking them with questions like âKelan ka mag-aasawa?â Wala ngang bf/gf tapos tatanungin kung kelan ikakasal?â
Of course, the Bible describes marriage as a bringer of unique bliss. But this doesnât mean that single people are doomed to walk down the moribund valley of sadness. There are many ways to discover lifeâs joys God uniquely designed for every individual. One of them could be winning a beauty pageant.Â
2. Hindi kailangang may manligaw saâyo just to validate your worth
Heto na nga, sinermonan na ni Kylie si Kabayan Noli. In fairness to our ex-VP, he tried to make amends for his sin by trying to show millions of Filipinos on live TV that Kylie may not have a boyfriend but she may be a happy person after all because she has suitors âof course!â
Eh kaso wala! So ayun nag-fail ang attempt na makabawi :(((((
Women, donât be affected by the common opinion of society that having suitors is the meaning of life. Or that those who have suitors are of a higher grade of femininity compared to you. Womanhood is in itself a gift from God (so is manhood) that can be used for His glory even without its worth having to be validated by the number of suitors your womanhood has attracted over the years.
Oo, may kakaibang kilig at enerhiyang dala ang pagkakaroon ng mga manliligaw. Pero âdi natin diyan dapat sukatin ang kagandahan mo bilang tao at babaeng nilkha ng Diyos para sa kapurihan niya.
Kung wala ka pang manliligaw ngayon, darating din âyan. Awa ng Diyos. (âAwaâ talaga ang term.) In the mean time, nurture the relationships you have right now, :)
3. Hindi kailangang maging achiever para ma-validate ang worth ng isang babae
Aside from the customary congratulations, the last words of this interview are the painful âNgayon dadami na.â
At this point we are given the impression that there didnât use to have any reason for courting Kylie. But now that she has been crowned Miss International, men finally have at least one reason to want to be her boyfriend.
Itâs amazing how in less than a minute, we were bombarded by perspectives on singleness and womanhood that are plainly wrong. It is possible that Kabayan Noli merely stated the reality that the world typically assigns more value on women who are achievers than women who live less hyped-up lives. As a broadcaster, though, I think he should have been more responsible in not highlighting that deplorably reigning mindset.
Walang masama sa excellence. Pero âwag sana natin sukatin ang kahalagahan ng isa laban sa isa pa dahil sa magkaiba nilang levels ng achievement sa buhay.
Ladies, please know that the Bible exalts women of character over women of excellent achievements. And if gentlemen are to look for a girlfriend/wife, I would recommend that character be the number one criteria. To assign more value on women because they have more prominent achievements is cruel. Women are already precious as they are.
I hope Noli de Castro redeems himself someday somehow. âYan lang naman maco-conclude ko.
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