The Gentle Cowboy

some learnings and takeaways from life

[thegentlecowboy]

# the love poem: some notes

I found the poem (I just reblogged it here, read first please) earlier this year. It’s a part of the truth of all our lives. I think that humans with a free will are supposed to spread love and to embrace others. Love in all its varieties connects us the the Higher Being. Do not fear the dark sides of life because love has the strength to conquer all of us. Even if you cannot imagine in your current situation.

[frangwilde]

And then make love

And then make love. No sex, only love. And with this I mean slow kisses on the mouth, on the neck, on the belly, on the back, biting lips,  interwining hands, and eyes inside each other’s eyes. I mean hugs so tight to become one, embedded bodies and souls in collision, caresses on the scratches , taking off clothes together with fears, kisses on weakness, on the marks of a life that was a little wrong till that moment. I mean fingers on the bodies, creating constellations, inhaling scents, hearts that beat together, breaths that go on the same rhythm, and then smiles, sincere smiles after a while they weren’t anymore. So, make love and don’t be ashamed, because love is art and you the masterpieces.

-Alda Merini

Translation by Frances Gray Wilde

Alda Merini was an Italian poet who had her life marked by tragedies and sorrow. She found through poetry her healing and salvation. She’s one of my favorite poets. Today I stumbled upon this poem of hers I didn’t know. I found a lot of me in it and I couldn’t help sharing. 

[thegentlecowboy]

# Key factors of aliveness

physical: the body condition and its resilience, e.g. immune strength, having enough to eat and drink, hygiene

emotional: self-esteem as a condition for self-love, expressing and embracing feelings, also coping with stress and pressure

intellectual: decisions, processing information, balancing values

sexual: feeling comfortable with own desires and instincts, being able to have intense body connection on a physical level to others and to ourselves, intimacy, dealing with sexual moral and taboos

social: building relationships, faith, trust, openness, verbal and nonverbal communication skills, sharing talents

cultural: understanding where you are coming from, acknowledging the past education as a social treatment, weighing situations in a cultural context

spiritual: getting to know your most inner core, identifying your internal power unit, building connectedness with invisible parts of the world

Takeaway

Everything is linked. The change of balance over lifetime between these key factors is helping us to evolve. Ignoring one or several of these factors is dangerous. We should play the full orchestra.

[thegentlecowboy]

# WTF, I am a psychic?

(originally written on Oct. 18, 2016)

I won't talk or research much about being psychic. I feel best when exploring it for myself. In English, I also don't like the word 'psychic'.

But - from what I've read yesterday and felt in the last weeks, all things clear up. There is something behind the term.

I am now very sure that I am "a bit psychic" and have been before without being so aware as I am now. Many things cleared up, e.g. about Chakras and such, and no wonder that I sometimes have kind of pain e.g. at solar plexus area. I learned why I love and need fresh fruits and vegetables - same reason. Now I know why I regularly look for being grounded even when spending time with someone 'special' - the change between being "enabled" and being down to earth is essential and important. I could tell a lot of such indicators that were listed. So many things I did in the past years were intuitively right, yippie!

What I also learned: some aspects of being psychc are not really mine (yet), while others (clairvoyance and foresight and such) are quite strong on my side. I love that!

I also learned why listening to music while being concentrated stimulates my creativity. In this field, I kind of play with the psychicness (still hating that term for it) to trigger associations and/or feelings.

Being special

Being special can be a burden. You can easy feel like residing outside of social groups, like in a foggy bubble. The other young people treated me very 'average', although I was feeling more inside me. Some friends and the first girlfriend were part of my experiences that helped me survive these dark ages of not knowing about my real position in life.

For many years, I asked myself: what is wrong with me?

Takeaway

Nothing's wrong, I learned. I started to play more with my special talents than ever before. It's like a door that opened up a new part of the universe. Also a beginning of a new level in accepting myself. Self-acceptance is one of several  keys.

[thegentlecowboy]

# what's the purpose of life?

Anonymous was writing:

I believed universe sent everyone to be in this world with purpose and by saying that you should know what you are good at and its mean you have to really be passion about what you do and keep doing it until you can give it back to universe and that how i tried to help everyone to feel the same way

The need of attention

Many people are coming to me and I start feeling that there's some need for attention. Full, open-minded attention is rare in these busy times. If I give this unconditional attention to them and let all vibrations slowly entering me and then responding this by resonating back to them by words and actions, I can feel their heart warming up more and more. Some people remind me of a new born child wanting, literally sucking the attention they get.

Raising harmony level

For me, giving full attention is a good feeling since I help someone in harmonising himself/herself, reaching more inner balance. When someone in my near feels more in sync with their challenges of life, I also feel good because of a higher harmony level in general.

Caution! Some tend to suck

But beware of the energy suckers! They come and try to get your attention to satisfy an egoistic need of getting attention. They are not into giving some attention of their own to someone else, they are also not grateful because their view of world is rotating around their ego. Some ego people are only hiding their darker intentions, so let's differentiate between 'innocent energy suckers' and 'intentional energy suckers'. The innocent ones only need some education and then they start giving energy back to the universe. The latter ones are to avoid. Such energy vampires suck your attention (sometimes even more) and have no interest in using this to reach a higher frequency level, more harmony. No, they feed their needs of energy with your attention and do not plan to resonate with this. Me is personally giving them what they dislike the most: peaceful ignorance.

The purpose of human life is more than this

… has multiple dimensions. This energy raising game by giving attention to friend A who then feels more balanced and is able and willing to give attention to his child C who feels then more balanced and is then able to give attention to his sister B who then feels ... and so on ... is one of these dimension which also touch many other constitutional aspects of human existence. In future posts, this topic will be covered several times.

Takaway

Full attention by heart in a sincere, open attitude is one of the most precious „things“ we can give to others. Be aware of this value and do not waste it. It's one of your most beautiful heart jewels. Take care of it!

[thegentlecowboy]

# The end of suffering

Introduction

Following, I use my own words and thoughts. In many aspects, I can find my thoughts in the presentations or books of people like Eckart Tolle or Matt Kahn. These are wise guys, but I prefer to write it in my own words for you. I will force myself using short sentences. :-)

Times of suffering and their effects

When we had times when we suffered a lot, there is the start point of it all.

This 'age of suffering' can happen in all life stages – early childhood, primary school age, youth, adulthood, seniority. The younger we are and the harder the challenges are, the more impact will occur.

To be clear: 'Time of suffering' is always a longer timeframe. Often years long, rarely shorter episodes. The longer and the more complex the suffer-causing incidents last, the larger the impact of this 'age of suffering' will be.

The consequences of suffering are sometimes hard to stand. Some people can't deal with it, we say 'she/he is broken'. Being broken can lead e.g. to drug addiction/alcoholism, aggression towards others, chronic depression, sexual abuse, suicide ... just to name a few options of what can follow when someone 'breaks'.

Others manage to deal even with severe violation or extreme amounts of loss, they do not break (yet). In this article, I will try explore this kind of resilient people. Human beings that developed some certain strengths while coping with their time(s) of suffering. We could call them 'strong people', which would imply that the broken ones are 'weak'. This is not always true. Everyone can break at a certain point. Some earlier, others later.

Where does the suffering live? and the backside of suffering

When we say 'It's all in your heart', we're quite close to it. All times of suffering are 'memorised' forever. The deep memory of the soul can never be deleted. We must differentiate between a conscious memory and a somehow 'emotional memory'. The time(s) of suffering lead/s to negative or even self-destructive emotions. These expand our emotional capacity on both extremes - the counterpart of negative emotions also develops a similar volume of space for positive emotions. When you know how cold real coldness feels, you also know how warming real warmth is - a simple metaphor that fits quite well here.

Self-Protection

The exploration of the dark and threatening emotions of times of suffer enlarges the fields where we could feel hurt in the future. We lock them away. We build shields, create walls. Since the negative and positive emotional areas are connected - imagine them as the two sides of same world: a bright side and a dark side. When we allow sharing a certain area of the bright side with someone, we also risk to get hurt on the subsequent dark side of that certain area. Learning to be strong also makes us hard: for protection reasons.

The role of recognition

Recognition plays an important role, but not the all deciding role. Recognition is only a factor. Imagine every person being a pot (to cook with), without a cover. If we recognise someone, then we suddenly 'know' that we know that 'pot' and that we have a cover in stock that could fit. Vice versa being recognised means that both 'know' each other and that both have a cover in stock that could fit the other 'pot'. Maybe you have a soul contract with each other, an appointment out of past lifecycles.

In most relationships, the cover is too small, has holes or is not fitting in a stable manner. But hey, it works! Somehow.

Recognising someone who also has the almost perfect fitting cover for the other is quite rare. Way cool, that! Unfortunately only for one side while the other must live with a cover that somehow fits, but not that perfect. Even though there's a certain imbalance, it can work quite good and for a longer time. When two persons recognise each other AND both know that they own such a nearly perfect fitting cover for the other, we can describe this as very rare, or, 'once in a lifetime'. The 1%-case if the age, gender, location and other environmental factors fit all together.

The end of suffering

There are several potential endpoints for suffering - when we will never suffer again:

A. The complete division of mind and body - a state where we don't need any other person. Being able to give without ever needing something from another person. A pot that closed itself on its own. Can happen on a long way through the life, e.g. by the death of one of the participants of B or by reaching nirvana, where all consciousness learned to fly.

B. sharing the life with someone who feels what we feel long before we aware of this feeling - the 1%-case described above or a compromise that works for a longer period or even lifelong.

C. Death. If we die before one of the one of the other endpoints is reached, the suffer will repeat or continue in the next reincarnation.

Takeaway

Stay open and perceive every human contact around you. Recognising soul friends requires full awareness for resonating people. Today's busy outside world is flooding us with useless impressions. Though, tomorrow's satisfying and evolving life path can only be found when we learn better to recognise our 'contract partners'. Who is this? Listen to your inner guide's voice and open your senses.

[thegentlecowboy]

The rose is without 'why'; it blooms simply because it blooms. It pays no attention to itself, nor does it ask whether anyone sees it.

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[thegentlecowboy]

The New You

a kind of a preface:

In the last years I learned: Humans have much more power and capabilities than we are aware of. In my case, I did never expect that a disease-induced handicap is able to open my heart and my senses for the true satisfaction in life. My companion is  (or was?) called 'multiple sclerosis'. In the last 20 yrs, I managed (and succeeded in) some challenges in my and in others' lifes and never lost my positive attitude. A source of positive energy lives in my soul, I was guessing!

Though besides this, hardness in life has its positive functions. We grow from there. I will demonstrate it in the following posts. Some of my learnings were a big surprise for me. How to lose much and feel free on the other side – I did not expect such a positive impact of loss.

The way the environment, the background shaped us ... makes it difficult to stay authentic, to be really who we are. After some years, I could accept that I was in a state of constant loss – losing body functions due to small damage in the neurologic system. Was it really the reason or is there more behind it. In future posts, I will cover this question. After accepting my fate, I draw my conclusions about what the doctors (and science) say: You can't get better anymore. You can be happy if you stay in your current state. More likely is that you will lose more and more. OK. Let's play a good match with a bad set of cards – my conclusion out of this.

Since I started to trust in my own healing and restoring power, things change more and more to a better side: nutrition changed, self love improved (later, I will write a lot about self love and its importance), started to feel my body better, supporting this by physiotherapy (I call it sports), every day training and hearing more and more my inner voice saying:

It was the old You, who learned to accept and to adapt. But now there is the new You starting – the new You is the one who learned that we can heal ourselves if we carefully consider our environment and our energy levels. The new You is caring about getting better, not about to slowly disappear completely. My travel just started – I don't know where the flow of life is carrying me.

Takeaway:

Find your inner self and listen to it. The environment is a reality that tries to create us – but the inner voice should be your guide, not the words of others.