Veiled Stardust🍁

Mastering the Art of Detachment

[theloststar0]

I’m not sad, just empty in a way that doesn’t go away.

[wordx]

[theloststar0]

Where did you learn to be this smart and cool? gloomy girl.

Nowhere special. Years of overthinking and random life experiences probably did the job!

[theloststar0]

I would prefer not to risk the friendship and also she lives in another country which unfortunately doesn't get along well with mine so its a dead end anyway.

If you already feel the friendship matters more and see too many barriers, then maybe you already have your answer. Sometimes timing, distance, or circumstances matter just as much as feelings do. Choosing to preserve what you already have is also a valid choice.

[theloststar0]

Would it be wise to approach as i am not sure about what she may feel for me?

That depends on what matters more to you, having clarity or avoiding the risk of changing the dynamic. Either way, approach with honesty and respect for whatever answer you get. If you’re unsure, there’s always some risk. But if your feelings are genuine, approaching respectfully and being prepared for any answer is probably wiser than staying stuck wondering. But I think it’s worth considering whether you’re ready for either outcome, reciprocation or rejection, because both are possible.

[theloststar0]

soft light, tall trees, quiet moments

“green skies and peaceful vibes 🍃”

[theloststar0]

Not intimate in that way but more like feeling that your feelings for that person are changing and you would want to be in love with them and consensual intimacy if they reciprocrate your feelings.

Fair enough. If your feelings are changing and you’d want a relationship if they felt the same, then I think that’s completely okay. At that point, it sounds more like romantic feelings developing. The rest depends on how the other person feels and what they want too.

[theloststar0]

Is it okay if you develop romantic and intimate feelings for someone despite loving and respecting them in a non intimate way?

I think loving and respecting someone in a non-intimate way and developing romantic or intimate feelings are two different things. If those feelings change, the relationship changes too, it’s hard to keep calling it purely non-intimate after that. What matters is being honest about what you actually feel instead of trying to label two different things as the same.

[theloststar0]

Yes, i have felt that. I wanted to share more of me, or perhaps all of me, with one person, and then with anyone who would accept me. And then it terrified me and now i do not like to share anything with anyone. Not even a hello (if that makes sense.)

I get what you mean. Sometimes after being scared to open up, staying quiet starts feeling easier. But I still think there are people who would want to know every version of you and appreciate the things you choose to share. I hope you meet people who remind you that sharing yourself doesn’t always have to feel so heavy.

[alhamdulillah10]

Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:

‎It was said:

‎“I will remain patient in order to please You (Oh Allāh),

‎even though my sorrow kills me.

‎It suffices me that You are pleased,

‎even though my patience kills me.”

‎[Madarīj as-Salikeen | 2/157]

[theloststar0]

Have you ever wanted to share more of yourself, but felt terrified?

[theloststar0]

Yeh main hoon ya koi aur hai

Meri tarah…

[theloststar0]

I stood there numb. I could no longer cry. I felt emotionless... Like stone, too solid to break down. I was filled with so much pain that nothing could make me cry....

[theloststar0]

The worst part of losing a mother is figuring things out on your own.

[theloststar0]

Do you know what sorrows the rain can prompt?

 And how gutters sob when it pours down?

 Do you know how lost a lonely person feels in the rain?

[frailbug]

you think that you're so alone in the world then you read literature from hundreds of years ago and you realize that other people have always felt this way

[shisasan]

your loneliness has ancestors, your soul has company ⋆˙⟡♡

[theloststar0]

You ain't funny you sad girl.

Then you don’t know me enough, unfortunately. But thanks for the anonymous analysis 😔