I am a cisgender bisexual woman and I think my boyfriend, whose cisgender, might be asexual, a heteromantic asexual. Now he is intimate with me, but he doesnt usually initiate our intimate sessions and we are only intimate on special occasions. This doesnt change how I feel for him, but I am afraid that he is self conscious about talking to me about his questioning sexuality because ya know...societies toxic standards for manliness. Sand I just want him to be accepted and I've seen so much, just, judgment on heteromantic asexuals.
There is a special brand of judgement het aces face. And yes, asexual men do often find themselves in conflict with specific toxic traits our culture says men should have. From what you describe, it is possible that your boyfriend is on the asexual spectrum, in which case it would also be likely that he faces such things.
However, be careful not to project this as a certainty since he has not communicated any of this to you. There are other possibilities for his situation, whatever it is, and only he can decide how he wants to define and label his sexuality. In my opinion, you could share info with him if you think he doesn’t have it, try to help him feel comfortable discussing these topics with you, and overall just keep supporting him as I would bet you are based on what you typed here.
