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@themaveriqueagenda
hi. i'm a disabled enby who needs top surgery but can't work. dysphoria is actively ruining my life & i could use your support.
ways to support me:
donate to my GFM: https://gofund.me/3d2e4ed4e
buy from my shop: https://freakshop-2.creator-spring.com
subscribe to my pod: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/misfitmedia/subscribe
i can also do random little things like digital drawing, mediocre audio/video editing, transcribing, doing some english/german translations.
please share 💜
it's so weird seeing certain people on my instagram feed and thinking about how i only followed them because they are a nonbinary person with boobs, as a way to prove to myself that i too can be happy as a nonbinary person with boobs. denial is so weird.
Maverique blinkies !!
Please ignore that some of them have slightly different text colours, I made them in the dead of night and didn't realize it would be a problem 😭
Made on the wonderful and super fun gerudo valley blinkie maker by @\blinkees , so CREDIT HIS WEBSITE before me if you use these blinkies. @ me AND share the link.
More pronoun options are coming soon.
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☆ Related: non-binary [link], genderqueer [link], agender [link]
☆ MASTERPOST [link]
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Texts :
Maverique
Maverique pride
outside the binary || out of bounds
unconventional! || non-binary
they/them || it/its || any/all
no pronouns || neopronouns
Maverique is unique!
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staying fat is gender-affirming care
I had never heard of maverique before stumbling across your blog, but something about it resonates a lot with me. Do you have any resources that dive more into the identity that you could share, by any chance? I currently identify as pangender, but now I’m questioning that a little. I’m very curious to know more but I don’t know where to start. Thank you and have a nice day!
i'd recommend the @maveriques blog or going to @queerascat and searching for maverique. (both of these blogs belong to the person who coined maverique.)
I need help understanding difference between peragender, maverique and ilyagender. I get that aporagender/aliagender is an umbrella term for genders that are not male, female, in-between of two nor an absence of gender, but I don't get the difference between mav, pera and ilya
hi! sorry it took me so long to get to this question.
the unsatisfying answer is that it's ultimately semantics. and that's not to dismiss people who identify as one of these but not the others, because the semantics and what each term emphasises matter to people.
maverique is defined as a gender that has nothing to do with male/masculine, female/feminine and neutral while not being genderless. the term is based on maverick, which describes unbranded cattle, i.e. cattle that don't have their owner's mark) or
a person who thinks and acts in an independent way, often behaving differently from the expected or usual way
maverique in its name really emphasises a gender that exists outside of conventional ideas of gender.
ilyagender is defined as a gender that isn't male, female, neutral, agender in anyway and also not being a combination of or derivation from them. it's worth noting that ilyagender was coined only 6 months after maverique. a lot of people coined similar terms in 2014 (including apora and alia). one supposed difference between ilyagender and maverique i've seen people talk about is that ilyagender specified that it's not related to neutrality, whereas maverique doesn't specify that. in reality, queerascat, who coined maverique, used slightly different wordings often when they defined maverique for someone who asked, sometimes explicitly stating it has "nothing to do with neutrality", sometimes just saying "it's not male, female, neutral or genderless", also not specifying whether or not it's related to male and female etc. looking at their stuff, it becomes clear that they coined maverique almost as an opposite of neutral (saying things like "it leaves no room for apathy or neutrality" in one of their earlier definitions), and that "not neutral" means "not neutral in anyway, not related to it". the person who coined ilyagender said they consider this gender to be separate from maverique, but still a cousin. but they also talked about how a lot of terms are synonyms that feel different from each other, i'm not sure where this leaves us. "ilya" comes from "il y a" which is french for "there is" or "there exists". the name really emphasises a presence of gender.
it's worth noting that these two terms were quite explicitly coined to describe the coiner themself, and were then picked up by people who found the terms useful. i think this is how we end up with some terms that have differences that feel very nebulous to an outsider, because they are very personal to the person who created the term.
péra is defined as not being a part of or related to the gender trinary of male/female/none (or sometimes neutral). it is unfortunately based on the harmful concept of the gender trinary, a concept so utterly useless that the coiner themself didn't even know what the third category of the "trinary" is. i think term can be redeemed though if we only use the second and longer wording of the definition, which describes péra as not at all female, male, androgynous or neutral, while also not being a lack of gender, confusion about or apathy towards one's gender. it's similar to maverique and ilyagender, but péra is the only term of the three that explicitly specifies that it's *not* confusion, a less nebulous difference i can point to. péra comes from greek and means "beyond".
so tbh, mostly the differences are what you make them. technically all three of these terms apply to me, but i only use maverique for myself. maverique is the first term i found (in fact, péra wasn't coined until after i had already established my identity as maverique), it has the flag i like most, i just like the term and history the most. but it might have gone differently if i found another term first.
I saw your post about the nonbinary identity and androgyny and FUCK you are so right. It's like, to be the "right way" of nonbinary we need to basically be a trans man or trans woman with another label slapped on top.
And if we're not, we're one of those "nontransitionners theyf*b genderfuck cissexualsss"
Like, I agree, enby people don't owe androgyny, but let's be for real. If one happened to be androgynous they would just call them fem or masc either way. It's like androgyny doesn't exist to them.
just putting this out there because i agree, but i have nothing to add.
Hello! Do you know of any alternative maverique flags?
there's this one and this one. both are a bit straining on the eyes, so be warned.
i think of things in terms of hard and soft rather than masculine and feminine
so i joined the transcription team of the gender reveal podcast.
and the first episode i got is literally with someone i watched on tiktok right around the time my denial wall about top surgery was breaking. wild!
(it's Lynn Loheide and i found a tiktok of them trying on clothes before and after top surgery)
me: yeah i don't really feel a connection to my AGAB at all and don't relate much to those who do
me when someone talks shit about bi+ women, ace women, fat women, other women who share a marginalisation with me: okay now it's PERSONAL
"nonbinary people can still relate to a binary gender" feels like our version of "aces can still have sex" or "aros can still date".
hear me out.
firstly, there shouldn't be a "still" there. that implies that these things are contradictory which is not the case for terms that describe broad spectrums. there are nonbinary people who relate to a binary gender, full stop.
secondly, while all of these statements are inherently true, the way they are often used is what's messed up. it keeps being used to erase nonbinary people with no relation to either binary gender (aces who don't want sex/aros who don't want to date) or it's used to coerce us into a binary gender (aces into having sex/aros into dating). this is something i feel as a maverique.
and for nonbinary people who do relate to a binary gender (aces who have sex/aros who date), it's used to erase their nonbinary (ace/aro) identity and treat them like a binary (allo) person. this is something i feel as a greyro ace in a romantic-and-sometimes-sexual relationship.
we have correct statements about community diversity and they got into the hands of people who don't understand nuance and even use it against us.
i see "nonbinary people don't owe you androgyny" at least three times a week but in 9 years of being out, the times where i felt like androgyny was genuinely expected of me, i can probably count on one hand. like to the point where i can't remember specific instances.
in my case and from what i've seen for many other nonbinary people afab or assumed to be, the expectation isn't androgyny but masculinity. the expectation is the supposed opposite of our agab. and it's not to prove our nonbinarity because the people who have those expectations usually don't truly believe we exist anyway. they expect me to be masculine to "show" them that i'm not a woman. if i'm feminine, i'm not trying hard enough. if i'm masculine though, i'm secretly a trans man or should just accept that i'm a masculine woman. society is known for saying one thing and moving the goalposts. oh you were afab and non-feminine? well, you're not a real woman. oh you don't identify as a woman? well, it's ok to just be a masculine woman. oh you want us to recognise you as anything other than a woman? completely swing the other way. oh now you're masculine? it's just a matter of time before you go by he/him. i've seen similar things happen to nonbinary people amab. and i have seen this whole thing come from other trans people too.
you wanna know what really happens when a nonbinary person is androgynous or neither masc nor fem? we don't get praised. we aren't accepted. we don't pass as nonbinary. we're still sorted into binaries because gender presentation can be quite subjective (as in if someone happens to know many women with a relatively androgynous hairstyle, they're more likely to subconsciously see it as fem hair because people have learned to sort everything into binaries). and even if people can't categorise us, they won't recognise us, still see us as broken versions of binary genders, harass us, and sometimes we're told by our own community it's our fault for dressing and looking that way.
i don't know how "nonbinary people don't owe you androgyny" started, but istg, sometimes it feels like it only exists to dissuade nonbinary people from straying too far from the binary, to keep us as "normal" and palatable as possible, to keep us away from becoming less categorisable.
it's also just never really been about androgyny specifically. it's about androgyny being as narrowly defined as possible so it only exists as a hypothetical and nothing anyone could ever really be, it's about keeping masculinity and especially femininity broad so that everyone is included in at least one of the two. and this is what i mean when i say society moves the goalposts, because masc and fem are narrow as fuck and broad as fuck at the same time to match whatever bigoted argument someone is trying to make.
lastly, it's worth noting that the people who repeat the argument - yes even the allies and the trans people and the few nonbinary people - have a limited understanding of gender expression and think androgyny is the only way to be outside of the masc/fem binary, so technically this applies to anyone who is neither masc nor fem or both masc and fem, which is why as a non-androgynous enby this feels personal. (to think how many people understand that gender is a broad spectrum but presentation still fits within a linear system of three categories is beyond me)
i mentioned being maverique at my fortnightly queer meetup let's goooo! (i usually tend to just go by nonbinary or just say my pronouns are they/them if nothing more comes up, we don't talk about gender that much)
when did the neopronoun user get up? 6 ey/em
protect nonbinary people.
“Okay listen up they/them’s” Oh my fucking god just say nonbinary. Like. You can just fucking say nonbinary. Say Nonbinary. Say Enban. Say Enby. Say Gender Non-Conforming. Say Genderqueer. I don’t fucking care just. Stop. Saying. They/thems.
agreed but maybe don't say gender nonconforming? if you mean nonbinary don't use a term that primarily refers to gender roles and expression and that includes cis and binary trans people too. just as many people say "gender nonconforming" to avoid saying the word nonbinary and to avoid confronting the fact that nonbinary is a real set of identities rather than just how someone dresses.
