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hey mom, so I'm going into high school soon and my parents have been pressuring me into doing a sport/ club. thing is, I'm in all AP/honors classes and I'm afraid I'm going to be too overwhelmed. my parents aren't giving me a choice, so I basically have to do an extracurricular activity even though I've told them that I don't think I'll have time. any advice?

Hey lovebug!! Sorry for the late reply!!

First of all, welcome to high school!! It really isn’t as scary or as rigid as everyone makes it out to be, but it is important and your choices do start to carry more weight. While it’s commendable that you’re in all advanced classes, your parents aren’t wrong in wanting you to get involved with extra curricular activities. Extra curriculars are super important because 1) colleges look for more than high level courses and 2) (more importantly), they will give you a much needed break from your studies and provide you with a healthy way to pass your time.

I wouldn’t suggest taking up a sport because teams are a lot of dedication, dedication that you may not be able to afford due to your classes. I’d suggest joining a club or two, and joining clubs that you’d be able to have a decent level of interaction in so that you get that socialization factor. Check out clubs in your school like a volunteering based club, or the Red Cross club, or something like Model UN. If there isn’t a club that speaks to you, gather some friends and start one (though this is a lot more commitment than simply joining a club) for yourself.

I’m super proud of the fact that you’re in all these advanced classes and that you’re challenging yourself to work hard. But you have to remember to pace yourself and allow for little breaks in between! I hope this helped!!

#school #extra curriculars #anon #mail

how do I deal with my family always talking about my weight? the thing is I'm Asian. their standards are high, to most people I average to my family I'm fat af (115 and I'm 5'0). like today when i was hanging out with my friend and my mom said "wow she's so pretty. why can't you be like her?" I was annoyed about how constant their nagging is I exploded a bit.

Hello lovebug!!

I think you should have a talk with your family. Believe me, I know how hard it is to confront families, especially Asian families, but it’s honestly the best way to deal with the issue. I’ve begun to notice that Asian families tend to compare their children, typically their daughters, to thinner girls (at least, my family and my friends’ families do that). But if you can sit down and talk with them about how you know that they care for you and love you and how their good intentions come off the wrong way, it would be really nice. I know that you may not want to be the sweetest person ever in that situation, but talking them up is honestly so helpful.

Also, own your body. Be proud of who you are, emotionally, mentally, and physically. You are a beautiful person and no one should ever take that away from you.

#body image #family #weight #anon #mail

Hey kiddos!! Sorry I haven’t been online for the past few days; I’ve been so overloaded with work. I’ll be back with more consistent activity soon.

Good luck to any AP testers!! I hope everyone is doing okay :-))

I've struggled with my sexuality since freshman yr of high school (I'm a freshman in college) and honestly I'm just so confused and tired. Idk how to accept myself and I can't help but think of myself as dirty and wrong and unnatural. I identified as bi before but now I'm scared I'm gay and I've just been spiraling and my schoolwork is suffering and I've been really suicidal again. I just don't know what to do and I'm so tired of living like this.

I understand that it’s super super scary to be confronting your sexuality. I’ve only just started to accept myself so I can only offer this:

College is a great place to understand sexuality. There are lots of safe spaces for LGBTQ+ individuals and lots of students you can talk to. Take advantage of this.

Have a support system. Surround yourself with people who will accept you no matter what. If you’re in a state of confusion about your sexuality, you can often go from saying you’re bi to saying you’re gay to saying you’re pan and back again. There’s nothing wrong with this. Just make sure you surround yourself with people who are willing to support you and go with the flow.

Remember that there is nothing wrong with questioning your sexuality. Sexuality is a really fluid scale. You can fall anywhere on that scale. It’s okay to be confused. And it’s okay to be intimidated by that confusion.

Don’t feel pressured to label yourself. The problem with labels is that we feel that we need to match every damn thing to fit that label. If you think you’re gay, but then you like someone of the opposite sex that’s fine. Things happen. No one else can say anything. You know who decides if you’re gay? You. (And when I say decide, I mean determine where you fall, not decide as in you made the conscious choice to be ____ sexuality)

Try your luck with the Kinsey scale. That really helped me a lot, and it might help you.

There is no right or wrong. Don’t put pressure on yourself to conform to a label. There are a lot of people who don’t label themselves with any sexuality. They just date and go with whatever happens. That might be more up your alley, since the idea of labeling yourself seems to stress you out.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help or clarification.

Remember that there’s more that just “bi” and “pan” and “gay/lesbian.” Those are certain markers in the scale of sexuality. There are still grey areas between those markers that are valid and that you are allowed to fall in.

Your sexuality does not identify you. Your sexuality is just a part of you (though it could play a big part in your life). But remember that that isn’t the only thing about you.

It’s okay to not know. There’s nothing wrong with not knowing. Sexuality is a big topic and it’s confusing. People way older than you haven’t figured it out. You have loads of time and an entire lifetime to find yourself. Don’t put pressure on yourself to figure out who you are when you’re 18 or 19.

I think it’s really brave of you to reach out to someone and talk about this. Please, please, please talk to someone if you need anything, especially if you’re feeling suicidal. Feel free to message me anytime!! I hope everything works out!!

#sexuality #suicide tw #anon #mail #saga

derisorie

Surviving Uni/College as an introvert

Universities or colleges are dens of extroverts and social opportunities but at times these experiences can be a little overwhelming. Most introverts would think of a way to avoid social situations and retreat. If you’re staying at home then you are pretty lucky as you have somewhere to escape, but others (including me) who live in dorms had no choice but to socialize nearly all day. So I’m here to share a little experience and tips on how to survive as an introvert in universities.

1. Be yourself If you don’t want to be at a social gathering, don’t force yourself. You may feel a little left out after seeing instagram updates of your so-and-so friends out for an outing or a party, but what good does it give if you’re not going to enjoy the outing and be lethargic and empty afterwards?

2. Be alone but don’t be lonely Being an introvert may end up with you being alone in your room and it would get pretty lonely and later bad thoughts will come creeping up on you (trust me, I feel like this nearly all the time). Make sure you have something to do to occupy the time you have when you’re alone. Watch a movie, go for walks, revise, make a journal entry, update your studyblr, take a cute pic for instagram, anything will do.

3. Get a hobby Related to tip #2, explore the limitless possibilities of activities you can do; sewing, drawing, blogging, photography, curate your own fashion board on pinterest, photoshop, writing, reading books. Find something you like to do or something that you’re good at. You don’t need to be an extrovert to have a hobby.

4. Join on-campus clubs I know, clubs can be a danger zone for introverts, but if you can find one that is to your interest, why not join these clubs? On-campus clubs are usually a small group of people with similar interest, they offer activities that may interest you and provide a platform for you to interact with different kinds of people in a non-classroom environment. I’ve joined a production and film club myself although now I think that it’s not exactly a good decision as production/theatre/film clubs are full of extroverts. But I think I had fun and the club enabled me to experience a lot of things that I wouldn’t get if I hadn’t joined them. But remember, everything goes back to your level of comfortableness towards these activities, if I feel overwhelmed, I usually step back and not force myself to join.

5. Find hideouts to recharge In-between the hustle and bustle, it’s really important for introverts to recharge. Since I don’t have any friends that has the same classes as mine, my lunch is usually spent alone. Library and nook and crannies of your faculty building can be a great spot to recharge. I personally find my university’s mosque a comfy place where everybody can sit and it’s quiet a popular spot for students to take a nap for a minute although it might get busy during lunch and prayer times. One other spot I like is my faculty’s resource center, it has amazing wifi signals, comfy chairs and newspapers. The place usually fills up with other students studying quietly and most of the time- alone, so I find that spot to be a very great place to recharge.

6. Take a day off if needed You have to socialize nearly everyday; after a few hours in class you go back to your room and you still have to socialize with your roommates (I have three of them) and on the weekends you have your friends to entertain. When does it end? If you feel that you need a day off, don’t hesitate! Do it!

7. Socializing is still important It’s true when they say that your student life is going to be the best time of your life. Take the advantage of the social opportunities, brave yourself to say hi to the girl sitting next to you in class, go for a hike with friends. Don’t let your introverted personality deprive you of amazing experiences. Just find a balance and understand how much of socializing you are comfortable with and most importantly spend time with people that you actually want to be with and make sure they feel the same way too.

#college #introverts #long post

should I aim for med school? I don't think I'm smart enough though.

You never know until you try. I’ve seen some real dumb asses go into med school and come out decent. Besides, it’s not always about being smart. It’s about working hard and applying yourself and learning. There are a lot of smart people; but they don’t always learn. You can be a genius but none of that is going to matter unless you’re willing to try and learn. I say go for it! I’m a big believer in trying. If you’re in undergraduate studies right now, take some courses that relate to pre-med. See if you like the environment. If you don’t, then oh well, you tried. But if you don’t try at all, you might come to regret it later when you feel like you lost a huge opportunity. Hope this helped !!

#college #anon #pls don't doubt yourself !!!#mail

scholarlou

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socsciblr

college tips from a real live college student

Hey guys, I’m currently a college freshman at a major research institution and I thought I’d share some of my tips with you all. These are basically things that I wish someone would have told me before I went to school.

So you breezed through high school. I did too. (Or maybe you didn’t, and that’s fine–if you know how to study and manage your time already, you’re in a better place than those who got by without studying) And maybe you’re even an honors student. Me too. But unless you were at the very top of your class and test like a damn genius, you’re going to have to get your act together in order to be better than average in college. The thing is that colleges accept students just like you as the norm. A student with a 3.5 in high school is a 2.5 student in college unless they learn to put in more work than they ever have before. I’m a national merit scholar in the Honors college at my school and I’ve had to learn how to manage my time more than ever before in order to maintain a 4.0. Basically, my point is this: you’re not as smart as you think you are. Get studying.

Take every AP test you can while in high school. I know the concept of college credit is a little abstract right now, but every AP credit you get in high school is $500 in tuition and $300 in books you don’t have to pay.

Which brings me to my second point: books are expensive. Shop around as much as you can. Try online thrift shops, and know that amazon isn’t always the cheapest. Rent whenever possible, and make sure to check the store’s policy on highlighting in rentals.

Read your textbooks. I get it, the lectures are the same as what’s in the textbook, but if you want to impress your prof and understand the material, at least skim your textbook. Focus on the conclusion of every section as well as topic sentences. Highlight a key phrase or two and mention them in class–it’ll get you hella participation points.

Bring a damn bike. If your campus is larger than a block, you’re going to want a bike. Not only will it get you around quickly on campus, but it’ll get you off campus efficiently as well. Plus, it’s a lot easier to bike back to your dorm at night than it is to walk.

You don’t need all the clothes you think you do. I wore shorts, dresses, knee highs, etc when in high school and I brought those with me to college. But I didn’t need them and couldn’t wear them. Take tank tops/anything sleeveless for example. If you’re walking to class with something sleeveless on and you are also carrying a backpack, your back is going to sweat and you’re going to get backne. Or maybe not, I guess, but I sure did. Backpack sweat is real and it kills. Also, if you brought a bike you don’t want to be trying to bike around in shorts/skirts/dresses if your bare skin will be on the seat. Your legs will sweat and you will get clogged pores. Not to mention flashing everyone you ride by–nothing against that, but I personally didn’t feel comfortable biking like that.

Bring warm clothes if you live in a temperate climate. Here in Michigan, it gets fucking cold. If you’re walking a half a mile to class, you really, really need to be dressed warmly. You also need boots or comfortable walking shoes. Heels are hot but crying because your feet hurt from walking across campus in them is not a good time.

Drink as much water as possible without having to pee unreasonably much. This is just general life advice.

Learn to poop in public. Everyone does it. It happens. If you have communal restrooms or a roommate, you’re going to have to go when someone else is in the bathroom eventually. It will be a lot better for your body if you learn to go when you need to instead of holding it for hours until you’re alone.

Utilize academic advisors and counseling services. They’ll usually be willing to help you out with scheduling, required classes, and personal issues. Transitioning to college can he difficult to adjust to and talking about it can help a lot. Counseling is usually free for students.

You just moved in and all of a sudden they want you to pick where you’ll live next year? What the fuck? So here’s how it worked for me. I moved into my dorm and a month later I got an email telling me that signups for housing next year would be happening soon. I panicked. I wish someone would have told me that you have to be prepared to find somewhere to live next year early on. You may want to live in the dorms again, in which case you’ll need to sign up a couple months after moving in. You may decide you want to live in an apartment or rent a house. In that case, you should get hunting in order to get a good deal on a good apartment close to campus. Apartments go fast, so you’ll need to be on top of it. Your university may also have housing cooperatives, which are large houses owned by a not-for-profit student organization that works differently from traditional houses or apartments. Do your research to find out which housing situation is right for you early on and you’ll face less stress when deadlines to sign leases occur.

Anyway, this is what I can think of for now. If anyone has any questions about transitioning to college or about MSU in particular, feel free to ask!

#college #long post

Hi. I'm an 18yo girl. I have a really massive crush on another girl(she's bi). However, I'm not super comfortable with my own sexuality and never came out or anything. This has never been a problem cus I never really wanted a relationship bf. Also, the girl is also a snr and there's literally only a couple of months left until graduation. Reason tells me that I should probably just let this go, cus it's not gonna work out. But it also makes me feel really sad. Any advice?

Hey!! First of all, I should mention that it’s okay to be uncomfortable with your sexuality. It’s not an easy thing to come to terms with, and no there’s nothing wrong with being gay or pan or bi (etc.) but it definitely is scary to come to terms with the fact that you’re not part of the group that is deemed “normal” by majority of the world. Don’t feel pressured to come out and don’t force yourself to accept your sexuality. It took me almost three years to properly accept my own and that’s okay. Be honest with yourself and recognize when you are ready to be open about your sexuality - until then, it is okay to not be comfortable with it.

Now for your specific situation, I’ve always recommended that people don’t get into relationships right before graduation because of the lack of time. However, that’s still two months of time and if you feel really really strongly about this girl, then maybe at least have an honest conversation with her about this so that at the very least, you’ve got it off your chest? I’m sorry this isn’t very specific, it’s hard to give specific answers with this when each person’s comfort with themselves varies. I hope this helps somewhat!

#anon #SAGA #relationships #mail #sexuality

miss-sassmaster

50 Helpful Little Things to Know for Med School

Never hang your stethoscope from your rear view mirror

Also don’t hang your white coat in front of the car window

ID badge is life, ID badge is love

Keep a sweater with you somewhere, all the time

Save the sleeves, watch out for “pens all over the place” syndrome

Once the first person caves for the fancy pens, everyone else falls like dominoes

Ascetically pleasing powerpoints are hard to come by

There will be one rare disease your school harps on like everyone has it

Most instructors care about you and your success

And those who don’t are miserable already, don’t waste your time being upset about it

Be nice to all faculty and staff even if they have no effect on your grades

A 3-hole punch is a coveted prize for the binder dependent

Movement is necessary, do it every once in a while

Glove size matters

Shoe covers have zero traction

Real life things will just start smelling like anatomy lab

Anatomy lab will always make you hungry no matter how much you eat

Don’t be ashamed, if you think the anatomy lab smells to high hell, wear the mask

No, you cannot use an animal otoscope on a person

Yes, you can use a regular stethoscope on a little animal (be gentle!)

It’s always better to touch too softly at first than to kill your partner

Practice your poker face

Being graded on empathy makes you less empathetic

Most med students don’t have a ton of physical ailments, so practice on many classmates to get a feel for what is “normal”

If something feels odd on your partner, ask your teacher for help before you scare the crap out of them

There will be one disease/bug/drug that you will never be able to remember no matter how many times you look at it

Many gunners will not realize they are gunners, don’t bother pointing it out

If you get any legit equipment, it should be your stethoscope

A reflex hammer is still a hammer

Food is alternative currency

Coffee runs are bonding time, even if you don’t drink coffee

Be courteous and remember to remove a used K-cup

You will not know when burnout will happen, but when it does, it’s too late

It’s always better to be too covered up in professional wear

There is no shame in walking around in your socks

While it feels like high school, remember everyone is an adult

Nice can be a relative term when it comes to medical students

But some people will be completely fantastic

If someone is doing something nice and they aren’t your fav, don’t be a dick

For every horrible group you will work with there will be an amazing one

It will take time, but you will find those who you mesh with

It’s okay to decide someone is not a person you want to be close with

Every term is impossibly hard to get yourself back into a solid study routine

You will change study techniques 100 times even after you find one that works

The difference is that you can adjust faster each time

Break downs are the rule rather than the exception

Success happens more often than you would think

Even if it seems impossible, the grades, the specialty, the residency put in 110%, your best is never something to be ashamed of

Do not do this if you aren’t 110% sure

Love every minute of it, you’ll only do it once

#college #long post

techinsider

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ahrtstudy-blog

adjusting to another culture is going to be hard. that sounds obvious, but i don’t think anything can actually prepare you for having to adjust to another place and culture. so here are some things i wish someone had told me beforehand, plus some tips from my experience.

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#college #study abroad #travel

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GO STUDY NOW!

get yourself a glass of water and maybe a snack (nuts, apple slices, some toast, etc)

if you can, go somewhere other than your bedroom as you’ll easily get distracted again in there

leave your phone/tablet/laptop in another room if you can or turn it off

put on some motivating music (as long at it won’t distract you)

find some pens and paper/notepad/flashcards

get a textbook/revision guide/your class notes

make a list of the topics you need to cover and prioritise

make a mindmap/spider diagram or write down key bullet points using your notes/textbook for help

highlight the most important things

draw diagrams if needed and use lots of colour to help you remember things

don’t worry about it looking perfect- the action of writing things down and understanding them is what matters

now give yourself a little break- you deserve it!

#motivation

hi mom ! I've been dealing w/some issues w/friends & I wanted to know ur thoughts. I tend to develop v shallow emotional relationships w/ppl (I can drop @ any time and I don't let ppl in) and as a result I don't rly particularly care for anyone. I drop (as I said) ppl based on if they annoy me or if they've wronged me twice and as a result I have a small group of friends. I just considered today tho that maybe I'm dropping ppl bc I tell them too much about me ? granted they are assholes but idk

Hi friend!! I totally understand how you feel, I’ve dropped some friendships for reasons that were pretty silly when I think about it. It can be hard to get close to many people. However you also have to ask yourself whether you do need a small group of friends that you truly like and trust or a larger group of friends and “friends.” I know that it can feel weird to be more selective about your friends, but honestly, you get one life and you should exercise every bit of control and power you have in healthy manners. If for you that means dropping friends, then that’s fine; as long as you do it in a healthy and polite manner, there should be no harm done. As for telling people too much about yourself, I think this can get better when you do find really small, close groups. I also think this is something that takes time to get better if you do want to fix it. Remember that there’s nothing wrong with being selective !!

#social #friends #wth was my tag #anon #im sorry i hope this helps #mail

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what boy advice would you give to a 17 year old girl?

where do i start

what you feel for that boy might be real but don’t let it dictate what you do with your life. you’re still young. there’s still so much for you to do and experience

don’t let boys get in the get in the way of your education at all ever

if he ignores you, he’s not worth it. the pain of it isn’t worth it

if you don’t feel ready for something, don’t do it. follow your gut.

don’t date boys who walk ahead of you or don’t wait for you

don’t date boys who think it’s cool to be mean to you. they are trash.

if a boy dishonours you, put his head on a spear and take his kingdom

last of all, and most importantly, build an army of snakes. they will be your humble servants and protect you from fuckboys who don’t shower.

#social #relationships

Hi mom! I hope you can help me; I have a friend group that consists of 5 people (myself and 4 friends). my issue is that recently, I've realized that 2 of them are not people I want to be friends with (one is really just annoying in general and always has excuses to not hang out with us and the other just complains about everything and makes everything about her and her problems). one of the other people in the group knows, but she doesn't know what i should do. any advice on dealing with this?

I honestly think you should cut them out of your life. I know it sounds harsh, but personally I believe there’s no sense in staying around people you wouldn’t want to be around. It makes things uncomfortable for you and potentially others. There’s no reason why you can’t remain friends with the two people you like if you do decide to cut ties with the other two. (and when I saw cut ties, I don’t mean never ever see them again or anything -- be polite and nice to them, but don’t make a concentrated effort to hang out with them!)

I hope this helps!!

#anon #social #friends #mail

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