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it’s super awesome (and also awful but meh) to confirm that sexual encounters are not the answer to my boredom/loneliness/overall feeling of dread
seeking therapy is exhausting and I hope to Christ it’s worth it
We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.” I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way. Let our scars fall in love.
Andrew Boyd (via observando)
MBTI - What Defines You
INTJ, ENTJ, ISTJ, ESTJ - ‘’Your Achievements and Wishes Define You’’
INFJ, ENFJ, ISFJ, ESFJ, - ‘’Your Actions and Choices Define You’’
INTP, ENTP, ISTP, ESTP - ‘’Your Thoughts and Perspective Define You’’
INFP, ENFP, ISFP, ESFP - ‘’You Define Yourself. Don’t Let Anyone Judge You and Don’t Let Anything Define you’’
1. You must let the pain visit. 2. You must allow it to teach you 3. You must not allow it to overstay.
Ijeoma Umebinyuo, three routes to healing (via earthmedicina)
I’ll admit something: as an INFJ, I often feel lonely. That might be a strange thing for an introvert to say because introverts tend to enjoy being alone.
INFJs often end up feeling lonely, wishing we had someone who understood our special kind of weirdness.
Ni: I'm stressing about what might happen
Fe: I'm stressing about how we might be percieved by others
Ti: I'm just over analyzing everything
Se: fuck this shit guys, lets just do whatever
Se: *gives all the other functions even more shit to stress about*
Never forget 3 types of people in your life:
Who helped you in your difficult times.
Who left you in your difficult times.
Who put you in difficult times.
When the honeymoon stage ends what happens
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You’re more honest with each other. Bodily functions are something to laugh about. Sweatpants and tee shirts are a regular thing. They know what you look like without all the makeup. Being “laid up and watching Netflix” is the only thing you’re looking forward to after work. You don’t go on fancy dates as often but you trade that for quality time. You find yourself being more vulnerable and you open up more. They become your best friend. You will able to talk about anything. You won’t be worried about impressing their parents, you’re just gonna love them anyway regardless of how their parents may feel. You will have inside jokes that no one else will get. Sex is not as often but, twice as passionate. Little fights will happen, but you’ll learn not to sweat the small stuff. You’ll learn what compromise really is about. You’ll dream about the future together. Grow together. Be on each other’s team. See their ugly crying face, and be the one to wipe the tears away & do something stupid to make them life. things are amazing after the honeymoon stage. However, it’s a time about giving up your walls and open up some doors you have locked a long time ago.
That’s why some people don’t make it past this point, because they don’t know what unconditional self-love means. Remain open and optimistic, love will never fail you.
Ironies of the INFJ Personality
Wanting to have a very deep connection with people, but hating the early steps it takes to get to that point.
Hating small talk but actually being very eloquent and particularly excellent at speaking about more in-depth subjects you love.
Having strong, powerful opinions you will fight for, but being very soft-spoken.
People are naturally drawn to your warm, kind personality, but you hate too much attention, power over others, and the types of people drawn to your power.
You are always sought after more than you would ever care to be.
Yearning for a relationship with a significant other that transcends physical, mental, and emotional, to the point that it’s almost as if it is spiritual, but disliking early dating culture.
It’s almost impossible to find “that someone,” but when you do, your relationship will reach a depth and commitment that others can only dream of.
The hardest part of being in a relationship with “that someone” might be finding them to begin with.
Often INFJs find themselves in a leadership position in the workplace, but try to make all their subordinates equals.
When parenting, you want your children to be independent thinkers who are true to themselves–as long as that means they have the same morals and standards as you.
Wanting very deep connections with people, but being the rarest personality type (less than 1% of the population)
Having an ability to easily understand others’ thoughts and feelings and seeing straight through insincerity, but being mysterious and even enigmatic to everyone else.
Wanting powerful friendships, but having the tendency to abandon healthy friendships too early, in search of more compatible ones.
Having high, perfectionistic expectations, but being very sensitive to any kind of criticism.
High achievers, but they burn themselves out.
Having the ability to be easily liked and popular, but often preferring to a be a lone wolf.
People will think you are an extrovert, but you are an introvert.
Take the quiz to see which personality you are.
Read more about INFJs
10 Signs You’re An ENFP, Not An INFP
By Heidi Priebe
ENFPs are known for being ‘the most introverted extroverts.’ Their dominant function, extroverted intution (Ne), often masquerades as an introverted function since it can be activated while alone or while around others. However, it retains its extroverted status because it is oriented outward – toward the world of ideas and possibilities, rather than inward, toward the world of reflection. The ENFP requires a great deal of introverted time in order to process their feelings but they ultimately feel the most energized when they are formulating exciting opportunities for the future. At their core, their internal thought process works quite differently from the INFP’s. Here are a few signs you may be an ENFP rather than an INFP.
1. ENFPs speculate first and feel second, whereas INFPs feel first and speculate second.
For the ENFP, the world is a never-ending smorgasbord of possibilities to explore and adventures to partake in. They jump quickly into new projects, then need to withdraw to process their feelings about what they have been experiencing.
For the INFP, the world is a smorgasbord of thoughts, feelings and fantasies that they can explore internally. They choose which possibilities to pursue in the real world by first determining which of the available options is the best reflection of their most authentic self.
2. ENFPs enjoy the spotlight, whereas INFPs shy away from it.
INFPs enjoy recognition for their talent, but they’d rather be behind-the-scenes than front-and-center when it comes to receiving recognition. An INFP wants to be perceived as serious and thoughtful by others, whereas an ENFP is more comfortable showing off their goofy nature to the public.
3. ENFPs use humor to make light of serious situations, whereas INFPs prefer to delve deeply into serious situations.
ENFPs are deeply serious people at their core, but they feel protective of their deepest feelings and often make light of serious situations in order to avoid delving into them in the presence of others. They are quick to lighten the mood with a joke or offhanded remark that veers the conversation in a different direction.
On the flip side, INFPs rarely waiver on the issues they feel strongly about. They are likely to approach serious topics with caution, thinking carefully about what they are going to say in order to accurately portray their thoughts to the opposite party. Or, if they don’t wish to have the conversation in question, they’ll simply remove themselves from the situation altogether.
4. ENFPs leap before they look, INFPs look before they leap.
ENFPs jump quickly into new projects – often before they thoroughly determine how they feel about the project and its potential implications. They have a fluid system of values that tends to morph and change as they take in new experiences.
On the flip side, INFPs, must determine how they feel about a given project BEFORE deciding to take it on. Everything the INFP does has to be in line with his or her pre-decided set of internal values.
5. ENFPs tend to question their extroversion, whereas INFPs tend to be positive that they’re introverts.
ENFPs often feel torn between their intense love of people and their intense love of alone time. They are highly likely to identify as ambiverts, seeing both introverted and extroverted traits in themselves.
On the flip side, INFPs tend to be quite sure that they prefer their own company to the company of others and are unlikely to wonder whether they may be extroverts.
6. ENFPs are more at risk of losing touch with their feelings whereas INFPs are more at risk of losing touch with the external world.
ENFPs find comfort in the external world and may be prone to running away from their problems or distracting themselves with new projects when they’re stressed.
On the flip side, INFPs find comfort in the internal world and may be prone to over-analyzing their problems and avoiding taking action when they’re stressed.
7. When a loved one is in need of advice, ENFPs offer empowering suggestions whereas INFPs offer emotional guidance.
While an ENFP is listening to the struggles of a distressed friend, they are internally formulating a wide range of possible solutions to the problem at hand and considering ways they could empower their friend to take control of the situation and change their circumstances.
On the flip side, an INFP listening to a distressed friend is busy identifying exactly how their friend is feeling and thinking of ways they could reframe the situation so that their friend can feel differently about what they’re going through, even if the circumstances themselves don’t necessarily change.
8. ENFPs fantasize about the different experiences they could have, INFPs fantasize about the different feelings they could have.
In an ENFP fantasy, they’re a talk-show host! And then they’re a mountain climber! And then they’re a best-selling author going on a world-wide book tour to meet their many adoring fans! They use their alone time to explore different interests and adventures they could have and researching how to make those fantasies a reality.
In an INFP fantasy, they fall passionately in love with the boy next door – but then he betrays them! And then they’re dejected. And then they channel their emotion into art – and then they rise above the situation triumphantly! INFPs use their alone time to explore the different feelings they could have and imagine how those intense emotions may manifest in real life.
9. ENFPs are open and welcoming, INFPs take time to warm up to new people.
ENFPs enjoy forming quick connections with those around them and don’t mind sharing their passions and interests from the get-go. They are warm and enthusiastic when meeting others – wanting to learn more about them in order to foster an instant sense of closeness.
INFPs enjoy meeting new people but don’t feel comfortable revealing much about themselves from the get-go. They are guarded about their passions and interests and need to feel as though they trust someone before they can truly feel close to them. They don’t often hit it off immediately with strangers.
10. ENFPs are highly excitable – even when they are alone – whereas INFPs are selectively excitable around others.
Leave an ENFP alone for three hours and they often re-emerge with limbs shaking from too much coffee and fourteen new ideas that they’re bursting to share with others. Though they also use alone time to reflect on their emotions, even their deep reflections tend to give way to bursts of creative inspiration, and their emotional processing may quickly turn into fanciful conceptualizations of the future.
Leave an INFP alone for three hours and they’ll re-emerge with a poem they wrote and a reluctance to show it to others. This type is most likely to feel excited when they are making future plans with a good friend or sharing a joke with others. Their extroverted intuition emerges through the lens of their introverted feeling, so they need to feel an emotional connection to the idea in question before they can truly be excited about it. [X]
My mom is an INFP.