The Real Tanda

I'm trying to get back into writing. Send me writing prompts!

[tiergan-vashir]

Tiergan has huge romantic intimacy issues for two main reasons:

1) I thrive on feelsy intense emotional RP and enjoy having a yet another built-in source of conflict to drive a narrative and give the character something to overcome through continued development.

2) 9 out of 10 times shit gets weird, because people use Romance RP to satisfy needs that are not being met in the real world and their RP partner just becomes a tool to that end. There becomes an unhealthy level of investment in keeping things just the way they want it, the RP done in a specific way, to keep the person always there, instead of the Romance RP just being a fun ever-evolving narrative done for entertainment.

When the romance is simply a piece of a greater narrative - changes and IC conflicts become interesting turns in the tale instead of threats to your emotional fulfillment. IC relationships coming to an end feel sad only on the same level as hitting the end of a very satisfying book, game, or movie. You wish there was more, but it’s not threatening to you the same way it would be if it was something you were relying on to fill a hole gaping in your emotional life.

So Tiergan’s hard to romance, because people need to show me they are in it for harmless fun and entertainment - not to find a new tool for wish fulfillment.

[haemus-deactivated20150612]

Highest form of art: girls

[milkcubus]

when will i get a demon symmetra skin

[therealtanda-blog]

@kaori--arterius

[the-new-venus]

What they don’t tell you: Self care sometimes isn’t fun. It’s going to class even when you want to stay in bed and rest. It’s paying bills on time and running errands even when every strand of your being cant stand it. It’s going to therapy and taking your medicine even when you don’t want to. It’s using coping skills even when going back to self destructive ones seems more appealing.

Recovering sucks. It’s hard. But you have to believe in the light at the end of the tunnel. And even on those days you don’t, you fake it till you make it.

Recovery is still worth it.

[ardatli]

Sometimes self-care is taking care of future-me. Because she deserves to have someone looking out for her. 

[berniespenthouse]

Someone finally said it, letting yourself always have a break whenever you don’t have the energy for responsibilities isn’t how you take care of yourself 

[selfgoals]

If you can’t reblog this, unfollow me now.

[i-hate-vegans-deactivated201910]

If you publicly and unreservedly condemn the actions of Nazis in Charlottesville and elsewhere, including everything from quiet hate speech to vehicular terrorism, can you please reblog this post.

I think a few friends, a few followers, every Jew who happens across this post and my own heart could do with knowing that there are more of you out there than there are of them

[skysinger-musings]

So this has been bothering me a little while and I just wanna vent it a lil bit so

Don’t pretend you’re interested in me or my muses because I am friends with someone whose hot male muse you want to yaoi up. :)

Do not play buddy with me or my characters so that you can get closer to my friend’s males to try get them to dom your unoriginal pathetic little bottoms. :)

Don’t pretend that you get along great with me and that I’m one of your “favourite people” so you can try buddy up with my friends and fuck their OC’s. :)

One of the biggest pluses to rping female characters is I can easily see what you bottom feeding “yaoi” suckers really want, since you can’t be bothered to treat myself or my characters as anything but means to catch some dick off my friends.

My friends and their muses are not toys for you to play yaois with. :)

[oathkeeperson]

[oathkeeperson]

commissions are open again, i have 3 slots open! 

mail: [email protected] !!!

[gstringofsuburbia]

billie joe armstrong is like…the definition of chaotic good. a prime example of this is the fact that one time at a green day concert this guy in the pit was harassing a young girl so billie stopped the show to help her. however, his way of doing so was to jump into the audience, dropkick the guy directly in the face, and then fight him in a crowd of screaming fans

[endoshan]

[shinypurplebuttons-blog]

This is missing the best part - when he saw the guy, he tried to be like “Dude, stop” and when the man didn’t stop pushing the girl around he screamed “Fine! You wanna fight? I’ll fucking fight you, then!” and leapt directly into the crowd

[gifbro]

[thenewporker]

[figma-deactivated20161222]

[warblewhirls]

@therealtanda

[yesterdaysprint]

The Illustrated Book of Manners: A Manual of Good Behavior and Polite Accomplishments, 1866

[idolfried]

[c3po]

anyone else bummed they have 2 sleep alone tonight and uh not in some1s arms

[szuddenly]

you think you want me to shut up? i have to listen to myself even when im not talking

[allthecoloursatonce]

Anyone else terrified that they are toxic and manipulative and just can’t see it? Or is that just me?

[esoteric-merit]

A lot of people who’ve been abused think this. It’s very common for abusers to try to convince their victims that they, in some small part, deserve the abuse. And a common way of doing that is to frame the defensive tactics of the victim as bad, manipulative things.