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have you ever craved cuddles so bad it affects your sleep ??? I just want some cuddles man

So I was in a very dark place today, picked up a razor looked at it, ran my fingers along the edge, paused and then put it down. I made these little paintings instead. I chose myself today. I chose to be here and while it might not seem like much to some people it meant alot to me. Don't stop choosing yourself

#depression #self love #self compassion

Backyard shenanigans

leecheedoodles

Something told me you guys liked the first post I did of this meme so I thought I might as well draw more mwahahaha

leecheedoodles

Joining in on that ship dynamics meme hehe

trendercore-aesthetic

Who is Malak al-Kashef?

Malak al-Kashef is a 19-year-old activist, human rights defender, and transgender woman located in Egypt. She supported a protest against the government.

She is currently being held in an all-male prison, at risk of torture, and facing potentially, the death penalty

She was kidnapped from her home by police.

She faces the potential (fake) charges of “aiding a terrorist organization” and “misusing social media to commit a crime punishable by law.” She has already been subjected to:

Solitary Confinement

Misgendering

Sexual assault under the guise of medical examination

And potentially many other things we are unaware of. She has already been tortured. If released into the general population, she could be murdered by prisoners.

This is now her 127th day in prison (as of July 11th, 2019), and we need to do something.

Here are some ways to help:

- Signal boost.

- Get her name into the media. You think it might sound ridiculous, but the Egyptian government has shown time and time again to respond to negative press attention. Tweeting, blogging, and getting creators to make videos about the subject are not wastes of time.

- Send a fax to the Public Prosecutor, Nabil Sadek. Amnesty International recommends that you use their letter or a version similar to it. Please do edit their letter, as it has now been more than 3 times that her detention has been extended.

- Sending faxes for free internationally is very difficult to find, but you can find low-cost services like GotFreeFax ($0.70). For more options, check out this list. You can also fax (for a cost) at places like OfficeMax, OfficeDepot, and your local library.

Where can you learn more?

Jimmy Snow

Amnesty International

Timeline - Frontline Defenders

Middle East Eye - They do graphically describe the assault/torture in this article.

PLEASE DO SOMETHING TO HELP HER.

rachelmaree

Natural hair tip wave 🙆🏾✨

Can we leave tips for natural hair? Reblog with a tip and help others!

butterflyxblablabla

Never detangle when is dry and always us a wide tooth comb. Always treat your hair as if it was your baby.

rachelmaree

Cantu shea butter is a great leave in conditioner 🙏🏾

thisgirlspeaks

Avocado oil is really good for finger detangling and moisturizing (not just your hair but scalp too) it absorbs easily, it’s not as clogging as coconut oil, and it doesn’t leave a smell.

lady-unloved

hot oil treatments!! never dry hair with a towel (use a soft t-shirt) and sleep on a silk pillow case or use a silk scarf and tie it on your pillow. cotton pillow cases absorb the natural oils in your hair and dries your hair out which can make it very frizzy. same with towels!

rachelmaree

Yes! Hot oil treatments are amazing. Use Jamaican black castor oil for thin area 🙏🏾

makaveldee

take out twists/braids/bantu knots outs when COMPLETELY dry for best results

kaehella

if your twists take too long to dry:

1.Squeeze them gentle with a COTTON TSHIRT to soak up excess product

2.Instead of wearing a scarf go to sleep on a satin pillow to allow air flow to dry them faster.

katthekiddo

1) Eco styler is the best gel to lay down edges 2) After taking out your protective style and while your washing your hair, you will notice A LOT of shedding, it’s just the hair that wasn’t able to shed freely while you had in your protective styling 3) Eco Styler+Hard Brush+Bandana+Toothbrush= fleeky edges. 1) Take a good but not odee amount of gel and put on edges 2) Brush your edges a little back and curve them a little while brushing(you can use the toothbrush for the curving part) 3) Tie bandana around edges tightly(not too tight) and push the bandana back a little and take the toothbrush and take a little of the hair and brush them in the direction of your forehead or cheeks 4) Leave the bandana on for 30+ minutes 5) Take off bandana and touch up your edges with toothbrush (this is an option not mandatory) Stretching 4b/c hair(Still works for just 4b hair type) 1) Part hair into four sections 2) Spray Hair lightly and put in your usual leave in product (ex; sheamoisture, cantu ect.) 3) Take one of the four sectioned hair and put it in a scrunchy 4) Take the hair in the scrunchy and braid it 5) Repeat this for every section of hair 6) Let hair air dry for a little bit and then wrap hair 7) For extra stretching put hair in cornrows Use Aunt Jackie’s “Don’t Shrink Flaxseed Elongating Curling Gel” for good twist outs

ethnibeaut

Really don’t detangle your hair while dry. Don’t. And resist the random urges to trim your ends. Using coconut oil first and then sealing with shea moisture deep conditioner keeps my hair really soft. Don’t be afraid to use deep conditioners frequently or as leave in moisturizers. Be as gentle as possible when handling your curls. Wearing a satin scarf around your edge area for a while right before you’re ready to leave keeps them laid down. Don’t wash your hair with shampoo too frequently. (I have type 3c curls). If you hear ripping noises, stop lmao.

rachelmaree

Shea moisture, cantu, creme of nature raw coconut oil works wonders for dry 4a curls 🙏🏾

afrihkan

Applying your conditioner on your wet hair BEFORE detangling makes detangling so much easier. If you wash or cowash your hair in the shower and apply your conditioner in the shower, run cold water through your hair. It’ll seal all the product/moisture in your hair. Bantu Knot Tip: don’t attempt it on wet hair unless you have days to let it dry. Do it on lightly damp hair. The results turn out more defined and less puffy/frizzy (especially for 4a/4b hair like mine) Trimming ends on a regular basis/schedule is NOT necessary! Trim ONLY when you see split ends, damage, single strand knots, etc. And ALWAYS USE HAIR CUTTING SCISSORS ONLY!

iamchantaya-deactivated20230722

If any naturalistas want to take a different approach on washing your hair with shampoo, and doesn’t feel all that clean with Co-washing; you can use BENTONITE CALCIUM CLAY. It’s a natural clay. It’s also conditions as well as cleanse the scalp and shafts. On top of that, it stimulates the scalp, so it may help with thinner areas. With time at least.. I’ve done it and once I find the time, I’ll do it on a regular basis. You can go on google and search where to buy. Another plus is that: originally it’s a face mask and you can exfoliate your skin with it as well.

afrihkan

Had to re-reblog for that comment ^^ Bentonite clay saves my hair on the regular

rebelliousrebe

go through the notes ladies

mybeautifullyimperfectlife

Yaaaasss! bentonite clay works wonders. And for those dealing with psoriasis/seborrhea dermatitis on the scalp it helps. As well as using ACV rinses and mixing honey and oils I to your deep conditioner. Honey, ACV &bentonite clay all work as either anti microbial sand to remove dirt.

Also, if you’re having a flare up DO NOT oil your scalp with heavy oils. I’ve found that it inxeases itching and makes flare ups so much worse (the flakes, the irritation will make you wanna rip your hair out). I’ve been playing around with a spritz that contains: rose water, jojoba oil, tea tree oil, and a drop of Jamaican black castor oil (mixed all this with water). Sprayed it on my scalp and hair and its help reduce gah flakiness and itchiness almost immediately. I use it everyday. Try to wash your hair regularly, and water washing can be beneficial (but I’ll do it like every other week between co-washes)

I’m currently trying to grow my edges back after a recent flare up of my dermatitis. I’ve been misting with my spritz and putting Jamaican black castor oil on my edges and I’ve seen progress and no irritation/flakes!

Also, have fun with your hair. It’s unique and special, and it’s on your head so love it!