The Second Mori Confessions

This blog is a secondary blog for moriconfessions, that includes all of the rejected secrets from the main blog. These will be secrets that were found to be too triggering, too rude, too vulgar, or too negative for the main blog. They will be kept anonymous, and if the original submitters of these secrets wish to try and reword their secrets for resubmission on the main blog, they are always welcome to do so.

[thesecondmoriconfessions]

Three years ago, I made the mistake of putting my mori stuff and my therian stuff on the same blog. One Mori girl was so furious that I was 'combining' the two (I reblogged from blogs from both communities) that she harassed me for a year straight, constantly making new accounts, calling me a freak, monster, degenerate etc. and telling me to kill myself constantly. Eventually I just deleted that blog entirely, but I'm afraid to get into the mori community on my new one due to this.

Secret rejected for possibly triggering content of death threats and harassments. However, I wish the anon all the best. I’m sorry you had to go through that and I hope you won’t let one bad apple ruin the whole community for you.

[moriconfessions]

Mori Confessions

Trigger Warning: Eating Disorders

[thesecondmoriconfessions]

Just realized I never cleaned the main blog of all triggering content. So here is an older secret that is possibly triggering. Wanted to remove it from the main blog, but not completely.

[thesecondmoriconfessions]

“I used to hate skirts and girly things, because I was raped my mom repeatedly as a little girl and all my memories of skirts were of her ripping them off of me. Mori kei has slowly gotten me back into liking girly things and wearing skirts, and helped me feel the old magic and comfort of being girly, like I was before my mother started assaulting me. I finally feel okay with the fact that I'm a girl, for the first time since I was six. Mori kei has saved me.”

Secret rejected for triggering content. But I wish you the best friend,and I’m glad that mori could help you heal.

[thesecondmoriconfessions]

Lolita fashion completely destroyed my self-confidence and was the cause of my eating disorder when I first got into it at age 12. Now, at age 18, I've left that toxic community and I'm into mori kei. I love the style, the aesthetic, the overall gentler nature - but I still find myself afraid to post pictures. I never feel thin enough to be pretty, and I know that's not a thing in mori kei, but 6 years of it in lolita fashion has made it a thing in my head.

Secret rejected for possibly triggering content related to eating disorders. I simply don’t feel comfortable putting this on the main blog. However, I wish this anon the best of luck and I’m sending positive vibes your way. I hope you can find the support you were lacking in the lolita community here in the mori community.

[thesecondmoriconfessions]

I routinely go through the "dark mori" tag on tumblr and send anon asks to people who tag things as "dark mori" that aren't dark mori at all, telling them to stop tagging it as dark mori. I HATE those people. I like strega fashion. I like nu goth. But they aren't dark mori.

Secret rejected for promoting anonymous hate against others. If the confession writer didn’t mean for this to be the case and I have simply misunderstood due to the extreme language, then please let me know. It simply seems to me that this anon is harassing others. I’m wavering on this one though, as I can’t be sure...

[thesecondmoriconfessions]

I've been trying to find myself for so long. Even now that I have a more nature oriented mindset, I feel lost. I don't really know what makes me happy, or how to be at peace with the world...

Secret rejected for not being Mori Kei related. Secret would have to be reworked to reflect mori lifestyle or mori fashion specifically in order to be published on the main blog. (Best of luck to the submitter though! I hope you can find your happiness in the new year!)

[thesecondmoriconfessions]

I am fifteen and I’ve always wanted to sing and act .... I have raw talent but that’s not enough .... I also weigh 66kg and that’s definitely not what people want

Rejected for not being mori kei related.

[thesecondmoriconfessions]

I want to be a Mori Girl but I am too fat. I cant find clothes to fit me so I dress like a Dyke and that's not what I want to look like. I want to look beautiful In mori girl clothing and be comfy!

There is only one minor thing wrong with this secret, and that is the use of the word “dyke”. As far as I am aware, that word still contains a negative context (if I am wrong, and that word has been reclaimed in a positive light, please let me know), so I am unwilling to post the secret when it contains that. If that one word was changed, then this secret would be postable.

(Also, I should mention to this anon that anyone, regardless of weight, can look good in mori. There are many beautiful plus sized mori folk out there.)

[thesecondmoriconfessions]

Submitted Feb. 20th, 2017

I was sexually abused for over a decade growing up, and my religious parents blamed me for it, saying I was guilty of the Sin of Enticement because I wore skirts sometimes or frilly things. My social worker introduced me to mori kei, and it’s been really healing. For the first time in my life I feel like a real girl instead of an evil temptress. This style has made me proud of being a girl instead of ashamed. I feel like I’m finally realizing it wasn’t my fault and I deserve better now.

Thank you for being brave enough to submit this secret anon. I am so very glad that mori is helping you heal <3 I feel really bad about this, but I have to post this here as I am afraid that the subject is a bit too sensitive and possibly triggering for the main blog. But truly, this is an inspirational story, and I wish you all the best. 

Also, if the majority of people disagree with my judgement call here, I would be happy to move this to the main blog. Let me know if there are any other viewpoints here, and I will definitely take them into account.

[olgu-nii-deactivated20181206]

It seems very strange that many secrets about eating disorders, which can be highly triggering, get posted - without warnings in the tags - without even putting Trigger Warning: Eating Disorder in the front before the confession like most secret blogs do, yet this is somehow not alright. There is some disconcerting inconsistency here in treating one subject as worthy of trigger warnings and the other as not the other. Triggering someone is triggering someone, after all. Pain is still pain even if they’re very different kinds.

I don’t see why this wouldn’t be posted on the main blog. The main blog has posted sensitive content with no warnings before; after all, though I would prefer this had a Trigger Warning: Sexual Abuse in front of the text so people sensitive to that topic could scroll by, so long as there were tags to the effect of tw: sexual abuse, // sexual abuse, etc..

[thesecondmoriconfessions]

Thank you for the input @olgu-nii! I honestly hadn’t even thought about the eating disorder secrets before, so thank you for pointing that out to me! I feel really stupid that I hadn’t considered it... :/ However, I’m worried that putting the text warning will do no good, since I post secrets as pictures and not text. That’s why I posted it here instead. But yeah, it has been inconsistent, so thank you for pointing that out to me. I’ll be going back and editing the previous secrets with triggering topics, and I’ll try to be more careful in the future. I suppose I’ll have to do some more thinking on how I want to handle them in the future. I just haven’t gotten enough until this point to even think about a consistent way to deal with them ^^;

[thesecondmoriconfessions]

Submitted Feb. 20th, 2017

I was sexually abused for over a decade growing up, and my religious parents blamed me for it, saying I was guilty of the Sin of Enticement because I wore skirts sometimes or frilly things. My social worker introduced me to mori kei, and it's been really healing. For the first time in my life I feel like a real girl instead of an evil temptress. This style has made me proud of being a girl instead of ashamed. I feel like I'm finally realizing it wasn't my fault and I deserve better now.

Thank you for being brave enough to submit this secret anon. I am so very glad that mori is helping you heal <3 I feel really bad about this, but I have to post this here as I am afraid that the subject is a bit too sensitive and possibly triggering for the main blog. But truly, this is an inspirational story, and I wish you all the best. 

Also, if the majority of people disagree with my judgement call here, I would be happy to move this to the main blog. Let me know if there are any other viewpoints here, and I will definitely take them into account.

[thesecondmoriconfessions]

Submitted Feb. 14th, 2017

I'm sorry but why would someone with immune deficiency be able to walk to college but not go in a forest. It's not like there are more colds in the forest than in a lecture hall full of students all harbouring different bacteria. Catching a cold has nothing to do with being cold and being outside, if you have immune deficiency a forest with no people around would be the least likely place to catch a cold. I mean what.

This secret was not posted on the main blog due to it not being mori related, as well as being targeted at someone specifically in a negative way.

[thesecondmoriconfessions]

I gave my friend my old Mori Kei dress and she tagged it on instagram as #lolita and #gothiclolita and #lolitafashion and I wanted to kill myself.

I don’t really find this secret to really be bad, but I’m placing it here because it’s directed at a specific person. I think it would be obvious to whomever this secret is directed at that it is about them, and as it is negative, I’d rather not post that. If the poster would like to reword this slightly to either be less negative, or less directed at a certain person, than I would be happy to post it.

[thesecondmoriconfessions]

Submitted June 2nd, 2016

I mean it's not really a negative confession or a confession at all so feel free to do what you see with this. I saw the post on your other confession blog for negative ones about pineneedleprincess and how it was better she was gone. I can't help but remember she was sent suicide bait because she expressed her opinion. You don't have to share that opinion, but you have to treat your fellow Mori Folk better than this. She could be dead for all we know and it's on your hands. Think about that.

Posting this here, because I’m not quite sure what to do with it.

[thesecondmoriconfessions]

Submitted June 2nd, 2016

So you'll take down and defend every Mori girl but Pineneedleprincess? All she said was obesity wasn't healthy. You all need to fucking chill. She left like 2 years ago! Why are you so scared of what she said? Enough so that you're willing to shut down your blog and leave the community. We need to move past this people.

Secret is not being posted due to rude language/tone, and being directed at a specific person.

[thesecondmoriconfessions]

Submitted June 2, 2016

I'm not jealous. Why would I be jealous of you of all people? Don't act cute! I know it was you sending me anon hate cause I won that dress at auction so you come on my mori blog and tell me to go play hobo in the forest somewhere else.

Secret not submitted due to rude tone, and being directed at a specific person.

[thesecondmoriconfessions]

Submitted May 31st, 2016

People talk about how poorly PineNeedlePrincess was treated when she dropped an unprecedented drama bomb on her own blog. All I have to say is that I've had way less anon hate in my ask box about being too fat to be a mori girl since she left the community.

This secret was not posted to the main blog due to a rude comment directed at a specific person.