A note from a social worker who has escaped domestic violence/abuse and has worked in safety and welfare:
This is what I did. I also use my laundry hampers to store critical items I know would be too difficult to replace despite being necessary (e.g. my second wallet with all my documents and spare cash, an old phone or tablet that can easily be turned back on for communication purposes, spare meds, etc.)
When my wife came and told me "we're leaving now" she literally put me in a car and told me to drive and not look back or stop until I'd reached our checkpoint. She said she would meet me as soon as she could wkth what she could grab and asked me what to prioritize. I told her the containers to shove into the trunk and to grab the animals and not worry about anything else. Because we had two laundry hampers (actually I use storage tubs so they can self-contain with the lid on and stay dry) of clothes and crucial items, and a suitcase with a few more already in it, she was able to just chuck the bins and bags into the car, put the animals in their carriers in the front seat, and leave. Yeah we lost almost everything, but we had what we needed to get by.
I've always lived out of bins and tubs for pretty much this reason. For the first time in life, my home environment is safe, and I am finally able to unpack wholly. But if your home environment comes with constant/routine safety/emotional abuse risks, keeping your critical items in storage bins or laundry hampers can help you get as many essentials out as quickly as possible if the worst comes.
You should also know that if you have everything settled for your escape (where you're going, a vehicle to get you there, who you will check in with, etc) you should call a domestic violence shelter and tell them your whole situation. I'd been on file with the DV agency for a month before we ran, and they weren't able to help me arrange shelter due to some unique circumstances, but once I had shelter arranged myself, they gave me $250 in prepaid cards to fund the drive out of state and helped me identify a local DV org in the new place to reach out to as soon as we arrived so we could get set up with a case worker and therapy. We left the state before business hours opened, and they had their on-call case worker come into their office early to give us the cards since we couldn't safely stay longer.
There is A LOT that a domestic abuse organization can help with, it's not just shelter, and you'll never know what resources your local programs have to offer you until you call and ask. Without that $250 I might not have gotten out, but they didn't ask anything of me for it, just that I call them when we arrived safely so they knew I was safe and could flag my chart as closed.
This is exactly the system I have used professionally with kids and families during extraction too. Think about where you keep your most used/important items and see what you can do to consolidate them so that the most significant effort involved in "packing" them is to sweep your arm across a counter and push them all into a box that you can carry out.
Understand that you will not have the time or the focus to open any drawers or cupboards or bins to pick through what's kept inside. You will not have time to go from room to room. You will not have the brain power to think "oh yeah, I'm going to need xyz". You will have exactly enough time, mental capacity, and energy to grab a bin and a couple of bags and then you will officially be fleeing and your body will turn off all non-essential functions like complex problem solving or future consequences. You will do the things that get you to safety as quickly as possible even if it fucks you over because your body doesn't care about social constructs it cares about keeping your heart beating and your nervous system has just declared DefCon 1.
Sotry to know in advance what you need and have it ready to sweep quickly into a bag or to straight up carry out in its container and understand that odds are good you will manage to take absolutely nothing else that isn't set up like this.
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