Te-Fi or Fe-Ti
I just … have some weird thought. Well, I just reread harry potter and when I have a closer look on Dumbledore, Molly and Lupin I just have some thought (well, couple with having some serious talk on managing method with ISTJ aunt)
Even if I made a post on what INTJs are, right now I seriously considers Fe-Ti instead but well, I’m not too sure. I still feel like Te-Fi is still the correct axis but … well, what d'you think?
Here’s the reason
Even if I’m outwardly cold, harsh and unemotional most of the time, when I start getting to talk with people I’m EXPRESSIVE. I can be easily mistaken for extrovert easily and usually it’s almost effortless to build rapport with people though I’m not as good at striking conversation if I don’t know what to say. But the thing that made me consider FJ right now is the group mentality.
I have read somewhere that Fe tends to view people as extension of themselves and are often obliged to take care of them because of it, while Fi view people as their own individual and take care of people because they feel connected to individual. I see people as group of their respective category (friendship, culture, whatever) and bond with the group rather than individual. The marked example that just happened is I’m doing a chapter-by-chapter analysis of the Anthropology papers for my teammates because ‘they are in my team and I need to take care of them in anyway I can’. I don’t need to do it, they are not even my close friends. I have zero reasons to do it but I still do it because they are a part of my team (and family). I also bond with larger group like ethnic groups as a people and often readily take in their culture and adopt it as my own.
As I read Harry potter more, I see more of Molly Weasley and I can relate to her taking in other people as her own and take care of them. I do have the motherliness and outward warmth associated with Fe. It contradicts here because outwardly I’m distant but also have the warmth too. It’s weird, really. And the bossiness tendency, I fuss over people, like ‘are you alright? Isn’t that a bit too hard, I’ll help. If you are too busy then tell me immediately, don’t bottle it up and overwork’. Aside of Fe, Ti is not as apparent I don’t know. But there is a tendency for me to impose my own interpretation and understanding on things. I’m not as objective or factual but I care more about logical consistency.
When I plan, it’s more about what make sense than what’s objective. My advisors and heads are often left puzzled by what I’m thinking and I do have some serious problem of not sharing enough objectively laid out plan so my teammates sometimes need to scramble up by themselves but it also promotes original thinking I desperately need in my project. And I do have less judgmental nature I tend to see in TJs (they seem to be more black and white in what is correct and not, morally and whatnot) I have more broad moral, something is right at the appropriate time and cause. If the cause, context and time aligns then people have to act in a certain way.
When I work I tend to use emotional tactics like building rapports and bonding my team as one rather than systematizing. My tactic is to use people and I usually promote inclusion to all my teammates as such. My ISTJ aunt seems to be more of a ‘I ask you to do this and I will give this to you when it’s done. Deal!'
But the counter argument is that I’m rather socially awkward. Not as good at flowing with the group mood. Lacks the natural charm of Fe-type as I’m normally quiet (my ESFJ BFF is charismatic as hell, I’m not nearly as fluid and charismatic as he is but when it comes to subtle manipulation and getting under people’s skin I’m much more adept) I don’t offer much emotional support if someone is distraught. I listen and be there for them and help take care of them. But I’m not someone who says 'everything will be fine’ instead I will let them cry it all out and help them get back to their usual self.
Well, I think that’s all. My, it’s really long.
Thanks in advance though. (I’ve been into sorting hat chats lately, I’m Slytherin both primary and secondary (model ravenclaw), what’s yours?)
I could see you being IFJ. I think you give sufficient evidence for it and against ITJ that makes sense – you understand group dynamics, you now how to use and manipulate them, but you are still self-reliant and not as eager to help as an EFJ would be. (Anyone can be socially awkward; point is, you care.) Fe/Ti tends to be more “morals are dependent on the situation” instead of the more militant TeFi “morals are always the same, regardless of the situation.” :)
Hogwarts Houses – after reading everything about it and over-thinking it (as usual, ha, ha), I’ve landed on double Ravenclaw with a double Puff Model. I use Hufflepuff when it’s convenient and I have “time” but it goes away during times of stress. I would really rather be just writing, learning and studying things. ;)
- ENFP Mod
