I absolutely love this article... The thoughts of one Christian man, on a journey to rediscover what a male-lead, female-submissive marriage should be, in Christ Jesus, and as defined by the Bible. Wednesday, June 5, 2013 Domination vs. Domineering This post could also be called Leadership vs. Tyranny. Domineering is what I think most women fear when they are asked to submit to a man, and it is at the same time what most men are frightened of doing, or being perceived as doing. Domineering is a form of tyranny. It is demanding obedience, service, and the benefits of a relationship for purely selfish purposes, and without regard to the feelings, needs, and desires of those in submission. Women often say, "I don't want to be a doormat." Or they might say, " I don't want to cook, and clean, while he sits and does nothing." These images portrayed by the way women object to submission reveal preconceived notions of how they believe submission would be like. At the same time, there is a younger generations of men who have been sold these ideas that a man doesn't impose his will on a woman. These men are not able to take the lead. These are men who hesitate to make decisions, and often leave the decisions up to their feminine partner. Such fellows can't even decide where to go for supper, because they are afraid of even being perceived as domineering. To further complicate the problem, men and women alike mature more slowly than in previous generations. People who have fewer practical needs than previous generations simply don't have the environmental pressures to grow up. This means that many men aren't all that trustworthy. Fewer men than in previous generations have the courage to be responsible leaders. It is no wonder women are reluctant to submit to their husbands. Dominance or leadership, on the other hand, is unselfish. A dominant man will lead, but will lead for the benefit and interests of his wife and family. The dominant man is trying to provide a safe environment wherein he can please his wife and children. The dominant man lives by Philippians 2:3-8: Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Here is what happens in a relationship with a dominant man and a submissive woman: The dominant man plans an activity for his mate and himself. During the course of the activity, and afterward, he is looking for emotional responses from his submissive female that she is pleased, and that she likes what he has chosen for them to do. The feedback he gets from her is his confirmation that he is not domineering her, but rather looking out for her interests. Things he plans that don't get the feedback he desires, or that don't please her, are not repeated. Over time, he learns what she likes to do, or what she might like to do, and becomes more proficient at planning and executing activities for the two of them, and the woman is thus empowered by surrendering her power to her mate. Here is the message I'd like men to get out of this post. It is possible to lead without dominating. We men need to confront our fears or domineering, and take the lead in our relationships. If you are a man that tries to please his wife or girlfriend, then you are probably a good candidate to be a dominant man, even though you may be held back by your far of being too overbearing. Women, it is possible to submit to a man and not feel powerless, nor like a "doormat." By submitting in a healthy relationship to a responsible man, you will be empowered, not weakened. Think about the man in your life... Does he want to please you? Does he try? If the answer is 'yes,' then you probably have a man who would be a good dominant, even though he might be rather ineffectual right now.
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