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How I Cope Up With Stress: A Day to De-Stress

It may seem that there’s nothing you can do about your stress level for you have a lot  of going on your mind, more control than you might think. In fact, the simple realization that you’re in control of your life is the foundation of stress management. Managing stress is all about taking charge: taking charge of your thoughts, your emotions, your schedule, your environment, and the way you deal with problems. The ultimate goal is a balanced life and the resilience to hold up under pressure and meet challenges head on.

I am a teenager who has a lot of responsibilities, not just my studies, but also my work and my responsibility in the household. But let us not get too work up, for it is not healthy for us especially in our mental state. We tend to find ways that may distract us from thinking too much and that’s not bad. We need some time to rest or a day off to relieved ourselves from stress and problems, a break won’t hurt, we need to take time to unwind and ease our mind from things that are factors of stress.

I have my own ways to “de-stress” it works for me so it might work for you, but I suggest find something or do somethings that you enjoy doing or love doing, it will really help in detoxing. Often I keep myself productive but there are times I just wanted to escape from the feeling that we are always avoiding. Dogs and pets are so great in relieving my stress, you come home or finished your job and at the end of the day, your cute dogs and pets are always there waiting for you to play with them, It certainly reduces my stress hormones by having fun with them. Studies shows that having pets at home may cope up with your stress and can also reduced the risk of having a mental problems such as depression and anxiety. My pets are one of the factors that reduces my stress but of course, I need coffee! Coffee beverages makes my mind soothe and calm it is one of my chill beverages and I don’t mind consuming them almost everyday. Having my favorite coffee at my favorite coffee shop is one of the best way for me to relax. But my day would not end without having an outdoor activity, I love cycling, I usually go cycling with my brothers we get to go anywhere just by using our bike, we’re exercising but at the same time we’re enjoying, I can say it’s one of my stress-reliever, I get to go out and feel the warm breeze of natural air. 

The beach is my favorite place to unwind, a place wherein nature view is everywhere, It’s my go-to place whenever I need or want to unwind or relax for a moment. I tell you go to the beach and you’ll see, I love everything about the beach, you can go out of town with your beloved family and good friends, they can be also one of the factors too in reducing stress and managing it. Nothing compares with genuine happiness all around you, in your favorite place, with your favorite people. Connecting to the concept of relieving stress when I’m at home well, let us admit sometimes we encounter toxic traits in your own home interacting with our  family members, we usually thought of escaping from the scenario. In my case, I  usually go for a stroll around the city and places that are breath-taking and remarkable. Alone time is sometimes the best time to reflect and realize things that are worth realizing. It’s also a break from everything that is triggering you. 

Regardless, we have our own ways in coping up stress in our lives, always remember that we must put ourselves first before everything else, self-love is a must. Take care of our well-being and I mean well-being is I’m referring to our whole state as a human.  We all have our limits and it’s okay not to be okay, but it’s better to be better. We only live once, might as well enjoy it,

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Becoming a Responsible Adolescent 

Becoming responsible and being able to make good choices are very important traits no matter what developmental stage you are in. It holds true for adolescents especially that they are just beginning to internalize and imbibe virtues, values, and other essential qualities.  Sure being a teenager may not be easy there are expected challenges and problems ahead. There may be lots of things going on in various facets of their lives. The demands and expectations of their parents and other people around them can also be stressful. But the good news is, they can treat these ‘difficulties’ as ‘challenges’ which can make their life exciting. Having that mindset is also an indication of becoming a responsible and mentally mature adolescent.

During the teenage years, children’s need for responsibility and autonomy gets stronger, it’s an important part of their path to young adulthood. To become capable adults, teenagers like me need to learn to make good decisions on our own.  Being an adolescent means being in the period between childhood and adulthood. He or she moves from reliance on his or her parents to autonomy and maturity. An adolescent starts moving from the family group being his or her major social system, to a peer group, composed of people more or less of his or her age. This somewhat helps him or her to stand alone and developed as an adult. It may not be easy to be a teenager. Adolescents experience many pressures. Moreover, many things are changing their bodies are evolving and hormones are raging. Each teenager experiences individual changes and growth at varying rates. Teenagers undergo changes in their lives not only in the biological and social, but as well as in the cognitive, moral, psychological, and spiritual sense. Having more autonomy comes being more free, but with that freedom, comes responsibilities. There are some rules which could help you, teenagers, to become a responsible adolescent prepared for adult life and choose to do the right thing. There are plenty of situations in which it is better to use your mind rather than your heart. Do your best to resist temptations, bad acts, and earthly pleasures and commit to being a responsible adolescent.– Respect yourself. You are an adult in the making. Do not let your teenage hormones get into you. If you respect yourself, others will respect you too.– Be prepared to be answerable or accountable for your actions and behavior. It is a part of growing up and becoming an adult.

On becoming a responsible adolescent one must focus on your studies and do well in all of your endeavors. for there is time for everything. Take care of your health and hygiene, healthy body and mind are important as you journey through adolescence. Also, one must establish good communication and relation with your parents or guardian always listen to them. This may be easier said than done at this stage, but creating good relationship with them will do you good as they are the ones you can lean on especially in times of trouble. Well lastly, think a lot before doing something. Evaluate probable consequences before acting. Practice self-control and self-discipline those are the keys.

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Dear Significant Other,

My family, having a core values, beginning with respect for and appreciation of others no matter how old, how young, where  we come from, what twe’ve experienced, where we are, capabilities, health, whom we love. It extends to individual’s choices of who they call family – what intentional, meaningful relationships they form. Our value of family extends to community and to sisterhood and brotherhood. Although we are united by this value, family means something different to each of us. My family represents the foundation of who I have become in life. 

I hope you all know that your are all my biggest blessing to me, you’re the ones who guided me and been there for me through thick and thin. The persons whom I trust the most and cherished the most. You have contributed not just in my everyday needs as a human but my needs as a person specially mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. You coached and monitored me on how I improve and handle myself as an individual with responsibilities, help me in my personal development and what I have dream to become. You always shape me into becoming a person who I should be not just today but in the future. You all made me realize things that I’ve never realize and gave importance of it. In summary, mi amors you all created an impact in my life, that benefited me in so many ways and trained me to face challenges and obstacles that I will face. And so, and always remember that you’re all the most important person in my life and I will be forever grateful because someday if I’ll be successful I’ll give all my thanksgiving and recognition to you because you all deserve everything that I will accomplish for you mold me as a person that made who I am.

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“Flustering Moment”

When you’re just a kid, all you can ever think of is playing and mess around like a normal happy kid. The usual doings of kids, anything fun and thrilling just to satisfy my hunger for unlimited happiness with all fun and games. No responsibilities, no problems, no inconvenience, nothing it’s like everyday a normal day to live and enjoy life has to offer. All I have to think of is when my parents will buy me new toys and gifts, when will the food is ready, what time am I going to school and when should I play again with my friends. But sometimes I kinda worry but getting serious in my academic performance, making sure I aced my assignments and test and be active in class just like my parents thought me, but somehow being a kid ain’t just pure laughter and games.

I was just a kid when I experienced a somewhat traumatizing event but somehow I recover and it made me even stronger and and it shaped me as a person. We can say it’s traumatizing cause were talking about a  6 year old kid here, but for me I labeled it as of today as my most embarrassing moment of my time. As I said I was just a kid back then, but up until today I remembered those moments, moments I laughed at it today but still giving me the face palm effect.

 Embarrassment, awkwardness, discomfiting or disconserting, disturbing, uncomfortable and flustering, words that sums up this moment.  As you can see Embarrassment or awkwardness is an emotional state that is associated with mild to severe levels of discomfort, and which is usually experienced when someone commits a socially unacceptable or frowned-upon act that was witnessed by or revealed to others. That is what most people experienced in their everyday life or some point in their life. It is something that others want to hide and stay hidden like a secret treasure box. An unforgotten land that there is no need of exploration and just leave it untouched.

A 6 year old kid, yes and that’s me, since I was a kid I’ve been an achiever and my love for public speaking grew even stronger. I talked a lot on stage even when I was a kid, I do speeches, literary performances, can sing and dance. Graduation day, the most awaited in my kindergarten days, I’m finally going to grade school after kindergarten and that would be exciting. Again, I was given a speech to present on the stage on the graduation day. Guess what, guest speaker it is, I was assigned to introduce a guest that will speak on our stage to say some inspirational and motivating words to us children of the future. Well, it’s quite okay for me I can handle it, but boy I messed up.

Graduation day, fast forward my name is called on the stage so I can start the speech in introducing the speaker, and bet you know it, my legs trembled with fear and nervousness, don’t blame me it’s graduation day, a lot of parents, kids and guest swarm all over the stadium. I saw my mother clapping her hands, and after I introduce the speaker, Mr. Guest speaker came up on the stage came near me and offer his hands for me, my initial response should be shaking his hands as an answer and a gesture of thanks and welcome. Nervousness got into me, I ignored him and went down the stage and left him hanging in front of the people. I thought that was it, but before the guest speaker started his speech his intro was commenting about me, making fun of me as “bulag” or blind because he said I didn’t saw him. Adults started laughing and some of my batch mates, embarrassed indeed. Well that’s it the story of my most flustering moment and I’ll forever me remembered. But look at me, even if it somehow traumatized me back then, I’m still doing what I’m good at and what I love. I’m a media practitioner and a host, and I still do a lot of public speaking. You’re experiences in life will shape you for it will serve you as a lesson and motivation don’t get discourage and move forward.

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“Expressing One’s Emotions”

Emotions no matter how hard you try, you cannot control your emotions, only attempt to hide them. Emotions influence every aspect of our lives, what we do, what we say, and so on. All of our emotions, from anger to insecurity, are influenced by several factors, just as our lives are influenced by our emotions. 

As vulnerable teenager and a fragile human being, emotions do really get into us. I expressed my emotions through the use of writing and verbal actions, I usually write what I feel through a poem, a song, an essay or just a simple diary creating short passages about what I feel, what happened on that day and etc. In that way I can release some burdens that wants to come out here inside me. If I can’t control it and it somehow will burst at any point I’m usually vocal on how I feel with my most trusted friends and members of the family. I suggest you’ll do that too, it’s quite effective and you’ll feel this light feather within your chest.

There’s a lot of factors that may trigger our emotions, motions and feelings are central to our life. They allow us to exist and achieve the fullness of our personality by motivating us towards that which is good. However, as a result of traumatic experiences, our emotional life can become disordered. This abnormal expression of emotion can only be understood and addressed by having an adequate understanding of how emotions work and develop within the person. This essay will seek to outline what emotions are, how they develop and how they relate to motivation and thought processes. A brief study of anxiety will seek to show how emotions can become disordered, and the ways in which 'emotional literacy' provides a means of addressing this problem.

While our whole life is built around emotion, many people do not understand what they are or how they develop. Every person has the ability to experience and express emotion. Since emotions are natural, the act of feeling emotion is morally neutral . Each person has some degree of control over what they feel and how they express and share their feelings . Emotional responses are both physiological and psychological. These responses influence perception, learning and performance. Emotions are instruments that aim at "the possession of suitable objects", thus leading us to "reach the perfection of our personality".

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Mind Power – The Power of Thoughts

Mind power or the powers of one’s mind is one of the strongest and most useful powers you possess, together with your imagination you can create success or failure, happiness or unhappiness, opportunities or obstacles. But, this depends on your mindset. Your thoughts are the main ingredient of this power, and when you add to them focus and emotions, thoughts become powerful and can affect your reality.  Human minds is the most powerful for it can so many things. 

Thoughts that pass through your mind are responsible for almost everything that happens in your life. Not all thoughts are equal. Stray ones that you think once or twice cannot do much, but your predominant thoughts, the ones you repeat often, influence your behaviour and attitude, affect your actions and reactions, and shape your reality. As your thoughts are, so is your life. Weak thoughts hardly have any effect, but powerful thoughts can create great changes.

Mind power is composed of your attention, your mental images and your thoughts. Thoughts are energy. Though subtle and invisible, they can affect reality. Just like the wind, which is invisible, but can be powerful, so are your mind and thoughts.

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 “Coping Up With Stress”

Stress is a natural feeling of not being able to cope with specific demands and events. However, stress can become a chronic condition if a person does not take steps to manage it. These demands can come from work, relationships, financial pressures, and other situations, but anything that poses a real or perceived challenge or threat to a person’s well-being can cause stress.Stress can be a motivator, and it can even be essential to survival. The body’s fight-or-flight mechanism tells a person when and how to respond to danger. However, when the body becomes triggered too easily, or there are too many stressors at one time, it can undermine a person’s mental and physical health and become harmful.

As we all know stress is a feeling of emotional or physical tension. It can come from any event or thought that makes you feel frustrated, angry, or nervous. Stress is your body's reaction to a challenge or demand. In short bursts, stress can be positive, such as when it helps you avoid danger or meet a deadline. But when stress lasts for a long time, it may harm your health. At a young age we are still capable of experiencing stress since, in our stage it is where changes occurs and of course experiences and situation that we are experiencing each day, especially in school and at home. We experience stress not just in our mental state but also physical and emotional. Stress is the body’s natural defense against predators and danger. It causes the body to flood with hormones that prepare its systems to evade or confront danger. People commonly refer to this as the fight-or-flight mechanism. When humans face a challenge or threat, they have a partly physical response. The body activates resources that help people either stay and confront the challenge or get to safety as fast as possible. 

Treatment includes self-help and, when an underlying condition is causing stress, certain medications. Therapies that may help a person relax include aromatherapy and reflexology. Some insurance providers cover this type of treatment. However, it is important for people to check coverage with their provider before pursuing this treatment. Knowing the details about a potential treatment can help prevent it from adding to any ongoing stress. 

People may find that the following lifestyle measures can help them manage or prevent stress-induced feelings of being overwhelmed. The suggested are to exercise, reducing the intake of alcohol, drugs, and caffeine, improve your nutrition, improve your priority management and time. Also breathing and relaxation are important, talking to someone to release one’s burdens and acknowledging the signs. People who experience work stress due to long hours may need to “take a step back.” It may be time for them to review their working practices or talk to a supervisor about finding ways to reduce the load. It’s also best to do somethings or hobbies, activities that will help you relax. Cheer up and you can do this!

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 “Responsibilities”

Becoming an adult is not easy, let’s admit some of us are not ready yet for adulthood, in the world where responsibilities are ought to be filled and must be taken seriously thus, to fulfil this responsibilities. So, let us not jump into adulthood but to adolescence. 

Adolescence is the period of transition from childhood to adulthood, involving personality, physical intellectual, and social developmental changes. Puberty signals the beginning of adolescence, and puberty now occurs earlier. The end of this period is associate more so to social and emotional factors. The most important part of adolescence is the identity search. Adolescence develop emotionally and socially. Adolescent thinking level increases. As we grow older one must be familiar on his/her responsibilities and actions, responsibility is the understanding of the consequences, which can be caused by the actions of the person.

Becoming responsible and being able to make good choices are very important traits no matter what developmental stage you are in. It holds true for adolescents especially that they are just beginning to internalize and imbibe virtues, values, and other essential qualities.  It may not be easy to be a teenager. There may be lots of things going on in various facets of their lives. The demands and expectations of their parents and other people around them can also be stressful. But the good news is, they can treat these ‘difficulties’ as ‘challenges’ which can make their life exciting. Having that mindset is also an indication of becoming a responsible and mentally mature adolescent.

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“My Family, My Significant Other”

When you say significant others you say wife, husband, or the person they are having a relationship with but I say my significant others is my family. They are my world, my love and my everything. The one that I cherished the most is my loving, caring and supportive family, they are both my strength and my weakness.

 I believe that family values consist of certain actions and qualities that are important to a family to uphold. Values that are important in my family are honesty, trust and to have respect for others. Each of these values is equally important in my family. They played a big role into making me the person I am now. Growing up in my family taught me how to be determined in everything you do, to dream big and reach your goals in life. My family is my inspiration in reaching my goals and dreams in life, I ought to be successful someday because my success and achievements are my family’s success and achievements.

It's the job of the family to turn out contributing human beings. Acceptance, belonging, connectedness, unity in diversity, responsibility, at-homeness, and empowerment for these are the essence of family. 

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TFB: Thoughts, Feelings and Emotions

We’re often not aware of the impact our feelings and behaviours have on each other, and because of this relationship, changing our behaviours can have a very big effect on our emotions. We can often tackle depression by changing key behaviours especially in our age or ages range from 13 and up or even younger.

So where do thoughts go in? When we talk about thoughts we’re referring to a lot of different mental activities, including wishes, hopes, plans, predictions, judgments and memories. Most of the time we don’t notice our thoughts  they go on in the background, helping us make decisions and carry out many tasks automatically. Sometimes, we become aware of our thoughts for example when we try to work out a puzzle, or remember a specific event, or do a specific task, like write a letter to a friend or learn a new language.

In my own thoughts, feelings and behaviour all are somewhat connected but acts in different ways resulting into unpredictable actions and movements. What we think is different from what we feel thus the behaviour is the effect. Teenagers like us who are still growing, maturing and developing in regards to mental, spiritual and emotional being we are still on the process of changing and maturing. Bases on my own experiences I have encountered such situations that tested my way of thinking or how I decide and do things, events that mixed up my emotions and predicting what should I feel in in a particular matter and in effect I should be aware and know what should be my behaviour, how should I react, act or interact. Regardless, let us learn and must know how to manage this three factors  because the only things we can control in life is our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. If we can manage those, we can achieve our goals and gain success in life. To have this level of control, we need to learn about the science-based patterns behind our emotions and thoughts, and how to manage them. If we know how our minds work, we can be intentional about influencing our thinking and feeling patterns. We can evaluate reality more clearly, make better decisions and improve our ability to achieve our goals. Thus, we gain greater agency and the quality of living intentionally.

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“Me, Myself and I”

Yen Bayotas is my name, 18 from the Philippines! yup, I’m a teenager alright. Teenagers nowadays like me face a lot of challenges almost everyday, I’m speaking in behalf of my generation for today’s time we are somewhat disregarded in regards to our feelings as a human and a child. But before I tell you about something that might change your mindset and perspective let me tell you about myself.

Intro number 2! Again, my name is Yen Bayotas I can be your girl next door and ask me questions about your concerns and maybe, just maybe I can help you. But, always remember only you can help yourself, I’m just here your friend that can give you advices, but not just any advices. I’m a student but I have work also outside the school to be exact. I’m a writer-broadcaster from a radio station here in General Santos CIty, Philippines I’m from the infamous 91.1 Pacman Radio and Voice of the Youth Network and yes you’re right I’m a media practitioner at a young age. I am also an online ambassador who owns pages on Facebook such as the Hey Brew Show,  VOTY and the famous Millennial Seafarers, I also own a online clothing line the infamous Y oh Y Fashion Industry and ought to be successful and open branches from different part in the Philippines.  I’m a local video creator who manages pages such as the Yen Takahashi Gaming and Yen Bayotas and Hey Brew Show. At a young age I have earned a lot of achievements in regards to public speaking and literary writings, You can visit my Instagram for proofs! I’m at @superyennyyy feel free to surf!

Just like a typical teenager, I love to travel in so many different places and go on an adventure. I also love to eat, sleep and repeat haha! I’m into exploring new things but I also love to read novels and burn my time in doing literary works for it is where I’m passionate about. I’m also a social media surfer even if i go through a lot of surfing, I have big dreams and goals in life. I wanted to be this famous lawyer, a successful businesswoman and philanthropist. Well, I guess that’s all you have to know about me there’s probably a lot I guess this is enough well happy reading amigo. 

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Hi! I’m Yen Bayotas from the Philippines! I’m here to tell you about something, and I hope I’ll inspire, motivate and help you especially to my fellow students and teenagers out there. Buckle up!