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TILFT #347:
Never let people’s actual lived experience detract from your loyalty to academic theories. The proper response to a lived experience that falls short of your theory’s outcome is pity, not a rethinking of the usefulness of theory.
#sarcasm
TILFT #346: [ableist c~ slur]
I'm just hating on you for being crazy as balls. There is nothing at all wrong with me doing this.
#sarcasm
I think they're referring to the passing privilege a trans* person has if they were coercively assigned male at birth. They passed and were raised as male, so they didn't have to deal with sexism. Or something?
Speculating on the meaning of things we haven't been exposed to isn't really our strong suit, Anon.
when people talk about passing privilege, are they including the experience that trans people have when they are read as cis members of their assigned sex at birth? cause I'm kind of offended, as a trans person, that anyone ever would consider that to be privilege.
We think it may be a case-by-case thing? Like, the term may be used that way sometimes but not all of the times we've seen it used.
But yeah, that squicks us out majorly, too.
Just as a suggestion, maybe you could put a *sarcasm* disclaimer on your posts for those of us who don't understand it because of the way our brains are wired?
We do have a disclaimer in our sidebar - but looking at a lot of reactions we've gotten, we figure specifically noting that certian posts are sarcastic is probably a good idea.
(We don't want to do this through tags, because those often get erased in reblogs, so we'll probably just end sarcastic posts with "#sarcasm", if this is good for everyone?)
TILFT #345:
Apparently it’s a trend to loathe a new clique every couple of weeks.
TILFT #344:
Being white means you aren’t oppressed in any way, shape, or form. Even if you’re disabled. Or female. Or trans. White privilege erases all these oppressions!
#sarcasm
Use gender-neutral 'they.' It's actually pretty easy to avoid pronouns when you're actually talking to the person, and when you're not, 'they' is a good alternative to misgendering someone.
(For previous Anon)
hidden-agender replied to your post:
I just default to singular they. There are still people who feel misgendered by it but they’re usually quick to say so, and it’s by far the most neutral option out there.
spider-kitty replied to your post:
I just default to “they” until I’m told otherwise.
Any suggestions (seriously!) on avoiding calling people the wrong pronouns? On a forum, I tried asking what pronouns others prefer, and just confused everyone. :/ After a meet up with a group from that forum, I felt so guilty when a guest asked me to use a different set of pronouns when referring to them online then the ones I had in person, and so sad that (guest) felt they couldn't correct me at the time, and waited nearly a month to mention it. :(
We've been mulling over this one for days and we really don't know how to answer. :(
Esteemed followers, any ideas for Anon?
TILFT #343:
Everyone is 1/16 Pocahontas.
What happened to #341? :p
Magic!
(Alternately: Oops. We'll pretend it's the thirteenth floor, shall we?)
TILFT #342:
There is only ever one All Important Cause, and if someone calls me out on something else while I’m defending this cause, then I can dismiss it as derailing, because it’s not about the All Important Cause. I can be as much of an asshole about everything else that is not my All Important Cause, because only MY All Important Cause matters, and everything else can go to hell.
#sarcasm
TILFT #340:
Intent is not magic. …Except when it is.
If someone says that something I’ve posted is offensive, and I don’t see it myself, then I can dismiss their claim. It’s totally cool to use excuses like “I didn’t mean it like that!”, “you’re just being pedantic”, “you missed the point”, or “get some reading comprehension!” to avoid having to explain myself, as well. After all, if I can’t see anything offensive in what I wrote, then obviously you were just reading it wrong, or just looking to get offended.
#sarcasm
TILFT #339:
If something happened more than thirty years ago, nobody is allowed to talk about how racist, misogynist, ableist, etc. that thing is. It was a different time!
#sarcasm
TILFT #338:
If you want to talk about how your personal experiences as a sex worker were awful (or just not that great), you are somehow being anti-sex worker. However, there’s nothing wrong with creating a pro-sex worker culture where nobody is allowed to talk about their own negative experiences without being shouted down. Especially an online culture where pornography workers have a louder and more legitimate voice than survival sex workers.
#sarcasm
TILFT #337:
Wanting to end oppression is a "bullshit ideology".
#sarcasm
TILFT #336:
If I declare that I am "not an SJ blog/blogger", this gives me a free pass to say anything racist, misogynist, ableist, cissexist, or otherwise oppressive that I want to, and nobody can call me out on it. I'm not an SJ blog, you can't call me out about SJ concepts!
#sarcasm