This explains a lot about my lack of asking for help when I clearly need it

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This explains a lot about my lack of asking for help when I clearly need it
“My brother and I were both placed into foster homes at a young age. He was lucky—he went to a family called the Ripleys. I went through four different homes in three years, and each one was worse than the next. I’d get to see my brother every few months. Ms. Ripley would take us for lunch at McDonalds, and that’s when she first noticed the scars all over my body. She immediately made arrangements for me to join their family. Back then the word ‘family’ didn’t mean much to me. But the Ripleys made me feel welcome in their home. Whenever I did something wrong, Ms. Ripley would sit me down and explain why it wasn’t OK. But then she’d say: ‘You’re not going anywhere. Because you belong to us now.’ Shortly after I joined the family, Mr. Ripley was diagnosed with cancer. And later that year he passed away. Ms. Ripley’s entire world fell apart. They’d been high school sweethearts. And now she was alone with two foster kids. Nobody would have blamed her for taking us back. But instead she took us to court and made it permanent. The three of us moved into a single wide trailer in Mississippi, and that’s where she raised us. She worked whatever odd jobs she could find. We never had much, but we went to movies. We had family game nights. She kept us busy with little league and Boy Scouts. She must have been super stressed, but that’s not at all what I remember. I just remember the affirmation that she gave me. It was always: ‘You’re smart.’ And ‘You’re handsome.’ And ‘You survived all that stuff because you’re strong.’ She cried when I joined the Marines, but she knew it was my best chance for a college education. And eventually I graduated from law school. Last year I had a daughter of my own. And that really put me into an emotional tailspin. Because I realized how every little choice I make is going to affect her future. And then I started thinking about how different my life could have been. Because my early development had been the opposite of what a child’s should be. I should be broken, but I’m not. Because thirty years ago my Mom decided to keep me. And somehow, despite all her sadness and heartbreak, she poured enough love into me so that I could heal.”
My boyfriend has two friends that I really like.
They have a friend who is racist.
He has been racist to me.
He makes an ass out of himself regardless of the racism. He likes to talk down on people who “can’t buy a Tesla” and don’t have “the latest Apple Watch.”
They both know how I feel about him.
When we go out, if he’s there, they give me a heads up.
They say he’s fine when he’s around them (white, gay men) but when he’s around others he’s an asshole.
I don’t get it. What kind of friend is that?
It hurts
The following poem is based on a true story:
Let me tell you what hurts the most
I called you best friend, we used to be close
You talk about the issues, as if they are untrue
As if black lives matter personally offends you
I hate to say that I think we’re growing apart
As you deny privileged swiping your parents credit card
A credit card with no limit, you’re a VIP
If only you weren’t limited by how much you chose to see
You scream build the wall from your parents second home
You still stand by him, though he really needs to go
You’ve proven yourself racist, hateful, time and time again
And times like these I think to myself, how are we still friends?
_________
I wrote this two or three years ago and never published it! As of 4 months ago, her and I are no longer friends.
I’m tired.
So very tired.
I work for a company that doesn’t appreciate me doing a job I never wanted to do in the first place. It was my major but nit the branch I wanted to focus on but when you’ve just graduated college, a job in your field is a job in your field.
I’ve been working there for 4 years and they’ve done so many illegal things. Giving people jobs without posting them, rescinding job offers that were accepted but then offering them a lower hiring start rate.
I can’t stand this company.
I’ve been trying to leave for 2 years. Coming up on my 4 year anniversary in a little while.
I’ve changed my resume a million times.
No interview offers yet. Not a single one.
There was a company that wanted more information, but it didn’t go anywhere.
I want to leave my hometown.
I have bills that I can barely pay because my job for not pay me well. I’ve done my market research. I should be making at the very least an additional 10k doing what I do with my skills and experience.
I feel so unwanted. And so stuck. I keep telling my Bf to get a job in one of the cities I could easily find work in that way I can move there and have quicker access to job opportunities. He doesn’t know what he wants to do with his life. So he’s staying at his job that he loves.
He finally has friends, good friends. Good influence on him. He gets paid almost twice as much as me and never even finished college. Maybe I’m feeling a little resentful - I do have two degrees and I’m not even making 40k a year. Plus he loves his coworkers and his boss. I’ve doesn’t want to stay here forever, but in my field, the longer I wait to get into it, the harder it becomes to be successful.
I have a small business that I run. And I’m right now I’m running into the ground because my full time job takes away so much of my energy. Like a dementor sucking the soul from my lips.
I used to come into work on time. Only 5 minutes late. Now I struggle to leave before my shift technically starts. I get such a bad feeling going into that building. Another day of getting taken advantage of by an evil company that’s made a lot of negative press.
It’s quarantine time now. I get to work from home. Something that my job has always told me was impossible in my position. They made it happen in 5 minutes. I struggle to even get through the day. At first it was fine, but then they added even more work on top of what I’m already doing.
I had my review in March. My boss says to keep up the good work. Just gotta go a little faster. I was supposed to get a raise that took effect in April. It’s May. I understand the cut backs from COVID-19 - but I still feel like I should have gotten my raise. I know at least one of my other coworkers did, along with a shiny new title.
Yeah he got promoted. Which is great for him. Doesn’t actually mean much other than the raise and the title. I’ve been trying to get a promotion for 3 years. Usually the same roll but I always lose to either other men at the company or outsiders.
I want to cry right now. I’m in the middle of my shift - yeah I know not great but I need to pour this out before the tears come.
I’m the only girl on my team besides my boss. I am one of the only people of color that works in the whole company.
I’m so tired of trying so hard for this company.
Everyday I wake up wanting to quit. Each night I lay awake, unable to sleep, knowing that when the alarm goes off, it’s another day at the office.i was such a hard working employee until about last spring. Almost exactly a year ago actually.
Two new hires right out of college. I was supposed to train them. I trained everyone except for one guy on my team. I’m the second most senior staff. They were hired on at 40k - and I had gotten a little raise to 36k. Oh but when I found out (one of them was my friend and I asked with complete honesty of my intentions), that’s when it took HR a week to straighten it out, call them up and recind their offer and only offer them 35k. They said it was a paperwork error. I know it wasn’t. I know who has to sign what in order to make that call.
The first time I tried to get a promotion, I trained for the positio and was almost fully qualified. It was great. I was in year in and really moving through the company. Then when the position “opened,” and by that I mean the woman who trained me switched positions herself in the company and I was the only person in the running and she was recommending me, her former boss said that someone else was given, yes given, the position. He knew I had been training for this job and coming in every day just for it. Everyone knew. But he was just given this position and I was left in the dust. There was no job posting, no interview process. It’s just what her former boss though “made the most sense.”
Ouch.
I’m dying inside. I’m a creative who is boxed in. I’m trying to claw my way out, but the world seems so against me.
Every time I submit a job application I stop and think- will they not accept me because I’m a woman? Because I’m black? Is my name too black sounding? Or am I actually not good enough?
Very few of the applications I have put in give me an email back saying I wasn’t selected. At least then I knew. I knew not to hold out any hope on what seemed to be the perfect position.
I’m in a relatively smaller town. Not small, there is a lot major university here. However, not many people have actually heard of our twin name. Are these big city companies afraid to hire a “small-town-girl” like me?
I crave diversity. I crave the fast-paced environment. Every time I go there, I feel at home. Comfortable. I come back to my apartment and I’m sad. It doesn’t feel like home. It feels like a long-term AirBnB. 
I’m so tired. I started crying while writing this. I’m not usually allons in my apartment so I don’t really get to cry when I need to.
I don’t want to work here anymore. All my friends that have left this place praise about how much better their new jobs and situations are. Their jobs have their ups and downs, but it’s nothing like what whatever hell this place is. Everyone who leaves here is happier, full of life, energy, and genuine smiles. I miss that.
I miss the days where I was just so excited to get back to work. So excited to get in and use my creativity to solve my work problems and “save the world.”
I miss getting off work and going to the gym because I was noticed and still had energy to burn. Now about 2 hours into my shift I pray to whatever diety may be listening and beg them for a miracle. And I’m not a religious gal.
I don’t learn a lot of stuff at my job. There really is t time anyway. I dont really grow there. There is no up for me. I’ve tried. 3 times.
I don’t have passion to do my best. Hell im writing this raw fucker on the clock. I don’t take creaks anyway so I guess this counts?
Oh we used to have 60 minutes breaks, they reduced that to 30. Now I can’t have lunch with my dad anymore. But that’s a me problem.
Everyday I “joke” with my boyfriend, “what if I quit?” “What I’d if they fire me? How exciting would that be?”
Why can’t I seem to even land an interview. My former boss (management switched halfway through my career here - 2 years ago almost) told me in a joy to interview and I would do well at any company that I applied to. She said she’d write an outstanding recommendation letter for me. So there is that.
A former employee friend of mine was laid off into her contract. (She has ground to sue but is not). She told me how two faced her side of the company is. How they are so controlling over the women and the men can do no wrong.
That’s exactly it.
This company is not a place for women unless you’re a back-stabbing, two-faced cunt. If you aren’t willing to put other women down (that’s the only real requirement for any female hire-ups/management) then you stay at the bottom or get the boot. Or if you still have any sanity and a prayer, quit.
I’m so upset. Most of the time it seems.
I know the world is an unfair place naturally. I know that the world doesn’t revolve around me.
I’d like yo think that one day I can make the world a better place and that I will be successful in my field.
I’d like to think that someday, I’ll have a job that doesn’t make me think about suicidal thoughts because I’m trapped and I can’t get out.
Now the job market is gonna be even tougher.
I feel trapped in my job and in my own apartment (I have a roommate and live with my boyfriend).
My Bf says it’s all gonna be better someday. When is someday? I’d like to leave my hometown, not live behind my high school, and finally have a job that lot only appreciates me, but also insipires me to be my best.
I’m afraid to ask my male coworkers if they all got raises this year. If they all did and I didn’t, I’m afraid I’d quit immediately. I’m not dealing with this bullshit again. Not worth it. But that’s not the best financial desciok right now.
Why the hell am I not good enough for these companies? I’m one the best on my team. Even on my worst days, I produce quality work.
Why can’t I get out of this cage?
Trigger warning: Want to see what depression looks like? Most of the time, you can’t because it’s happening inside. Feelings of worthlessness, suicide, sadness, and so much more tend not to get vocalized. Darkness lures you in, and you think “I don’t deserve this life, I don’t deserve to be here.” All that emotion and feelings twisting your thoughts, convincing you that suicide is your only way to stop hurting, or that hurting yourself will make it all better. Don’t listen to the darkness, don’t give in, know that your life is just as important as everyone else’s. I know, I’ve been there, sometimes you’re screaming but all that comes out is “I’m fine.” Scream a little louder; we want to hear you and help you. Thanks to @fergflash @pinkymacabre for letting me do this inspiring and powerful photoshoot today. Photography @tmgreyphoto #depression #suicide #wintwrblues #seasonalaffectivedisorder #thisiswhatdepressionlookslike #beautifultragedy #life #conceptualphotography https://www.instagram.com/p/BsRn415nxZz/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=gxio3h92qde1
This was from literally a month ago but it was for Jon’s Birthday. I told him this was an idea 2 years in the making. #spongebob #whatsfunnierthan24 #cake #thankswegmans #wegmanscake #life #birthday #heturned25 https://www.instagram.com/p/BqgPCNfnJtc/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1m0ysszl784d0
I’m wishing a very happy 69th birthday to my dad today. This one is extra special because as some may know, a few months ago, my dad had a tumor removed from his brain. It was about the size of an orange. When we first heard “we found a mass in his brain” I swear the whole family cried, maybe not all on the outside but it was the scariest thing. Now we thought he had been going downhill because of his age and the fact that he’d been sick for a lot of his youth. Nope, turns out it was a god damn tumor. Special shout out to mom because without your motherly instincts and getting dad to the hospital when he thought he was fine, the tumor would have gone unnoticed. A few days after the successful surgery (thank you Hershey Medical), he was back to more than normal. I haven’t seen him so talkative and like actual so alive in a while. He’s beyond better. Last Christmas he wouldn’t even respond to us, couldn’t get dressed by himself, slept all day, never left the house. Now he’s doing all that and more, the radiation treatments to remove any additional tumor pieces are over, and my dad is back. Consciously present and funnier than ever. So happy birthday dad! Here’s to the rest :) #tumorbegone #happybirthday #69yearsyoung #life #daddy #medicalmiracle
About to do some laundry - wish me luck fighting the temptation #temptingtidepode #life #laundry #tidepods #temptation #thestruggleisreal
For anyone who is wondering, because I suck at keeping up with my blog and everything else in life, I've lost 26 pounds so far on weight watchers. #weightwatchers #gettingthere #26poundsdown #life #checkpoint
Day 70
I've officially been on weight watchers for 70 days which is 10 weeks of my 43 week plan (gold star for me). It's been a struggle to double check food before I eat it but I have officially lost 18.5 pounds as of today. Which is right on track. Could have lost a few more but I'm good where I am at. Today I put on a dress I haven't worn in about a month. And it fits better. :) like I'm more comfortable in it than I was over the past few months. It's not as tight in the places it was. Now it just fits.
Share your weight loss struggles
Hey guys! So I'm curious what are your weight loss struggles?
Mine currently:
-I don't exercise enough
-I eat late at night
-I don't eat healthy when I smoke
You're turn.
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Day 44
So I won’t be updating every day, I’ll try to keep you posted every week.
This weekend lesson. Never lie to yourself when you’re trying to improve yourself and your health. It does no one any good. It’s only you who can change and only you who wants to change. Remember that. This past week was the 4th of July. I knew deep down inside that I had gone over. I thought, I can just not report it and everything will be fine. Wrong. Lying to yourself helps no one. In the words of Paramore: “someday you’re gonna be the only one you’ve got.” And that’s so true. Only you can prevent forest fires. No seriously, only you can improve yourself to where you wanna be.
I still struggle late at night with snacks. My favorite snack currently are oyster crackers. They are 2 points per serving, which is 38 crackers. So I can have like 80 crackers at like 4 points. It's great. And on a positive note. After 44 days. I've officially lost 16 pounds. Let's hope my hiccup doesn't ruin that but I'm happy to say that I'm still on track and because of the boost starting Weight Watchers has given me, I'm 4 points ahead of schedule! Woo! Do you guys want to share any struggles in your weight loss?
Week 3
So I am on Day 21. That’s pretty cool. I made it 21 days on weight watchers and I am down 11 pounds. I have been tracking everyday and I remember to check new things if I haven’t eaten them before. I have been saying no to lots of bad foods like cake, ice cream, donuts. Although I did eat one piece of cake the other day. Depending on the type of cake, it can be monstrous for you. It was a goodbye party for a friend and I figured it was worth it. I did have one grocery trip in the past 21 days. I was pretty good about the stuff I got. I can still eat most of the things I ate before, which is good. I still eat later at night, so I need to fill any late eating with healthier and even no-point options. I am DEFINITELY feeling full much sooner. It’s pretty nice. I can actually have about a serving size of something and be okay.
I believe that for each 5 pounds you lose, your point value goes down for the day. I lost 2 points so far, but I also lost 11 pounds so that’s okay. It’s just gonna suck when I am down to like 30 points per day haha
I have a found a new love for yogurt drinks. They fill me up and are DELICIOUS. Once I can go shopping again, I am going to buy a lot more yogurt. I need some veggies in the mix more. I bought grapes. but I need to be able to feel full off of that stuff. I forget that it’s no points for healthy food.
I really need to incorporate exercise. I went swimming, but I am bad at swimming. But its a great way to burn calories. I have a gym membership, but It’s not as close as it was before I moved to my new apartment last year, so I don’t go as frequently. But I will once I get my life a bit more on a regular schedule.
It’s supposed to take me 52 weeks to complete this. Only 49 more to go. I was in my target healthy point count for about 10/20 full days. So I definitely need to watch that. Even if I am only going over a few points, I should be more careful. Here’s to the next 49!
I did a thing. Thanks Vivian! #life #weave #malaysianvirginhair #unicehair #leaveout #hair #bangbang
Day 8
Oh man. I didn't necessarily cheat, but I forgot to look at how much things cost. I just need to get into the habit of looking BEFORE I eat. And I need to go grocery shopping. Can't live off of pretzels....but I can eat a shit ton of them. I do notice some positives. I'm not feeling quite as hungry daily as frequently as I was last week. I think good things are happening