Thyla's grotto

Hey, I'm Thyla! I've been meaning to create a tumblr for years, and finally got around to it after the Great Muskification. I post mostly fandom + queer stuff. I'm queer and nonbinary, and my pronouns are they/them, ze/hir, xe/xem, and ey/em.

[thylacinetears]

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G'day Tumblr, I'm Thyla. Like it says in my bio, I've been meaning to make a tumblr account for ages, and the Great Twitter Incident of 2022 sped that up. Lmao. So I guess I better make an introductory post? My pronouns are they/them/theirs, xe/xem/xirs, ze/hir/hirs, ey/em/eirs. I'm basically nonbinary and queer, but I also use a lot of other labels like demisexual, androgyne, genderqueer, sapphillean, mspec, etc. I am a radical inclusionist - I include all GOOD FAITH queer identities. I have ADHD, and I'm 2e. So ADHD, if fact, that I forgot to put it in this original post and had to edit this lmao. I write fanfic sometimes, but I'm not sure if I'm quite ready to link public social media to my account, lol. I am a young adult, and I'm from Melbourne. I don't feel comfortable disclosing my exact age, my exact location, my AGAB, or my race when online.

I have no DNI - if you're being annoying then I'll block you, and then you can't interact. That's the DNI, lmao. My interests (absolute favourites in italics): YouTube - I watch basically anything Grian, Mumbo Jumbo, PearlescentMoon, or GeminiTay post, including Hermitcraft, the Life Series, 100 hours hardcore, Afterlife SMP. I never got into Empires - well, not before the crossover, lol. I indulge in a bit of Stampy's Lovely World, on occasion. I also like other non-minecraft YouTubers: mostly ContraPoints, Jessie Gender, Luxander, RTGame, Philosophy Tube, Todd In The Shadows, etc. Some politics, some fun stuff. Books - I read a lot of fantasy, YA, and queer books. My favourites include the Grishaverse series by Leigh Bardugo, The Atlas Series by Olivie Blake, the Old Kingdom series by Garth Nix, the Nevermoor series by Jessica Townsend, The List duology by Patricia Forde, Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda and related books by Becky Albertalli, and many of Rick Riordan's books. One of my favourite books/series of all time is the Lionboy trilogy by Zizou Corder. It's super underrated! Movies & TV - I love anything sci-fi, fantasy, or animated! Particularly Doctor Who, Firefly, Good Omens, Heartstopper, Kipo and the Age of Wonderbeasts, Star Wars, Star Trek (Discovery, Strange New Worlds, Enterprise), Pixar, Studio Ghibli, Dead Poets Society... you get the idea. Music - Basically anything that's vaguely pop, indie, electronic, etc. My favourite artists include 100 gecs, Alice Glass, BANKS, Billie Eilish, BLACKPINK, Cavetown, Coldplay, Dua Lipa, many Eurovision artists, FKA twigs, Hozier, Lorde, Maneskin, MARINA, Mars Argo, Mitski, Olivia Rodrigo, Paramore, S10, Tame Impala, Taylor Swift, Troye Sivan, Vance Joy, Vera Blue... Musicals & Theatre - I've seen a couple, my favourite is Come From Away! Other things - As you can guess, I love thylacines! I like most animals, really. I particularly love Keeshonds and other Spitz-type dogs - I have a Keeshond and he's the most gorgeous doggy in the whole wide world. Things I haven't finished yet, so please no spoilers - The Owl House

Wow, that's a long post. If you made it this far, um, congrats?

[apocherri]

by 2036 all boys will realize theyre actually girls and all girls will realize theyre actually boys except ☝️those that realize they are neither. complete transgender world domination

[princecroutons]

does croutons know how to count to 4

his mind is unburdened by the concept of basically everything

[luxiomahariel]

i think i got a little too silly

[ludledudle]

a lot of trans women still have a bunch of just straight up misogyny to unpack and unlearn but yall don't wanna have that conversation. it seems a lot of them don't really feel the need to tbh. they just dress it up in progressive sounding language and terms (TMA/TME) or just straight up insults (theyfabs, cuntboys, etc.). it was never about combating transmisogyny or uplifting their trans sisters, it was just about finding a "correct" target for their rebranded misogyny plus a heaping new dose of transandrophobia. yaaaaaaay.

[ear-a-corn]

We have always existed, and we always will.

[grabmy-bat]

just one more loop, we can get her out this time. just one more loop, she won't get hurt this time. just one more loop, she won't lose to herself this time. just one more loop, i'll be fast enough this time. just one more loop, i wasn't ready to let go. just one more loop, i need to see the look in her eyes again. just one more loop, the warmth of the fire is the only comfort of home. just one more loop, we'll save her from that city. just one more loop, time is starting to kill me and remembering is starting to wear me down. just one more loop, i still have hope.

[storm-of-feathers]

yeah yeah rainbow capitalism is bad and whatever but like. when I was a child, being pro gay was not the popular or lucrative choice. I'm happy that times have changed.

[storm-of-feathers]

I miss rainbow capitalism. I do. I miss when it felt like public opinion was still pro gay. I understand it was always an empty gesture, but it mattered in a sense of knowing how socially acceptable being queer is. If that makes sense.

[trying-trying2lyk]

i love writing out numbers and then putting them in parentheses like "one (1)" even when i dont need to i think its funny

[justatiredlittlesnail]

[lewadny]

happy june to everyone, especially my fellow aroaces

[lewadny]

Listen

LISTEN

I'M SCREAMING THE MAIN SEQUENCE *IS* THE AROACE FLAG WHAT

[quasi-normalcy]

I've reached the point where cynicism is a major turn-off for me. You're not smarter than idealists, and you're not helping.

[quasi-normalcy]

Funny that the stereotypical cynic is an idealist who aged out of it. In my experience, the reverse is true. I was an extreme cynic as a teenager and then I noticed how profoundly limiting it was, and also that "cynics are cool and smart" was a message that was being constantly reinforced by corporate media for some reason.

[quasi-normalcy]

#yes! cynicism reads as very juvenile to me#and yes prev often stemming from teen pain

Yeah, like I see black-pilled people on here and my default reaction isn't "oh, these must be world-weary old warriors who've lost their faith in humanity", it's "these people are in their 20s and need a hobby"

[quasi-normalcy]

I also think that the present era has proven that authoritarian leaders don't actually want a population of wide-eyed idealists, they want a population of jaded assholes who are convinced that everyone is lying, any resistance is either a scam or doomed to failure, and nothing can ever get better.

[gaybichon]

not even funny how true this is for me

[orbsteeb]

its the year 2013 and you can 3dprint a dildo that is also a bong and Dennys has a tumblr and most phones have TWO cameras now, one on the front and one on the back and there is a nonzero chance that we will have a reality show set in space within 5 years.

it appears that gentle death still stands sentinel at the end of our lives and casts a shadow back over us as if he were interposed between us and a fantastic radiance but OTOH crowdsourcing has made it incredibly easy to buy a “minimalist wallet” made of aircraft-grade aluminium weave and hey

dennys has a tumblr, so you can keep up with dennys, and new dennys developments, in realtime

[mangled-by-disuse]

in happier pride news i actually found this deeply heartwarming

that's solidarity baybeeee

[lgbtlaughs]

Further context: Durham city council (Reform UK) cut funding and support for Pride. The Durham Miner's Association and other trade unions raised enough money for Durham Pride 2026 to go ahead - a direct call back to when Lesbian and Gays Support the Miners (LGSM) raised money for mining communities when Margaret Thatcher seized union funding during the miner strikes of 1984-85.

At the 1985 Labour party meet, the motion to support LGBT rights as a party was passed due to a block vote from mining unions.

Stephen Guy, the chair of the Durham Miners’ Association, said that when it became apparent Durham Pride was under threat, he took it upon himself to “encourage the trade union movement to step up and do the right thing, and stand shoulder to shoulder with the LGBT+ community […] They not only raised funds for us, but came to our communities, uplifted our spirits when they were down, and showed their solidarity.”

[nonetoon]

Everyone meet just a normal goose :)

[nonetoon]

Glad you guys like this totally normal goose!

[nonetoon]

I am making everyone remember normal goose

[nonetoon]

Well, I can not find the original separate post of this so I’m just going to tack these on here

[thishumanformislimiting]

@milk-is-stable

[miniangel]

miffy with a pearl earring i adore you

[sodomit]

A rework of a graph I came up with a long time ago that describes my idea of gendered privilege vs oppression.

The idea I am trying to express here is that trans people typically start transition in the "bad [assigned label]" category and then drop down to the gender failure zone. Those few who are very lucky can eventually come out on the other side in the "bad [other label]" category. But nobody makes it to the top, and most still stay in the gender failure zone.

I think it explains some phenomena rather well, like all trans people regardless of identity being affected by all types of transphobia, or conditional male privilege that a certain narrow sector of western trans men is talking about. It also differentiates between the concepts of the bottom of the hierarchy and an underclass of womanhood.

I still feel like the graph is lacking in certain aspects, because I like the terminology "good man" vs "bad man", but I need to make it more clear somehow that it refers to social roles rather than gender identities.

Has anyone ever coined a term that refers to being judged by norms of a certain gender, rather than identifying as that gender?

Side note, I am aware of the work by Nora Hikari, but I don't consider mine to be a branch off of hers. We make some different conclusions (e.g. 5 categories vs 3, or her directly calling hers "genders", while I'm trying to avoid it) and plus, I started working on mine around 2020-2021.

[ashley-is-missing]

they actually just dont even consider being stealth a possibility. wow. de-medicalization have gone so far people dont even consider successful transition.

[sodomit]

Being stealth does not give you position comparable to cis people, cos you're still dealing with unique health issues, have trauma from many years of exposure to transphobia, and are still at risk of being outed.

Privilege isn't just "people see you as cis and are nice to you". It's the hardships you might face all alone and the way that affects your other life choices. Like you can't travel abroad with your friends if you're on DIY HRT. Or you have to avoid unverified doctors because they might out you and your physical health suffers more than an average cis person's. Or the way everything costs money, so if you don't start out very rich, you probably spend on transition the money a cis person would use for better housing or more high quality medical services. And all that stuff adds up to why you might fail performing some necessary social protocols. And it's gonna affect your life even if people have no idea you're trans.

And you also gotta acknowledge how being stealth to begin with requires more resources than the overwhelming majority of trans people has. Legislation that allows you to change gender marker, for example.

[ashley-is-missing]

i dont know what its like in the west, thank god. i dont have any "trauma" from transphobia, because its not something that you get, trauma is a more serious thing than that. you must confuse being stealth with passing. being stealth means NOBODY knows. not close ones, not friends. you are functionally cissexual by this point. there is no risk of being outed because, ideally, those medical records are sealed and done with. most doctors dont even know you are transsexual, because it is not relevant, and very rarely is. being on DYI is a whole other can of worms, i have very mixed feelings about it as a whole. being transsexual is just a medical condition that you have to live with and treat. some cissexuals have other conditions that eat up a lot of the money(of course, in normal countries the treatment for those is free for those with the diagnosis)

[sodomit]

I don't live in the west.

I also have no idea why you don't think being on the receiving end of transphobia for years isn't traumatizing. If it wasn't for you, cool, but other people aren't you.

Being outed is something that could happen regardless of whether someone knows by your choice. Transition leaves specific traces that someone who's performing various medical procedures on you may notice. Scars, or absence of scars where they should be, atypically positioned organs, and other stuff.

Also, what do you realistically expect trans people to do? Cut off ties with everyone they knew as a kid/teen/young adult, move cities, get an entirely different education from scratch? You do realize how hard it is to just avoid everyone who may have known you pre transition?

[ashley-is-missing]

people being mean to you isnt going to give you trauma. you dont get trauma from "being on the receiving end of transphobia". being upset isnt trauma.

there is no ultimate "trans mark" and everything can always be explained. there is not a single medical procedure that only transsexuals get, not a single one. some people are visibly trans, and thats just failed transition.

and yes, actually, i do expect people who want to be completely stealth to get a completely new life, and dont see it as anything out of the ordinary. why are you saying it like its something outrageous? its not.

[sodomit]

I don't think you understand how trauma works. Or what transphobia looks like in daily life.

It's not about whether you can explain something, it's about whether someone who has an ability to fuck up your life will suspect it.

You sound very detached from how poor people live.

[ashley-is-missing]

i was raised in poverty and war. i know full well what trauma is and how poor people live. you just never really had trauma, and it shows. as ive said, transsexuality is but a condition that we have to treat ourselves.

although i do have a sneaking suspicion about you, and that makes me not care about any struggles you might have went through. but im not sure about that yet, maybe you are just retarded

[sodomit]

"You never had trauma, but if you did, you deserve it" just say you ran out of arguments next time.

[transandrosis]

Wow, it's never okay to tell someone that they weren't traumatized just because you think their trauma wasn't bad enough. I mean, your use of the r-slur cancels out any respect I had for your opinion.

But I have trauma from years of queerphobia (losing friends, being bullied and harassed and ostracized, being treated differently than others, etc). Most queer people I know have experienced even worse. It's really not okay to invalidate my trauma or the trauma of any other trans or queer person.

You (not OP) are the kind of person who would claim that emotional and verbal abuse "don't count" as trauma because they weren't physical.