All that's left behind

21, they/them/their, queer, biracial (Japanese/white), stormer, cat lover, makeup lover, flower lover. Dubbed tiny terror extraordinaire by Martina. I've gotten into studying astrology, but the memes are fun too.

[fightsinlipstick]

Every time I see “guilt” or “sin” associated with food I roll my eyes so hard I’m worried they’re going to get stuck.

“5 Super Bowl Snacks you Don’t Have to Feel Guilty About!” Dear God Brenda just eat the nachos. They’re special, they make you happy, and some nachos for the Super Bowl are not going to make or break anything.

By all means, make the lettuce wraps too, but do so because they’re healthy and yummy, maybe they align with your goals better. But guilt and shame and sin shouldn’t never be associated with food. It is not healthy. It should not be normalized.

Food does not have morality. Food does not change your worth as a person.

[just-shower-thoughts]

People who think that phones ruined genuine human interaction are too socially oblivious to understand people are ignoring them because they’re annoying

[threebigolsausages-deactivated2]

important kitten noises

[cheaphalloweencostume]

my one coworker (the one who listens to Rick & Morty dubstep) is a notoriously messy eater and brings insane amounts of snacks and candy to work every day and just leaves them around, open, crumbs everywhere, for someone else to deal with

anyway today she said ants laid eggs in her purse

[cheaphalloweencostume]

for everyone confused about Rick & Morty dubstep: it’s full episodes worth of dialogue remixed into dubstep

[cheaphalloweencostume]

I had to take out the bathroom garbage and one of them was full of ants from fucking Ants Purse Johnson

[bogleech]

Reblogging for the incredibly rare and unique variety of information in this post. I don’t think this combination of facts is ever going to be repeated together or ever has been.

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[just-shower-thoughts]

It’s 2018,Having your microwave not beep when finished should be an option.

[c0ssette]

John William Waterhouse,Echo and Narcissus (detail) 1903.

[capacity]

Im just over here protecting my aura

[sleepbby]

I do not believe in relationship permanence and that’s totally fine by me!!! being w someone for the time that remains enjoyable and feels good (whether that a month, a year or 20 yrs) is all that I expect from life! I don’t believe there’s 1 person im meant to be w the rest of my life bc it’s simply unrealistic. I will love who I love for the time that im given w them and that’s true love imo

[aendor]

[ltc-kilgore-deactivated20181027]

[this-is-psychosis]

Therapists aren’t people who you “pay to pretend to care about you”, therapists are people you pay to teach you how to care for yourself

[voce-morti]

Me: I am violently depressed.

Therapist: Oh! Sounds like you need to do YOGA! That will help!

Me: *signs up for yoga*

Me: *is violently depressed in Downward Dog*

[mx-mythical-deactivated20260319]

Me: I hate myself and only see my flaws

Therapist: ok lets refocus on things you like about yourself. This week i want you to try and journal about good things you’ve for yourself and others.

Me: *does the homework* yeah but i still hate myself but feel bad cause i shouldn’t

Therapist: feeling like you shouldn’t hate yourself is a step in the right direction. Mental health is complex and isn’t something that will ~magically~ improve. We have a lot of hard work head of us but I’ll be here to help you.

TL;DR stop perpetuating the idea that therapy is unhelpful because the results are not instantaneous.

[projectqueer]

Puerto Rico's Most Vulnerable Are Still Waiting For Help 7 Weeks After Maria

Some of those most in need are undocumented immigrants, many from the Dominican Republic who have been discriminated against in the past.

[raptorific]

I just saw two babies encounter each other in public while being carried by their respective moms and they both waved at each other like when the bus driver sees another bus. Good on you, babies, for recognizing that you are a baby and showing solidarity with other babies

[unbelievingezra]

[bananapeppers]

On a more individual level, when a person attempts to rid themselves of all vindictive feelings, [Jeffrie G.] Murphy (2000) points out that they may also be letting go of self-respect, self-defense, and allegiance to a moral order. He argues that the passion for revenge is not necessarily a human evil. Forgiveness theorists have not properly addressed that point.

To take this point a bit further, forgiveness theorists have been unwilling to seriously consider the positive effects of negative emotions. They begin from a standpoint that emotions such as resentment, vengefulness, and anger are bad because they make people feel bad. While forgiveness therapy as outlined by Enright and Fitzgibbons (2000) is specifically designed to “treat anger,” we are not so sure why anger must be treated and why it is bad for a person. Carol Tavris (1982) has splendidly pointed out that anger often seems wrong to us when a person in an inferior position feels the emotion and right when a superior expresses it.

Sharon Lamb, introduction to Before Forgiving: Cautionary Views of Forgiveness in Psychotherapy, edited by Lamb and Murphy (New York: Oxford University Press, 2002), 8.

bolding mine. @auntbutch relatedly to the passages you just posted.

[bananapeppers]

Arguments for forgiveness that aim at a release from anger are aimed also at a kind of conformity over what “mental health” in women has been defined as. Psychological research has long showed us that women who are angry and resentful are viewed by the mental health profession as unhealthy (Becker, 1997; Burstow, 1992). Gender conformity then is “met” when a woman forgives her wrongdoer and lets go of resentment, even at the cost of self-respect.

With these role expectations, can we tell the difference between pseudoforgiveness and the sincere forgiveness that arises from self-respect and acceptance of anger as a part of who we are? I would argue that the letting go of anger and resentment that is a part of so many definitions of forgiveness is in and of itself unhealthy for women. Forgiveness professionals play into stereotypes of the “good” woman when they help her to experience her anger and then move beyond it. Instead, the integration of anger and aggression with their identity, even as a compassionate, caring person, is ideal for women who have been brought up in this culture.

Also, it is clear that forgiveness advocates make some moral judgment about those who “refuse” to forgive. A female victim’s character may be impugned because of her response to a wrongdoing, when the victim herself did not do wrong. There is more of an obligation for women in this culture to forgive because it supports their role in society. Those who deviate from role expectations are generally judged harshly.

Lamb. “Women, Abuse, and Forgiveness: A Special Case”. in Before Forgiving, 164.

[lesbianhaircut]

psych majors should be required to kick it with a mentally ill person for at least 80 hours just to be reminded that we are human and not experiments

[tempest-caller]

As both a psych major and a mentally ill person I cannot begin to tell you how many people I have met in my classes who make me concerned for the safety and health of mentally ill people everywhere, especially the young children who struggle.